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You know if you people dont like what i have to say you can always by pass it and go some where else. Martin, you are a very sweet guy, but you have to learn not to be so sensitive. Especially when you post something and people disagree with you. Most of the time we are just joking around anyway. Remember the time you thought I was attacking you in that thread and I was totally joking around? And, when folks do give you advice or criticism, either accept it or don't. Nobody will get their feelings hurt if you ignore them. 
You keep posting threads about things that have happened to you (or it seems that way). You have to realize that people will try to give you advice, whether you ask for it or not. If you don't want that to happen, stick with different topics. |
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Martin, there are solicitors - agents for foreign matchmaking services - who patrol dating sites looking for people to match clients with. They often ask a lot of questions. That's because they are filling out a profile of you on their own dating/matchmaking site.
Others are scammers just looking to gain personal info in a roundabout way, hoping you don't pick up on it. And then there are the people who just aren't very comfortable talking about themselves. It can make holding a conversation a lot like pulling teeth. Most people don't like others who only talk about themselves. Yet what choice does one have when the other person rarely says much about themselves despite coaxing? This is why, despite a soft spot for them, I know that shy women just aren't a good match for me. I have a difficult enough time with social interaction without having to take the entire burden of conversation upon myself. It could be that you are doing something wrong too. You might need to learn a few new tricks. However, without reading a 'typical' e-mail you might send a woman, we really can't judge that. In any case, I wouldn't give up on the Forums. Sure, people are going to disagree with you. Singmesweet and I have had a few jousts in the Forums. One thing she made clear is that her questions and criticisms aren't merely disagreement. She's trying to help in her own - through observation, questioning, and illuminating bitter truths. In other words, she attempts to get one to examine himself deeper. That's her way, and it doesn't fit everyone. Others are going to be the same way, but not everyone. And sometimes people read into stuff too much as well. (Sorry Singmesweet....I was just using our forum experiences as an example.) So, relax man. These things are going to happen in the forums. It's only personal if you allow it to become so. |
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When I first joined here,,it was called Just say Hi..and NOT very many members on it at all...but,,I searched through all the ladies on here then,,and found one who was Beautiful to me,,she even had a dolls name,,,,lol,,anyway,,I sent her an email telling her SHE was in my mind the BEST looking lady on here,,,
SHE,,NEVER responded back... Four months later here,,I had become a very likible member and in the forums all the time with a bunch of others who everyone thought was funny and popular on the forums... NOW,,she THEN wrote me after talking with me in some posts,,and I asked her about that old email,,and IF she remembered getting THAT from me then,,,,NO,,SHE said she couldn't recall...? But,,YES,,,Its FUNNY how others respond to emails and also,,YES,,I have written them BOOKS just to get back,,one small sentence.. SO NOW,,I TRY and give them always short sentences,,until I see they give me more of them in type,,,,  
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You know you dont see me going to other peoples post trying to knock them off there stool at least i try to be polite.Some of you people dont care what you say to others you dont care if you hurt there feelings or make them look like a dumb *** on thre own post.You just say what you feel what ever happen to common curtisy and respect iv tryed to get along with every one here but youl got a tight click here where your ether in or out,well you can have your click.
