U r absolutely right,that's why I called u an expert surgeon.

One has to be an expert to start a conversation?

Learn a foreign language. Introduce yourself in that language. She probably won't understand, so you get the chance to say, 'I'm sorry, you're unusually beautiful, and I assumed you are from (country x).'

Actually this does kind of work. A guy I was with spoke Russian. Though his first attempt kind of failed. We were hiking and he carved something to me in a tree and I freaked out that he carved on a tree. LOL. But it was sort of sweet. He often told me how beautiful I was in Russian. It was very sexy.

I want to say something. I banter off different people on here all the time. Most notable Ruth, Ms. Harmony, Singmesweet and KLC. In life, you learn not so much from the people who agree with you but THE PEOPLE WHO DON'T. I learn so much from these women even if sometimes it's in the form of getting my azz handed to me like last week I insensitively said the phrase "most women". Oh boy. But I learned and grew from that. I learned that women who I do not consider to be "most women" have been lumped into the category of "most" at some time WRONGLY so when you make that statement they take affront. It's much how I dropped like a hot potato the use of word retarded. Now in my circle, people commonly say it to mean stupid BUT I dated a guy whose Downe's sister is his world and met another guy who works with the special olympics and learned that there are azzholes in the world who ACTUALLY CALL THE MENTALLY HANDICAPPED BY THE WORD TO HURT THEM which it never ever entered my mind that people were that hateful. So it was a bad habit and I dropped it.

As far as me sewing things up, it brings to mind an image. My ex brother in law who is DO who goes by Dr.Ari is amazing at suturing people. My ex mother in law, sat him down with his suture thread and needle and wash clothes. She taught him by having it sit for hours and sew on wash clothes. He is amazing in his work. If you have to have someone not a plastic surgeon sew on your, you want Dr. Ari. Me? Did my compassion for guys and my real hatred of seeing them emasculated and degraded just come naturally? No course not. It came from my brother and my mother teaching cub scouts and my brothers zillion friend and dealing with hemophiliacs and now currently programmers and a lot of male comedians. I have in life sat on the couch with the male ego wash cloth and sewn under expert supervision. I have put in my time in that department. Probably more than too much time honestly. You can't expect everyone in the world to have the same experiences. And while my friends love me and say things like "You get'em Tiger". There is only one me and my ex husband will tell you as much as he loves me to death THANK GOD THERE IS ONLY ONE TERRI AND SHE OPERATES AS AN ARMY OF ONE. I do not take offense to this in the least. Where would Mingle be without the Singmesweets and KLC's of the world and their opinions? Their don't take cr*p and being degraded by people. Their having enough self esteem to say "I don't like that". It's a good thing. I mean we also need the girly girls. How boring would the world be if everyone had my hatred of diamonds? How sad would that be if another guy never knocked the air out of woman by proposing and whipping out a gorgeous ring? That would be like if you stopped all breeding of dogs to the point there was never another pure bred golden retriever puppy!! How sad!! So in life, you need the cutters aparters and the sewer back togethers BOTH. And all play both those roles at different times.