Tonight my mom went by ambulance to hospital. They transferred her to a much bigger hospital and she has touch of pneumonia and COPD and is complaining of back pain. My stepdad has dementia and she was taking care of him. He has a catheter, and is on oxygen and needs 24/7 care. Here I am raising my son with Down syndrome who has a cold, and I am feeling overwhelmed not knowing how I will care for my parents when I was just out of work for a week with no pay cus I work for a school district working with a severe case of autism as an aide.

I really need the Lord's blessing, and some answers. Thank you in advance!

Will be glad to give you prayers and positive energy. Being a caregiver is tough and how you are feeling is very normal.

Sounds like you could use some Respite care on the Mom front and a hug for just being a all around nice person. Have you asked anyone for services for families with multiple members in need? Believe it or not there are casemanagement programs that have a multi-agency approach and a bigger hospital is much more likely to ofer that.

Sorry Mom is sick but may be a blessing in disguise because now she will get some help with your Dad's care. A few days of rest you may see a big improvement.

Not sure what kind of help you are looking for but if you want to ask for specifics drop me a letter. Hang in there. You didn't get all these problems by yourself and you won't have to solve them by yourself either.

My heart and prayers are with you. There's support in your community: Most likely in the hospital there's somebody - title changes by hospital; or request the form for financial aide. Most hospitals "have" in their books monetary reserves. For eg. Once I knew of a program inside the hospital which their reps not only fill out all forms, but also , the bill was paid in full! Human Services in your County should be able to help.

Ref to Down Syndrome,let me suggest you call the County Office of Education. Then, request to talk to person in charge of Special Education. If you explain your situation ref. To your child, do let them know you want and need help. Believe it or not, if parent does not request it, help wont be given!
I'm suggesting to go to the County so you cut red tape: bureaucracy. I know of these steps cause I sat in public meetings for special ed. This meetings are open to the public. You might consider attending next meeting to network directly with all specialized personnel

Your situation makes me think of what I call: G-d's time. There is full trust the means: resources, timing will take place when its best for your needs. In addition, with complete surrender to the goodness of G-d, I recognize: this is a stage, just a stage, things will be alright.


Last but not least. There is s non-profit they have Chapters by state ;Alzheimer's national association. Most likely they can guide you to get help taking care of your Dad with Dementia.
I'm suggesting them because they network among other agencies for services.

I pray so you feel G-d's loving ways. Most of all that you follow through with calls so you get help.
I do know it can be overwhelming. Trust G-d, it will get better.

prayers from texas on the way...

Prayers on the way!

Awwww, so sorry to hear this,,and you know,,she and you have my Prayers,,It is a time to try and be all that she was for you,,like you now are for your son,,I spent a month with my Mother a couple of years ago,,and I love her so much..I still learned that carring for her,,was more than I had ever thought it was...
She pulled through when we thought she was at her end,,I shall Pray your Mom recoversfine,,,,God Bless you and your family all their with her and ITS the compassions that she Blessed you to have through her teachings,,that made you,,be the woman and Mother you have become..And when they become injured or in need,,we try to feel every one of them,,,Your a very good daughter..in this mans eyes...and mind,,

My prayers are on the way!!!!

I am praying for you. I would suggest you also speak with the case manager and the social worker at the hospital for your Dad and Mom's situation. Who is power of attorney for them? If you do not ask...you will not get answers.

Our Father, who art in Heaven,
hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come,
Thy Will be done,
On Earth,
As it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Lord, I ask that you give strength to this amazing woman, who really has her plate full, with all the love she is giving, and people she is helping. SHe is indeed, an angel on earth.

I ask this in the name of your son, Jesus Christ.

Amen.

Today I went to see my mom in the hospital. She is the kind of woman who never wants her family to worry. What I didn't know is she had fallen, and here I called her every day to check on her and my stepdad. Her answer is "Why should I worry my daugthers?" My sister did get papers off line for power of attorney, but we didn't have anyone to notorize the papers.... and I guess my sister had it so she would be the first one and I would be second.

The doctor I spoke to today said her COPD has progressed, and he wasn't so sure she had pneumonia, but it is possible. She has been complaining of back pain.

