If you had a friend or family member that was being unfaithful would you
tell their spouse or would you look the other way?

Answer only after you have thought about what will happen on the long
run and how you will be caught up in the middle "like always"
Think about how you will feel when they get back together and you are
left wondering "what the hell"

Think about if they dont get back together and now the kids dont see mom
or dad very often

Think about how you would feel if you dont say anything and it goes on
for years

Think about how you would feel if the sposue ended up with aids or some
disease because the last one he or she had a disease.

So my point is, think about it all before you say if you would tell then
or not.

i would definitely tell them if i knew they were being unfaithful. i
would want them to do the same thing for me.

After much thought, I must agree with Kingbreeze.

I would want to know as well. Few things are worse than "being the last
to know." Especially when it is about infidelity. Trust me, I know.

Besides, the person who got cheated on would most likely be upset if
s/he knew that you knew and didn't say a word to him/her.

No one ever said that the truth was always easy....

Fist I would talk to the person doing the cheating and let them know
that they have 1 chance and only 1 chance to tell their spouse, bf , gf
.Then I will take the matter into my own hands and tell the person whos
being cheated on. You gotta give the offender a chance at honesty.

i agree with that. it is also a good idea to be sure that they are
cheating or you can do more harm than good.

I agree with CC...talk to the person that is cheating or being
unfaithful...let the prson know that if they dont tell, you will,
especially if it is a friend or relative getting the runaround. But,
what if they say, well, it was a one time thing and it'll never happen
again...then what? I guess you have to jsut use your best judgement.
Never jump to conclusiins though, have PROOF, not "I think"...
I had a very good friend confess to me that she had cheated on her
husband, and I could not understand why. He was so good to her...I knew
them both well, but I did not tell him...she said it was a one time
thing and it would not happen again...a year later...they are divorced
because he caught her with another man...did I do the right thing by
keepiong quit...no, I dont think so...
I hope I am never in that situation again...it's very difficult...

I agree with everyone. I like what Poet said, give them a chance and
ONLY one chance to deal with it. See I'm willing to deal with what ever
happens. But I'm not willing to deal with the chance of the worst things
that can happen. This happen nto me. And for some time the person didn't
talk to me for it. But after some time They realiz what could of happen
if I didn't say anything. So yes I did have to deal with being in the
middle. But in the long run, they didn't have to find out years latter.

i think you should say something if you know but i have been on the
other end where people were telling my girlfriend this stuff and it was
not true.....it has a serious affect on the relationship.

I can see that happening King. Usually that means they are looking to
get something out of it. If this happen to me I would have a sit down
with the one I was with. And tell her to really take a good look at who
this is coming from. How reliable is info you are getting this from and
then I would set it up to where all 4 of us got together and ask the
person that said that and confront them on it. See me, I have nuthing to
hide so I would make that person look REALLY Stupid. Now, If the woman
doesn't want to do that confront this person. Then there is something
wrong with her?