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Does it count as standing someone up if that person was late and you got tired of waiting? No, not the same thing. If that were me, I would have sent them a text or called them and said I was tired of waiting and was going to leave, so that it didn't look like I was standing them up. Then again, I would have expected the other person to let me know they were running late and when they'd be there. Yes, I would have done that if I could have - we had met several days earlier in the coffee shop where we were supposed to meet and just had agreed to meet there again. It was several years ago and I did not have a cell, plus we had not exchanged numbers or last names so it was a case where we really had no way to contact each other and also thinking back on it - we did speak once after that - that's how we figured out that we hadn't communicated on what time well enough. oh well - we had a nice friendship while it lasted Yeah, sometimes shyt happens. In this day where pretty much everyone has a cell phone, there should never be the excuse that they could not call/text and say what happened. |
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I've never been stood up and have only stood up one woman on a promise I'd call and set up a first date. She sent me an email hoping she didn't do anything wrong. I felt so horrible that I married her. Ahhh, what a story. One for the books.  We were going to make plans to go out but I got cold feet. Instead of calling her to talk about it I just didn't call. I felt so bad after her email that I made her I promise I'd never do that again. We went out the next weekend and were married a year later. Divorced now but we remained very good friends. Wow, goodness. Its funny the perils we go through to get to where we are. We all hope they lead us to greatness.  I'm glad you're still friends with her. Means you had a great foundation underneath being together. 
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Sun 01/08/12 11:28 AM
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Have never and would never stand anyone up...although I have been stood up once.
 Sometimes I wish that I wasn't so polite and could end a bad date early..instead of trying to make the most of it...bad dates generally don't get better  .
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Yep, I did get stood up a couple times. One guy said he stood me up and I said he stood me up as I went to the place he said to meet and waited for about 15 minutes; then left. I am a punctual person and if that person can't be there within a 15 minute window or call me; then I just leave.
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Have never and would never stand anyone up...although I have been stood up once. Sometimes I wish that I wasn't so polite and could end a bad date early..instead of trying to make the most of it...bad dates generally don't get better . guuuuuurl yes, wish i had that kinda power too |
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So, one person said he stood someone up. I wonder if anyone else will admit to doing that and what their reason was.
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 01/08/12 03:58 PM
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Does it count as standing someone up if that person was late and you got tired of waiting? No, not the same thing. If that were me, I would have sent them a text or called them and said I was tired of waiting and was going to leave, so that it didn't look like I was standing them up. Then again, I would have expected the other person to let me know they were running late and when they'd be there. Yes, I would have done that if I could have - we had met several days earlier in the coffee shop where we were supposed to meet and just had agreed to meet there again. It was several years ago and I did not have a cell, plus we had not exchanged numbers or last names so it was a case where we really had no way to contact each other and also thinking back on it - we did speak once after that - that's how we figured out that we hadn't communicated on what time well enough. oh well - we had a nice friendship while it lasted Yeah, sometimes shyt happens. In this day where pretty much everyone has a cell phone, there should never be the excuse that they could not call/text and say what happened. true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable |
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So, one person said he stood someone up. I wonder if anyone else will admit to doing that and what their reason was. I honestly haven't done it. I just think that is a rude thing to do and if I changed my mind about going on a date; I would call the person up. I have always thought that standing someone up was very childish. |
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So, one person said he stood someone up. I wonder if anyone else will admit to doing that and what their reason was. I honestly haven't done it. I just think that is a rude thing to do and if I changed my mind about going on a date; I would call the person up. I have always thought that standing someone up was very childish. I have never been stood up but then again one has to have a date to be stood-up. 
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I have had it happen to me once. But, they had their reasons for it I suppose. In the end I did not let it bother me. I just wish she had talked to me and let me know before hand before I got the tickets. I have never stood anyone up... even if I am unsure I just can't bring myself to do that. If I say I will do something, I will go through with it, no matter how uncomfortable I may feel. Looking back a couple of times maybe it would have turned out better had I stood some of them up.
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I have never stood anyone up, to the best of my memory. I did call at the very last minute and cancel a first date when I got cold feet. Then, next thing I knew, the guy showed up at my house anyway. And was holy hell to get rid of. He seriously believed that since he had driven a couple of hours to come over there, I was going to let him spend the night. Nope.
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true so far as the information is exchanged - we had just got to talking and forgotten to get each other's numbers - I did have a phone at the time - just not a cell I dated someone recently who was FRANTIC cuz I didn't have a cell at the time (got my first cell phone about 3 mos ago believe it or not) anyway all I can figure is that he had been stood up a few times...but I did not and would not do that either and my answer was just with respect to dating - I had a boyfriend a few yrs ago who would blow me off from time to time and then he'd show up out of the blue all lovey dovey - it was the main thing that I eventually broke up with him for but he does not know that - I just told him I wasn't feelin it any more - truth was it was disrespectful and it was too stressful dealing with him being unreliable Did you ever tell him you thought it was disrespectful and stressful to deal with? |
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Have you ever been stood up? Have you ever stood anyone up? If so, what was your reasoning? Yes. But I didn't really care about the guy that much. He was tall and good looking but rather boring. There was no chemistry or excitement. I went out with the girls and had a great time that night. |
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I have never stood anyone up, to the best of my memory. I did call at the very last minute and cancel a first date when I got cold feet. Then, next thing I knew, the guy showed up at my house anyway. And was holy hell to get rid of. He seriously believed that since he had driven a couple of hours to come over there, I was going to let him spend the night. Nope. You canceled last minute because you had cold feet, knowing he had to drive that far? |
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Have you ever been stood up? Have you ever stood anyone up? If so, what was your reasoning? Yes. But I didn't really care about the guy that much. He was tall and good looking but rather boring. There was no chemistry or excitement. I went out with the girls and had a great time that night. Yes to which question? You stood him up or he stood you up? |
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That same guy that stood me up was sometimes late for other dates he made with me. Late sometimes by an hour or two hours. I never said one word to him about it.
One day he asked me why I never seemed to get upset about him being late and even standing me up. I told him that was because I didn't really care that much. He never called me or asked me out again. I think he had been trying to get some reaction out of me all the time. 
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Have you ever been stood up? Have you ever stood anyone up? If so, what was your reasoning? Yes. But I didn't really care about the guy that much. He was tall and good looking but rather boring. There was no chemistry or excitement. I went out with the girls and had a great time that night. Yes to which question? You stood him up or he stood you up? He stood me up. I don't think I have ever stood anyone up. |
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I have not been stood up for a date or meet. But, more than a few times I've had guys not ever call or email again when they say they are going to or when you think you are getting to know each other and it's going great. It's the disappearing act.
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I have not been stood up for a date or meet. But, more than a few times I've had guys not ever call or email again when they say they are going to or when you think you are getting to know each other and it's going great. It's the disappearing act. I've also had guys completely disappear as well. |
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I have had it happen to me once. But, they had their reasons for it I suppose. In the end I did not let it bother me. I just wish she had talked to me and let me know before hand before I got the tickets. I have never stood anyone up... even if I am unsure I just can't bring myself to do that. If I say I will do something, I will go through with it, no matter how uncomfortable I may feel. Looking back a couple of times maybe it would have turned out better had I stood some of them up. Oh that reminds me of when I bought some tickets for myself and a guy for something and then I never heard from him again. So, he didn't technically stand me up....just the old "disappearing act" again. This incident was not from an online meet. This was back in the early 90's. |
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