All I know is I'm not in a very good position as a single mom with a little boy with Down syndrome. I've always believed if God brings you to it, he will bring you through it. My mom is a strong believer in prayer as well.

My sister got so upset today she called me while I was at the hospital and she screamed "I can't take this anymore. I've had it and I'm leaving." I thought she was abandoning her father, my stepfather. It was a horrible event considering there I was in the hospital with my mom and I told my mom it wasn't good and I had to leave immediately. My sister didn't pick up the phone, and then she finally did tell me she almost left him. We are both not exactly living very close to my parents... and neither one of us has the extra money for gas. They put my mom in a hospital a whole other direction. She is angry that everything is such a mess right now and I can understand her anger. She feels my parents should have planned, but I told her it's hard to plan getting old and I know my mom just wanted to take care of everything for as long as she could. She loves her husband and believes she should take care of him. It's always been hard knowing they smoke, and knowing that is what is killing them both.

Anyway... my parents need care, but my little boy also has a stuffed up nose here and a cold is lethal to my parents. I was just sick through my vacation away from school. I could not even go visit my mom during that time because I knew her rule is 'do not come if you have a cold or are sick'.... I totally understand this and how a simple cold could put them in the hospital.

Thank you for all of your help and advice. I greatly appreciate it. My sister is the one staying with my stepdad right now. She said she has off until Tuesday. I have to go to work tomorrow.

My mom went into a nursing home today, and she is still quite weak. My stepdad was admitted to a hospital for pneumonia, but this was a blessing in a way since he would have care and we hope he will be united with his wife soon. I went to see him today and he told me to please go shopping for a card for my mom so she knows he loves her. I will take the card to him for him to sign it. It brings tears to my eyes knowing they found each other a long time ago, and they worked to keep their marriage through the good and bad. Bottom line is when it's all said and done their love was the biggest asset they had.

My mom told her sister she felt this time she wouldn't make it. I can see she is tired and worn out. Going into a nursing home isn't going to be easy for either of them, but I believe if they have each other then there is a better chance for them both.

Bless their hearts.

Being together will be better, I think too.

Rough day today. Went to see my mom who certainly was really struggling to just breathe today. She could barely talk at all, and it is so darn hard watching her struggle like this. My stepdad joins her tomorrow afternoon. I sit back thinking I hate knowing she is alone right now, but I'm a single Mom and also need to take care of my son with Down syndrome. I went to see my stepdad who was telling me to let mom know he was coming.... but I know calling her is not a good thing right now when she can't breathe. She knows he is coming soon. I've seen her struggle before, but this time does feel different and maybe it is because I know she isn't going home. I hope seeing him make a difference, and I hope he can handle this because it is hard seeing her struggling.

Words cannot express all that I feel for your heart and your Mothers life,,I will Pray,,and Pray,

You have a very sweet family Mystique and you seem like a sweetheart also. I hope everything works out in the way that you want it too. All you need to do is ask and your guides/angles are there to help you. Hugs and blessings to you, your sweet child, your mother and step=father

Prayers for you and your parents... I went thru this almost 5 yrs ago when my husband was in a nursing home for rehab(back surgery) and my mother passed unexpectedly 6 months later.. I knew my husband wouldn't make it(couldn't get his strength back) and I literally had to tell my mom it was ok to go as we were all there with her...life is sooo hard at times... You have to remember that you have a son that needs your care also and you need to take care of yourself...
The hospitals do have help available, just ask..

Hello... today was Noah's birthday and so I took the birthday cake to my parents in the nursing home... they are at least united now. Thing is my mom is not doing well at all. She told me she can't eat and they had her on the cpap mask before dinner. I find this to be heart breaking and I guess I'm just afraid she is slipping away. I know right now she'd tell me she lived a good life, cus I've heard her say this to me before. My stepdad is in his own world, but he amazes me every now and then with a joke or what have you. I know he is very happy to see us when we come.

I am certainly praying for God's best right now.

we all are girl

{{{{{Suz}}}}} Many prayers are going out for your Mom and for you, as always.


One other thing....





HAPPY BIRTHDAY NOAH!!!!!

I know I am a bit late, but I just read your post. Hope things are going better for you. I am praying for you, and praying for the Lord to give you strength, I certainly understand the stress you must be under! God Bless