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dont really matter where or how we meet, online or not apart from family, every other person in your life was once a stranger.
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Ha, cool. I do as well. I try to write as much as I can with what I got. I used to take a pen and paper everywhere with me and be all Chris Martin about it. I know that feeling too. Until my computer gets fixed I'm gonna have to put up with the painful micro-crazy scanning that is my phone. Iz a bish but what can I do? LOL Catch ya later! Yay! I've been writing like crazy, ever since the age of fifteen. lol. I guess it's just in me to do that kind of thing. Sometimes voice recorders are good for that, too, but i only really used one, when i had no paper left. This was before the internet was invented. lol |
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I was just hoping to meet someone to hang with in Dallas. Looks like I gotta go back to POF for that, they have parties nearly every weekend in Dallas. I was on there for a year or so and met some really nice people. I liked the fact that they have "meet ups" regularly. I have to watch a little closer these days where my money goes... so I deleted my account. |
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I just don't believe that people really CAN'T find dates. I thinks its feasible that one can't find dates. Contrary to what anyone thinks; its hard to attract the opposite sex. If you aren't pretty, young, or thin here in Calgary; you think a guy is going to give you the time of day? These boys here are rich in oil and they want some arm candy; not an old average lady so I am not foolish enough to think I can compete with a younger woman. People are particualar in what they want and if you don't meet all their requirements; you don't get dates. So, its believable that not all of us are dateable so to speak. 
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Ha, cool. I do as well. I try to write as much as I can with what I got. I used to take a pen and paper everywhere with me and be all Chris Martin about it. I know that feeling too. Until my computer gets fixed I'm gonna have to put up with the painful micro-crazy scanning that is my phone. Iz a bish but what can I do? LOL Catch ya later! Yay! I've been writing like crazy, ever since the age of fifteen. lol. I guess it's just in me to do that kind of thing. Sometimes voice recorders are good for that, too, but i only really used one, when i had no paper left. This was before the internet was invented. lol damn those recorders! i used to live off of those when i wrote for the paper. ahhh, to be 17 again. |
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never ever take it seriously atleast i dont n i dont put much faith into other people
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Going through that stuff is not fun at all. My ex-fiance was emotionally abusive almost always. I think I remember him actually say if I leave him he'll make my life a living hell. Which explains why I'm a emotional wreck. I'm glad you got some help, in a lot these situations, most women don't seek any type of asistance readily available to them, in worst cases until its too late. I guess I was afraid too. I try not to be afraid of everybody. I am sorry you had to go through the mental abuse. I dated one guy that mentally abused me; so broke up with him. Then the next guy I dated physically abused me. Needless to say; in both situations, I ended the relationship very quickly. I have no tolerance for abuse of any kind. |
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Going through that stuff is not fun at all. My ex-fiance was emotionally abusive almost always. I think I remember him actually say if I leave him he'll make my life a living hell. Which explains why I'm a emotional wreck. I'm glad you got some help, in a lot these situations, most women don't seek any type of asistance readily available to them, in worst cases until its too late. I guess I was afraid too. I try not to be afraid of everybody. I am sorry you had to go through the mental abuse. I dated one guy that mentally abused me; so I broke up with him. Then the next guy I dated physically abused me. Needless to say; in both situations, I ended the relationship very quickly. I have no tolerance for abuse of any kind. As soon as I got out of it, it was almost like I was breathing again. Being involved in those situations are stifling. I couldn't do anything about it. I fell so hard for him, the damage was done. My friend basically woke me up from all of it, when it got intense one day. He almost hit me. Not good.  She urged me to stay with her and just let go for a while. Wasn't easy. I'd gotten used to it at a certain point. Sad I know. But I am so happy I came out of it with my soul barely intact. Today I vow that NOBODY treats me with any kind of abuse. Even teasing and taunting. Joking about abuse, calling people names, those kinds of things. I stand up for myself, I tell people off when they've crossed the line. I start to feel better. I keep my integrity. I wanted myself back. And no one will EVER make me feel like I have no worth. Not again.