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Martin, there are solicitors - agents for foreign matchmaking services - who patrol dating sites looking for people to match clients with. They often ask a lot of questions. That's because they are filling out a profile of you on their own dating/matchmaking site. Others are scammers just looking to gain personal info in a roundabout way, hoping you don't pick up on it. And then there are the people who just aren't very comfortable talking about themselves. It can make holding a conversation a lot like pulling teeth. Most people don't like others who only talk about themselves. Yet what choice does one have when the other person rarely says much about themselves despite coaxing? This is why, despite a soft spot for them, I know that shy women just aren't a good match for me. I have a difficult enough time with social interaction without having to take the entire burden of conversation upon myself. It could be that you are doing something wrong too. You might need to learn a few new tricks. However, without reading a 'typical' e-mail you might send a woman, we really can't judge that. In any case, I wouldn't give up on the Forums. Sure, people are going to disagree with you. Singmesweet and I have had a few jousts in the Forums. One thing she made clear is that her questions and criticisms aren't merely disagreement. She's trying to help in her own - through observation, questioning, and illuminating bitter truths. In other words, she attempts to get one to examine himself deeper. That's her way, and it doesn't fit everyone. Others are going to be the same way, but not everyone. And sometimes people read into stuff too much as well. (Sorry Singmesweet....I was just using our forum experiences as an example.) So, relax man. These things are going to happen in the forums. It's only personal if you allow it to become so. Actually, I ask questions when I don't understand someone, or am just trying to understand better. If they're making no sense, or doing the same things over and over and I don't know why, I'll definitely ask about it. |
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You know you dont see me going to other peoples post trying to knock them off there stool at least i try to be polite.Some of you people dont care what you say to others you dont care if you hurt there feelings or make them look like a dumb *** on thre own post.You just say what you feel what ever happen to common curtisy and respect iv tryed to get along with every one here but youl got a tight click here where your ether in or out,well you can have your click. I don't see anyone trying to knock you off your stool or trying to hurt your feelings. You are reading too much into what people have been saying. No one is trying to make you look stupid, either. |
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Getting your internet baptism can sometimes feel like one by fire. Just about anyone who has been on line long will remember someone seemingly genuinely interested turned out to be a looky loo that asks personal questions generally for their own entertainment and very little regard for how it might be invading your privacy or wasteing your time. Try not to take it personally or let ti t get you down. Internet "relationships or cateing" is not for the thin skinned or faint of heart. Some would say you have to be even rather coulous or take it with a grain of salt to get any flavor at all.
Generally when someone starts asking a litany of questions it is poor social skills and they are just nervous so they follow the tacky prompts from some of the so called experts and go a little over board. If you answer one question in a happy or up beat way with a flirt to help the person relax and write their answer sometimes it will get you a better result. Hang in there you will get the hang of all this in awhile. You seem like a nice person that people like so try not to be discouraged. |
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You know you dont see me going to other peoples post trying to knock them off there stool at least i try to be polite.Some of you people dont care what you say to others you dont care if you hurt there feelings or make them look like a dumb *** on thre own post.You just say what you feel what ever happen to common curtisy and respect iv tryed to get along with every one here but youl got a tight click here where your ether in or out,well you can have your click. Martin, this is just not true. You accused me before of trying to make you look stupid and nothing could be farther from the truth. It is apparent to me at this point that the problem lies with you. There is no clique here. We welcome you with open arms to be a part of this community. But no one has the time or energy to tip toe around every subject to avoid possibly being misunderstood and hurting someone's feelings. So, if you want to stay, and I hope you do, toughen up a bit and stop being so sensitive. |
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Every woman I have ever written to tell her how beautiful she was wrote me back. 
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Martin, there are solicitors - agents for foreign matchmaking services - who patrol dating sites looking for people to match clients with. They often ask a lot of questions. That's because they are filling out a profile of you on their own dating/matchmaking site. Others are scammers just looking to gain personal info in a roundabout way, hoping you don't pick up on it. And then there are the people who just aren't very comfortable talking about themselves. It can make holding a conversation a lot like pulling teeth. Most people don't like others who only talk about themselves. Yet what choice does one have when the other person rarely says much about themselves despite coaxing? This is why, despite a soft spot for them, I know that shy women just aren't a good match for me. I have a difficult enough time with social interaction without having to take the entire burden of conversation upon myself. It could be that you are doing something wrong too. You might need to learn a few new tricks. However, without reading a 'typical' e-mail you might send a woman, we really can't judge that. In any case, I wouldn't give up on the Forums. Sure, people are going to disagree with you. Singmesweet and I have had a few jousts in the Forums. One thing she made clear is that her questions and criticisms aren't merely disagreement. She's trying to help in her own - through observation, questioning, and illuminating bitter truths. In other words, she attempts to get one to examine himself deeper. That's her way, and it doesn't fit everyone. Others are going to be the same way, but not everyone. And sometimes people read into stuff too much as well. (Sorry Singmesweet....I was just using our forum experiences as an example.) So, relax man. These things are going to happen in the forums. It's only personal if you allow it to become so. |
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Every woman I have ever written to tell her how beautiful she was wrote me back.
