Community > Dating & Relationships

Topic: Could YOU?
PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Wed 02/29/12 03:41 PM
I am wondering if this is not really a bottom line question? I suppose for everyone the answer is different. As I get older the things I might have given someone a chance on has shorten considerably. Probably because I have learned over the years that some choices make life intoelrable. Jaust as some situations. I am not going to live with anyone who breaks the law and is going to but me agaist the system. Police may just be doing the job but I am not having them do a job on me. I am not going to deal with someone who can't live without tobacco/alcohol. Yet to see anyone it imporved their behavior or made them more desireable to be with. Both have a stench when it is on the or in the body that is repulsive. Since I am not into self inflicted disability and I have done more than my share of caregiving I am not starting out a relationship for what is left of my life that includes someone who has partied hard for years and then wants me to pay the price for it. I am not going to knowingly live with and adulter. If I can resist temptation then so can he. Considering the real statistics for what is out there I don't need to invite any more medical issues, crazy jealous lovers, or more unwanted children into my golden years. My feeling if he has time for someone else he isn't spend ing what time he has for me. This goes for anyother kind of addiction. The same premis I feel he is entitled to claim. I am not going to live with a religious zealot. Faith is fine but if his faith gets into dictateing mine well see ya. I am not going to deal with pornography. I realize it is legal I just find it offensive and and doubt most of it is legal when it gets right down to it so I choose not to deal with it in a partner's life choices. I don't want a dare devil either. It is hard enough to build relationships and even hard to readjust to life when one ends for normal reasons so thrilling as it might be for someone else not a threat I want to deal with.

tweedy711 Joined Thu 07/26/07 Posts: 62	Wed 02/29/12 03:44 PM
That depends. Are we talking about leaving the toilet seat up and the cap off the toothpaste? Or burying bodies in the backyard? lol

tweedy711 Joined Thu 07/26/07 Posts: 62	Wed 02/29/12 03:46 PM
Thank you for accepting all the things that I am...my dear future imaginary boyfriend. yes thank u my future boyfriend. thank u for accepting me with all my flaws, thank u.

tweedy711 Joined Thu 07/26/07 Posts: 62	Wed 02/29/12 03:57 PM
when human beings would accept the fact that NO-ONE ON THIS EARTH IS PERFECT, I have learned that every person has some kind of issue in their life. some people have more issues than others. none of us r perfect we all have flaws. DON'T JUDGE OTHERS BASED ON THERE FLAWS SOMETIMES ITS NOT THERE FAULT.

FeelinGroovy83 Joined Thu 02/23/12 Posts: 6	Wed 02/29/12 06:55 PM
This is where open and honest communication over a long period of time before making a leap is a good thing. Even then, people grow and change, and not always in the same direction.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/29/12 07:04 PM
Thank you for accepting all the things that I am...my dear future imaginary boyfriend.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/29/12 07:06 PM
Make the determination, to choose your love to be for life. IF, they had little silly habits or quirks,,,that bothered you? Could YOU,,look passed them, and still except them,, or COULD THAT. Be a STOPPER? some I could accept - some prolly not...I would assume that by the time I realize that someone is the "love of my life" I would have some idea of that person's quirks by then anyway...and know that I could accept those to be able to make that decision about them

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/29/12 07:07 PM
This is where open and honest communication over a long period of time before making a leap is a good thing. Even then, people grow and change, and not always in the same direction. yabut at some point ya gotta leap! but I agree a little research first only helps~

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Wed 02/29/12 08:30 PM
Make the determination, to choose your love to be for life. IF, they had little silly habits or quirks,,,that bothered you? Could YOU,,look passed them, and still except them,, or COULD THAT. Be a STOPPER? This is an excellent question T....I'm thinking silly little quirks or habits are deal breakers ONLY when you're NOT in love but just thinking you are...Know what I mean?.....If you are in love, those silly little quirks that might drive someone else to distraction don't bother you at all and can even be things you find endearing or charming in your partner....This is the beauty of love... A very TRUE statement as for MANY who have lived to know this,,Thanks Leigh..