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Going through that stuff is not fun at all. My ex-fiance was emotionally abusive almost always. I think I remember him actually say if I leave him he'll make my life a living hell. Which explains why I'm a emotional wreck. I'm glad you got some help, in a lot these situations, most women don't seek any type of asistance readily available to them, in worst cases until its too late. I guess I was afraid too. I try not to be afraid of everybody. I am sorry you had to go through the mental abuse. I dated one guy that mentally abused me; so I broke up with him. Then the next guy I dated physically abused me. Needless to say; in both situations, I ended the relationship very quickly. I have no tolerance for abuse of any kind. As soon as I got out of it, it was almost like I was breathing again. Being involved in those situations are stifling. I couldn't do anything about it. I fell so hard for him, the damage was done. My friend basically woke me up from all of it, when it got intense one day. He almost hit me. Not good. She urged me to stay with her and just let go for a while. Wasn't easy. I'd gotten used to it at a certain point. Sad I know. But I am so happy I came out of it with my soul barely intact. Today I vow that NOBODY treats me with any kind of abuse. Even teasing and taunting. Joking about abuse, calling people names, those kinds of things. I stand up for myself, I tell people off when they've crossed the line. I start to feel better. I keep my integrity. I wanted myself back. And no one will EVER make me feel like I have no worth. Not again. Yep, that pretty well is how I feel too and I won't ever let anyone; especially a man hurt me again.
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I wish I could get all of you to help me with someone here going through abuse. I don't understand it, it makes no sense to me, and even further, I can never understand, no matter how much it is rationalized to me, why anyone would tolerate it. Especially in today's society.
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I wish I could get all of you to help me with someone here going through abuse. I don't understand it, it makes no sense to me, and even further, I can never understand, no matter how much it is rationalized to me, why anyone would tolerate it. Especially in today's society. You know I don't get why anyone would tolerate it either. I cut loose the two men that abused me but watched for years while my mom took it. My mom felt she had no choice as she had no skills to get a job and couldn't support 6 kids on her own. It was fear that kept her in an abusive relationship. Is that the reason that the person you mentioned won't walk away from the abuse? |
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I wish I could get all of you to help me with someone here going through abuse. I don't understand it, it makes no sense to me, and even further, I can never understand, no matter how much it is rationalized to me, why anyone would tolerate it. Especially in today's society. Having been in an abusive relationship and also helping women get out, I can tell you that you can't make them leave. They have to come to a point where it's harder to stay than to go. They have to find the strength somewhere inside them and do what they need to do. You can't save them. We had to save ourselves. |
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I don't know. In my opinion, yes. She says she loves him, he will change, blah blah blah. But currently she is pregnant with their first child, and I am guessing that has a lot to do with it. I've already threatened him, and that did not get me very far, and talking to her has went in one giant circle.
I have given advice, offered to help in any way I can, and racked my brain trying to think of anything else. Currently, I have just taken the stance that I can only do as much as I am allowed to, and the rest is up to her, but it gnaws at me a lot, especially knowing what I know. |
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Having been in an abusive relationship and also helping women get out, I can tell you that you can't make them leave. They have to come to a point where it's harder to stay than to go. They have to find the strength somewhere inside them and do what they need to do. You can't save them. We had to save ourselves. Maybe so, but that does not making it any easier for those who fear for your life.
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Having been in an abusive relationship and also helping women get out, I can tell you that you can't make them leave. They have to come to a point where it's harder to stay than to go. They have to find the strength somewhere inside them and do what they need to do. You can't save them. We had to save ourselves. Maybe so, but that does not making it any easier for those who fear for your life. No, it really doesn't. |
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Having been in an abusive relationship and also helping women get out, I can tell you that you can't make them leave. They have to come to a point where it's harder to stay than to go. They have to find the strength somewhere inside them and do what they need to do. You can't save them. We had to save ourselves. Maybe so, but that does not making it any easier for those who fear for your life. Just thinking if she is fearing for her life; why isn't she fearing for the child's life? |
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