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Edited by
iam4u
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Mon 12/26/11 12:41 PM
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THIS IS A PUBLIC FORUM..and PEOPLE will both be nice and EVERYTHING ELSE from time to time,,I look at posting anything,,,as OPEN FOR ALL ATTACKS and LIKES..
THEN,,IF it falls under someones desires to disrupt its thoughts,,I let them know that,,,and end of thoughts? Take the good with the bad and KEEP YOUR POST ROLLING SMOOTHLY.. Manage IT through the guidelines we all follow,, and take criticism, with an open ear,,but give back what you feel is insulting to you and your post,,,NEVER stray to long in THAT,,or the post will collaspe,,,,so stay on point,,and maybe over-look SOME replies that you feel our negitive... WE ALL MAKE UP POSTS ABOUT WHAT WE HAVE WENT THROUGH OR GOING THROUGH ON HERE,,PLUS,,EVERYTHING ELSE LIFE HAS TO QUESTION,,so YOUR no different than any other poster in your questions here? Your doing great....
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When I first joined here,,it was called Just say Hi..and NOT very many members on it at all...but,,I searched through all the ladies on here then,,and found one who was Beautiful to me,,she even had a dolls name,,,,lol,,anyway,,I sent her an email telling her SHE was in my mind the BEST looking lady on here,,, SHE,,NEVER responded back... Four months later here,,I had become a very likible member and in the forums all the time with a bunch of others who everyone thought was funny and popular on the forums... NOW,,she THEN wrote me after talking with me in some posts,,and I asked her about that old email,,and IF she remembered getting THAT from me then,,,,NO,,SHE said she couldn't recall...? But,,YES,,,Its FUNNY how others respond to emails and also,,YES,,I have written them BOOKS just to get back,,one small sentence.. SO NOW,,I TRY and give them always short sentences,,until I see they give me more of them in type,,,,
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Actually, I ask questions when I don't understand someone, or am just trying to understand better. If they're making no sense, or doing the same things over and over and I don't know why, I'll definitely ask about it. Then I stand corrected. Though my point still stands. Your questions are not meant to be personal attacks, though you will cite observations you've made. Sometimes those observations can be taken the wrong way, as I did. |
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Every woman I have ever written to tell her how beautiful she was wrote me back.
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Actually, I ask questions when I don't understand someone, or am just trying to understand better. If they're making no sense, or doing the same things over and over and I don't know why, I'll definitely ask about it. Then I stand corrected. Though my point still stands. Your questions are not meant to be personal attacks, though you will cite observations you've made. Sometimes those observations can be taken the wrong way, as I did. Right. I don't ask questions to attack someone. |
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hey bro, i posted on one of your threads about being alone on christmas and you totally ignored the post
lots of stuff to do in san antonio, and since you have a friend living there (bulldog) you could meet up and maybe go to houston to see carol and roadlesstraveled at one of their slumber parties |
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Has something happened? It's just that you're not usually this down. I think what some people type in the forums is just part of their slapstick humor. And actually, humor is a good way to get through the hard times in life. You have to create fun wherever possible. I love laughing with the people here. I'm sure NO-ONE on Mingle2 means to insult anyone. It's just that the humor can be quite harsh. That's the devil inside us all. lol. If we all came on here complaining constantly, it'd be no fun. We all die in the end, so might aswell live life POSITIVELY. It's just a bit of silly joking around is all. *hug*
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Edited by
machug
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Tue 12/27/11 01:44 AM
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Lord Chamberland(sp), in his famous letter to his son, (1800?) advised him to compliment a woman only on her interests and her intellect, as beauty was her given. I generally have good results when I break this rule-but in my case I think it is easy for them to tell I am sincere, and therefore to be forgiven- for despite all the hills and valleys of love through the years, I have never ceased to adore women for the wonderful creatures they are. and redheads rock.... *redhead here...  *
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*redhead here... *
Woot Woot! You go girl! 
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