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Wed 02/29/12 08:31 PM
Make the determination, to choose your love to be for life. IF, they had little silly habits or quirks,,,that bothered you? Could YOU,,look passed them, and still except them,, or COULD THAT. Be a STOPPER? I could/would overlook them because he'd have to put up with mine A SHARED over-looking,,,lol YES,,I like this as to have THAT mind-set to believe in,,TY

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Wed 02/29/12 08:34 PM
Pfffft. I think love means always taking the WHOLE package. Or not. Flaws are wrapped up, like old flags, and put away. You know where they are, but they serve no purpose. Never to be mentioned. I love the sum total of his parts. I never wish that one thing or another would disappear, for fear that might detract from what makes him who he is. True love sees, but believes. WISDOM,,comes through the witness of many lived moments THIS is very much,,to many, the LIVING results of LOVE shared..TY

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Wed 02/29/12 08:48 PM
Hahaha that would have to be put out in detail before I would say that love would conquer all........... My ex could not seem to keep his pants zipped up lets see deal breaker or love conquers all ??????? There are many quirks that can be overlooked some tend to turn into big quirks that have to be dealt with that love can not overcome.... [/quot Infidelity,,would be just a BIT more than a quirk,,, BUT,,,pants ALWAYS unzipped,,,NOW THATS another story,,

miko1960 Joined Thu 06/11/09 Posts: 554	Wed 02/29/12 09:13 PM Edited by miko1960 on Wed 02/29/12 09:15 PM
Everyone has a few bad habits, if they are mostly minor annoyance, and if you really care for the person, it shouldn't really matter in the long term, that is if you are able to live with these minor things, a lot of people however are very thinned skinned, I think if you can't make a few compromise's or have some toleration in a relationship, then that could be viewed as being controlling. We all have deal breakers however, also I can understand if a persons bad habits are to consisted, that can become very frustrating, I use to have a very bad habit of waking in a foul mood every morning, which as you can guess put a strain on my relationship, eventually I found that I was addicted to caffeine, my ex had noticed by 2nd. cup I was in a better mood,if a bad habit is causing a strain in your relationship, then an behavior adjustment needs to be made, just thought I throw this one out there, may be a little off topic. PEACE

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Thu 03/01/12 12:32 AM
Make the determination, to choose your love to be for life. IF, they had little silly habits or quirks,,,that bothered you? Could YOU,,look passed them, and still except them,, or COULD THAT. Be a STOPPER? depends upon the quirk if we are talking nashing teeth while sleeping, that can be worked with if we are talking doing the horizontal mambo with anything that has two legs and two holes beneath the waist,,,,thats a deal breaker,,lol

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Thu 03/01/12 01:29 AM
Thank you for accepting all the things that I am...my dear future imaginary boyfriend. I have an imaginary cowboy . . . . His name is Hank and he say Yes Mamm and Yippie!!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Thu 03/01/12 01:43 AM
Make the determination, to choose your love to be for life. IF, they had little silly habits or quirks,,,that bothered you? Could YOU,,look passed them, and still except them,, or COULD THAT. Be a STOPPER? This is an excellent question T....I'm thinking silly little quirks or habits are deal breakers ONLY when you're NOT in love but just thinking you are...Know what I mean?.....If you are in love, those silly little quirks that might drive someone else to distraction don't bother you at all and can even be things you find endearing or charming in your partner....This is the beauty of love... what are you talking about??? I don't have any little quirks

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Thu 03/01/12 01:48 AM
I can't put up with any quirks. my woman has to be perfect

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 03/01/12 06:23 AM
I can't put up with any quirks. my woman has to be perfect hmmmm well I like your wallpaper anyway!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 03/01/12 06:48 AM Edited by singmesweet on Thu 03/01/12 06:49 AM
If they were just silly habits and quirks and I was really into them, sure. Obviously, it comes down to what these quirks actually are, though.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Thu 03/01/12 06:53 AM
I can't put up with any quirks. my woman has to be perfect That is one hell of an Expectation... Good Luck with that one