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Topic: Is this a date?
MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 02:49 PM
So I'm meeting my ex tonight but this time we're going out to dinner. Something we didn't get around to doing last time. I know we're not going there but I can't help but think this might sound like a date. I guess I am agreeing to meet him at this restaurant tonight. Last time we saw each other it was so short, but it was fun, you know, no pressure at least of getting dolled up or what have when you go out in public.

But I find myself getting ready for it as I would a date. Is this weird?

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Sun 01/29/12 02:50 PM
no because it is a date

Totage's photo
Sun 01/29/12 02:54 PM

So I'm meeting my ex tonight but this time we're going out to dinner. Something we didn't get around to doing last time. I know we're not going there but I can't help but think this might sound like a date. I guess I am agreeing to meet him at this restaurant tonight. Last time we saw each other it was so short, but it was fun, you know, no pressure at least of getting dolled up or what have when you go out in public.

But I find myself getting ready for it as I would a date. Is this weird?



Yes it is weird, at least that seems to be how you feel. Is there a reason you should feel this way?

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Sun 01/29/12 03:01 PM
what is weird about getting ready for a date as if it were a date?ohwell

ybcat1's photo
Sun 01/29/12 03:01 PM
Edited by ybcat1 on Sun 01/29/12 03:02 PM

So I'm meeting my ex tonight but this time we're going out to dinner. Something we didn't get around to doing last time. I know we're not going there but I can't help but think this might sound like a date. I guess I am agreeing to meet him at this restaurant tonight. Last time we saw each other it was so short, but it was fun, you know, no pressure at least of getting dolled up or what have when you go out in public.

But I find myself getting ready for it as I would a date. Is this weird?



Doesn't sound weird to me. You want to look your best, and it sounds like a date to me. Hope you by the time you read these you had a good time. :smile:

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Sun 01/29/12 03:33 PM
Sounds like you are confused, do you have a thing for him??? spock

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 03:57 PM


So I'm meeting my ex tonight but this time we're going out to dinner. Something we didn't get around to doing last time. I know we're not going there but I can't help but think this might sound like a date. I guess I am agreeing to meet him at this restaurant tonight. Last time we saw each other it was so short, but it was fun, you know, no pressure at least of getting dolled up or what have when you go out in public.

But I find myself getting ready for it as I would a date. Is this weird?



Yes it is weird, at least that seems to be how you feel. Is there a reason you should feel this way?


Yeah, sorta unconfronted feelings I had for him a while back that he never knew about.

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Sun 01/29/12 03:57 PM

no because it is a date


^ This

No matter what you may think of it as, it is still honestly a date.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 03:58 PM


So I'm meeting my ex tonight but this time we're going out to dinner. Something we didn't get around to doing last time. I know we're not going there but I can't help but think this might sound like a date. I guess I am agreeing to meet him at this restaurant tonight. Last time we saw each other it was so short, but it was fun, you know, no pressure at least of getting dolled up or what have when you go out in public.

But I find myself getting ready for it as I would a date. Is this weird?



Doesn't sound weird to me. You want to look your best, and it sounds like a date to me. Hope you by the time you read these you had a good time. :smile:


This is what I initially thought. Maybe its just my nerves of going out and looking my best in public. Thanks! Should be later on tonight...

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:00 PM

Sounds like you are confused, do you have a thing for him??? spock


Unfortunately yes but we agreed to be friends for now since he's going through some weird times in his life. But I'm happy he's able to at least hang out.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:00 PM

what is weird about getting ready for a date as if it were a date?ohwell


Because he's an ex, but currently a friend that I still have some feelings for.

krupa's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:05 PM
You already know my feelings on this....

Got $20 that says you will be crying over this in less than a year....



Is it a "Date"?

You tell us.


A "Date"...bears the possibility of sex. If there is no possibility of sex...you are just hanging out.


You going on a date or are you going to hang out with a friend?

Totage's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:08 PM
I see. It's understandable to feel a bit weird/nervous about that, but if you are both clear on what the relationship and boundaries are, and are able to accept and respect it, I don't see why there should be any issues.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:12 PM

You already know my feelings on this....

Got $20 that says you will be crying over this in less than a year....


Is it a "Date"?

You tell us.

A "Date"...bears the possibility of sex. If there is no possibility of sex...you are just hanging out.


You going on a date or are you going to hang out with a friend?


Yeah, just friends. But we're having dinner, just us. His son is with the babysitter and he's getting out of the house for once. I don't plan on having sex tonight so scratch that one off the list of expectations.

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Sun 01/29/12 04:14 PM


what is weird about getting ready for a date as if it were a date?ohwell


Because he's an ex, but currently a friend that I still have some feelings for.


all that may be true but don't over think it - you are getting ready because it is a date - a date to hang out or a date for more - who knows

but know he will not even bother unless he believes there's a chance he'll divine booty....jus sayin'

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:14 PM

I see. It's understandable to feel a bit weird/nervous about that, but if you are both clear on what the relationship and boundaries are, and are able to accept and respect it, I don't see why there should be any issues.


I'm making it more of an issue I guess with my behavior. I do want to look really nice. I normally wouldn't care if I'm going out with friends, just wear something casual, but cool too. I just hope I don't snap in front of him and start confessing everything.

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Sun 01/29/12 04:14 PM


You already know my feelings on this....

Got $20 that says you will be crying over this in less than a year....


Is it a "Date"?

You tell us.

A "Date"...bears the possibility of sex. If there is no possibility of sex...you are just hanging out.


You going on a date or are you going to hang out with a friend?


Yeah, just friends. But we're having dinner, just us. His son is with the babysitter and he's getting out of the house for once. I don't plan on having sex tonight so scratch that one off the list of expectations.


...don't shave your legs...that may help your resolve flowerforyou

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:16 PM



what is weird about getting ready for a date as if it were a date?ohwell


Because he's an ex, but currently a friend that I still have some feelings for.


all that may be true but don't over think it - you are getting ready because it is a date - a date to hang out or a date for more - who knows

but know he will not even bother unless he believes there's a chance he'll divine booty....jus sayin'


ahh, learning all the tricks of the trade. just saying i think there was a reason he avoided going out in public, maybe it might have been weird. i guess. who knows?

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 01/29/12 04:18 PM



You already know my feelings on this....

Got $20 that says you will be crying over this in less than a year....


Is it a "Date"?

You tell us.

A "Date"...bears the possibility of sex. If there is no possibility of sex...you are just hanging out.


You going on a date or are you going to hang out with a friend?


Yeah, just friends. But we're having dinner, just us. His son is with the babysitter and he's getting out of the house for once. I don't plan on having sex tonight so scratch that one off the list of expectations.


...don't shave your legs...that may help your resolve flowerforyou


laugh I always do that regardless of whatever I'm doing.

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Sun 01/29/12 04:18 PM




what is weird about getting ready for a date as if it were a date?ohwell


Because he's an ex, but currently a friend that I still have some feelings for.


all that may be true but don't over think it - you are getting ready because it is a date - a date to hang out or a date for more - who knows

but know he will not even bother unless he believes there's a chance he'll divine booty....jus sayin'


ahh, learning all the tricks of the trade. just saying i think there was a reason he avoided going out in public, maybe it might have been weird. i guess. who knows?


follow your heart but remember he's a guy:wink:


and you're not (for which he is most likely thankful)laugh

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