Is there some Taboo sign that says you can't come over a girl you're talking to if she has another guy over and they're just friends

yes... but not really, some guys will anyway, i prefer not to...

good call moe

cuz ya never really know if they are just friends or if ur interrupting something......else..........

The reason why I ask is because if I came home from work and my boyfriend had a female that he knew over I wouldn't get jealous cause that would show I'm insecure in his love and don't trust him...
So why would you prefer not to come over???

if I came home from work and my boyfriend had a female here who was not my mother or the cleaning lady, he's be looking for a new place to live

I also always have people dropping by to see me I wouldn't want a guy to distrust me

behaving in a way that does not give room for misinterpretation is my choice

it is not everyone's I'm sure

when I am "attached" I do not entertain other singles males in my home - unless it's one of my boyfriend's freinds who is waiting for him

I can understand from that point of view... I also would like some other people opinion on this cause it will determine what i do in the future... Do you mind asking if some people will post their thoughts on this if you're comfortable with that???

only if she wanted me to meet him, otherwise it is not my place to interfere...

well, boyfriends are a different idea altogether...if he's your BF, and had another girl over while you were not home, then you should cleaned house with the both of them. There is no reason for this, and you, by not saying anything or hitting him with a frying pan, just opened the door for him to do it all the time. if he is your BF, there is no reason for this, and you should have made a big deal about it so it would never happen again.

If you were a friend and you had invited me to come over, then yes I would come over and talk. I wouldn't normally just stop over anybody's home uninvited, with the exception of a few very close friends. If a male friend is unwilling to come over if you have another friend already there, I would be a little suspicious of his motives. Unless of course you know the person is uncomfortable around new people.

I have been very close with a few women that were in relationships and I have always told their partner up front to feel free to let me know if they have any concerns.

If you were out in public and I didn't know you I would never walk over and intrude on a conversation.

So your bf cant have female friends . . . that is a shame your insecurities have robbed his life of possible friendships.


Recently one of my very close friends had trouble in his relationship, why? Well it was becuase he has a tender heart and tried to help another troubled couple with advice.

His friends wife was asking advice on marital issues, he said come on over and we can talk about it over coffee.

Well his wife found out that his friends wife was over with him and no one around . . . and her imagination ran wild and now she thinks he is screwing around.

Personally, I would NEVER assume infidelity based on my imagination alone. That to me is the biggest failing a person can have, is to allow their fears to influence their behaviors toward the one they love.

To me its absurd the things you do out of fear . . . oh no you cant go being alone with another person of the opposite sex, WHY? becuase I cant trust you without supervision is what that says.

REALLY? Cant trust me? Well then we shouldn't be together at all is my response. Why? Because the first step toward commitment is the level of trust this couple clearly does not have . . . . if one person has taken that step, yet the other has not this is a setup for these problems, one will innocently not understand the others fears . . .

What did his wife say when confronted with this . . . well the other female is known to play around on her husband . . . SO WHAT, that has NOTHING to do with the trust you either have, or do not have for your husband.

Nothing to misinterpret if you do not IMAGINE something that needs interpretation.

What is there to interrupt . . . I had a friend over for coffee, or a friend was in the neighborhood and decided to drop on by.

I think you should try to interpret why you have such fears, and work to remove the fear, not place burdens on your love.

I agree that its a trust issue. If I couldn't trust a man to be alone with another woman other than me; then the relationship should just end. I can't be around him 24/7, so trust is a big factor.

I'm unclear on the scenario.

If male A is your boyfriend and male B is just a friend, then male A should be comfortable, but you should introduce male A to male B as your boyfriend and use behaviors to reassure male A that there is nothing between you and male B. If you have had sex with male B, you should not be friends, that's called "keeping a foot in the door". Honesty and communication is very important in a relationship, that's the meat and water on which relationships feed. If you don't feed your relationships, then they will die.

I believe that a relationship shouldn't lose you friends..either one
BUT,,I ALSO strongly believe in the one simple fact that WE"RE ALL HUMAN,,and as such,,WE THINK TO MUCH SOMETIMES,,,SOoooooo
I TRY and NEVER put myself in a situration that MIGHT lead to ANY thoughts in my lovers mind where I HAVE the time and ability to EVER be alone with another women that she MIGHT not know yet,,or COULD THINK wrongly of my time spent with her,,,,,SO THAT kind of thought can't be even THOUGHT,,,because it takes the ACT of letting THAT happen to be seen ever as a MAYBE he and her????
NO,,,I KNOW how thoughts CAN be over thought,,and WHY LET A SEED START,,IF YOUR IN LOVE WITH YOUR WOMAN?,,,or guy,,,lol
At least THATS my thinking into your question here?
I can SEE ANY and ALL my friends jointly with her OR,,,in a public place more fitting for being seen by many...

Over HALF of my good friends I have grew up with,,who LOOK,seem,,act and to everyone BEHAVE,,in a manner that shows that.
BUT----------------->THEY CHEAT,,,one,,,or the other,,or BOTH,,,its very SAD but THATS just a truth and a fact to THEM...
THEY,,just do it very privately,,,and to me,,,THAT SUCKS!