From bad habits in your life out of your current relationships and exes and why do you do do it for them and no one else?

There are three people in my life, two exes and a current who can stop me from saying bad and derogatory things. And it's a super power only they have over me. It doesn't work for anyone else.

For as much smack and trash talk as I do, I behave myself generally and am nice.

If one of those three says, "Terri, Ladies don't say or do" and then whatever. I stop it then and I stop it forever.

But only three sig. men in my life can do that not even my own family and it's because I respect them and also, I want to stay in the side of good and not evil in their eyes.

Do any of you have an ex or current sig. other who has such a power over you?

Ya know, I have been in a long term self study to isolate a lot of what holds me back so to speak and I have been trying like hell to affect some changes I can and try to maneuver towards others I cannot directly affect. The sad thing is coming to terms of imperfection and having failing moments is hard but the one way and possibly the only way to identify your own weaknesses and making strengths from them.

It goes like this, making a mistake is like falling off a bike. Does the fallen get back on or not? Well, I am one of those ID10ts with skinned knees and a bruise or two but that which does not kill me makes me stronger!

Nope. The only power my ex had was to make me feel invisible. Thankfully, I escaped, finally.

No sig other or remote chance so it has to be me to me!!

Nope; there isn't one man stupid or brave enough to stop me from doing or saying anything. Although it helps; when I have more muscles than them.

I would like to say nope, I give only me that power but I have an ex that has that power. She can make me rethink my stance on things when with others I hold strong and am quite stubborn. No one else challenges me that way.

Not anymore. I used to be so easily controlled in the past. Guess I learned my lesson, took a lot of heartbreak to get there.

I don't have a lot of experience with men...those few relationships have confused me. Understanding men is super insane sometimes. Especially my first one. All the drama. I still have trust issues with men. I wish I could meet a guy who can protect me instead of torture me with lies and drama.

Terri,,I have to be honest here..
To me,,there is a fine line between excepting one as they are, or excepting one, knowing THEY, can control what they don't like in YOU.
And to me,,no-one should FEEL,,controlled in ANY FORM of thought,,through that others words of,,they love you.
To love someone,,comes w/o feeling they need to change?
Let me try and say this to you,,in this way.
YOUR BAD,,still needs THEIR love inside THEM for YOU.
YOUR WILD and CRAZY, Has to be appreciated within them for YOU.

Thats the same as a dude SAYING HE LOVES YOU,
Then after a months,,says I WANT you to color your hair, (different) than what it IS,,,
Then he tells you,,EVERYTHING HE FEELS ABOUT YOU,,would be felt SO MUCH BETTER IN HIM,,IF YOU DO THAT FOR HIM.
He is controlling you and making YOU,,FIT HIS WAYS!

When I'm in love with a woman,,and she might have some issues to some part of how I am or what I do as ME.
I may try and not bother US with THAT,,but she STILL knows thats just me and excepts IT,,along with excepting me..
And I give HER that same respect and over-look,,even though it does maybe bother me a little bit,,,THATS the give and take within LOVE,,that all of us must do and keep as US.
IF WE PUT UP WALLS which deflect us away from US being who we are to be,,Then before long in that relationship,,we also get deflected from each others hearts and minds..and that LOVE we once felt,,has disappeared?
Exceptance in the ALL that we are as the person we cannot change in US,,,,has to be COOL with the one who falls in love with us.
Or,,its just a passing of two people who only like each other for awhile..
AT least,,thats my take on ANYONE having any KIND of POWER over, ME..Through the power of any LOVE to be there?

I don't think telling me that ladies don't do certain things would make me stop doing something. I don't need to be lectured about what ladies should or should not be doing.

only my mother, out of respect

Nope.

From bad habits in your life out of your current relationships and exes and why do you do do it for them and no one else?





No one. I am an adult and I live my life exactly how I want to live it within my financial means.


Why would I limit myself around exes?....for what? That ship has sailed and been torpedoed....There is no going back. I can be compltely brutally honest..and I don't even hide my bad habits....Ex or not.


I encourage others to get a couple of bad habits. It makes life more fun to have vices.

looks like one of those cats told her ladies don't mingle. she's gone

(she deactivated)

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Absolutely... youre not alone in this.
And I thank God for the sway that I allow those few to have over me.
(I've quit questioning it long ago, btw).

no