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Topic: I hate myself
PacificStar48's photo
Tue 12/06/11 10:10 PM




Please feel free to ignore this

I know this is stupid and people will just roll their eyes at this but I really think I hate myself. I look in the mirror and hate everything I see. I don't know what it is. I blame myself whenever something goes wrong. Even when I know I am not at fault I still find a way to tell myself that it is.

If I get dumped, its because I wasn't good enough. If someone ridicules or insults me, I feel like I deserved it. And when someone compliments me, I think they are lying to be nice. I can't help it. And when I try to blame the person who hurt me, I end up feeling even more guilty because I know I can't blame them for being who they are.

I want to change but I just don't see the point. I no longer trust people because all I have ever known is lies.




I have to say you have touched a nerve with me on this one as I feel exactly the same way you do.


shocked noway Navygirl!!! No. frown Really? :cry:


Yep, really. Why do you think I have been single all my life?


Navy you are and awesome person from what I have seen and I think any guy would be lucky to have you. Keep your standards high and sometime when you least expect it you will just knock some guys socks off!

amaria90's photo
Tue 12/06/11 11:42 PM
Edited by amaria90 on Tue 12/06/11 11:44 PM
Just like I said in Afri's topic I'd like to say again here:

You affected a change just by sharing your pain. Now look at all these people who posted just to help...

LIFE MATTERS... don't let anybody tell you differently... EVEN YOURSELF

John 10:9-11

New International Version 1984 (NIV1984)

9 I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved.[Or kept safe] He will come in and go out, and find pasture. 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

11 “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

Jesus said this to give you hope... that he is always with you without him this world would not have been made...

navygirl's photo
Wed 12/07/11 07:09 PM





Please feel free to ignore this

I know this is stupid and people will just roll their eyes at this but I really think I hate myself. I look in the mirror and hate everything I see. I don't know what it is. I blame myself whenever something goes wrong. Even when I know I am not at fault I still find a way to tell myself that it is.

If I get dumped, its because I wasn't good enough. If someone ridicules or insults me, I feel like I deserved it. And when someone compliments me, I think they are lying to be nice. I can't help it. And when I try to blame the person who hurt me, I end up feeling even more guilty because I know I can't blame them for being who they are.

I want to change but I just don't see the point. I no longer trust people because all I have ever known is lies.




I have to say you have touched a nerve with me on this one as I feel exactly the same way you do.


shocked noway Navygirl!!! No. frown Really? :cry:


Yep, really. Why do you think I have been single all my life?


Navy you are and awesome person from what I have seen and I think any guy would be lucky to have you. Keep your standards high and sometime when you least expect it you will just knock some guys socks off!


Aww, you are very kind and sweet lady. Thank you for those kind words. flowerforyou

navygirl's photo
Wed 12/07/11 07:18 PM

Just like I said in Afri's topic I'd like to say again here:

You affected a change just by sharing your pain. Now look at all these people who posted just to help...

LIFE MATTERS... don't let anybody tell you differently... EVEN YOURSELF

John 10:9-11

New International Version 1984 (NIV1984)

9 I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved.[Or kept safe] He will come in and go out, and find pasture. 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

11 “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

Jesus said this to give you hope... that he is always with you without him this world would not have been made...


You certainly have a unique way of looking at life.

pyxxie13's photo
Thu 12/08/11 02:35 PM
You are in direct control of how you will allow people to make you feel. ((hugs))

navygirl's photo
Thu 12/08/11 02:49 PM

You are in direct control of how you will allow people to make you feel. ((hugs))


That is great advice but when people consistently put you down; its hard to believe that. You often wonder what did I do to deserve this or am I really a bad person? When you self-esteem is destroyed by others beating you down, it is hard to get it back.

Conrad_73's photo
Thu 12/08/11 03:05 PM

Please feel free to ignore this

I know this is stupid and people will just roll their eyes at this but I really think I hate myself. I look in the mirror and hate everything I see. I don't know what it is. I blame myself whenever something goes wrong. Even when I know I am not at fault I still find a way to tell myself that it is.

If I get dumped, its because I wasn't good enough. If someone ridicules or insults me, I feel like I deserved it. And when someone compliments me, I think they are lying to be nice. I can't help it. And when I try to blame the person who hurt me, I end up feeling even more guilty because I know I can't blame them for being who they are.

I want to change but I just don't see the point. I no longer trust people because all I have ever known is lies.


Give this a try!
Or at least have a look at it.

http://www.emotionsanonymous.org/

similar Programs work for other Life-problems.:thumbsup: waving

no photo
Mon 01/02/12 10:32 AM
If I was to write a decent reply to this I'd be here all day. All I will say is that you are not alone, many people feel this way they just hide it very well. There is nothing wrong with you, this is normal. I for one am the most paranoid person EVER!! Yet my friends think I'm the most funniest outgoing person in our group. I think we just all find a way to hide who we really are..

teadipper's photo
Mon 01/02/12 12:13 PM
Am I the only one thinking THERAPY LOTS AND LOTS OF THERAPY?

I mean that in the ABSOLUTELY KINDEST NON-DEGRADING WAY.

And with your looks, I am wondering if you have body dysmorphic (sp) disorder which soooooooo many people only thinks happens to women and it happens to TONS of guys. You look in the mirror and don't see yourself as you are.

Jenknee's photo
Mon 01/02/12 12:36 PM
I am very hard on myself, some people would be shocked. The older you get, the more you realize though you need to be kind to yourself.
When you look in the mirror, take a look at the INSIDE, not the outside and find the good.

The Man In The Glass

by Peter "Dale" Winbrow Sr

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn't your father or mother or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass.
The fellow whose verdict counts most in you life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
You may be like Jack Horner and chisel a plum
And think you're a wonderful guy.
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
He's the fellow to please-never mind all the rest,
For he's with you clear to the end.
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass.
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you've cheated the man in the glass.

The End.

I do have to say that I have to pass one other being's judgement and that is God's.

no photo
Mon 01/02/12 02:15 PM

Am I the only one thinking THERAPY LOTS AND LOTS OF THERAPY?

I mean that in the ABSOLUTELY KINDEST NON-DEGRADING WAY.

And with your looks, I am wondering if you have body dysmorphic (sp) disorder which soooooooo many people only thinks happens to women and it happens to TONS of guys. You look in the mirror and don't see yourself as you are.

Seriously??!! Out of order right there!! :O

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