I did not do the diamond thing with the ex. As part of the ceremony, I got a thin gold band. Which he sold the first time he was out of work.

Rick, on the other hand, dug through my jewlery box one day, ( He spent over half an hour looking ) found 3 rings he liked and yelled from upstairs, "Hey, this silver ring with the blue stone, did you buy it?" "Ohhhh, Robiiin, the one with the purple square stone, did you buy it?" Yes again. ( Thinking about that day still brings a smile) After the forth question he called me upstairs and held my hand, got down on his knee and told me that he did not ever want to live without me and that he would be delighted if I would marry him and be his wife. He then sliped this 25 dollar ring on my finger, without waiting for me to say yes. ( which I did, say yes that is.) Then he proceded to tell me that I could never, ever take it off. I said, except for when I made pie dough. That was ok by him. Only then.

You know what, I kind of liked the thought that he was marking his territory. I kind of liked that he wanted to shout to the world that he choose me. I really liked that I was hands off to other men and taken. Never felt that way before. So, yes, I would wear a diamond (real or fake) or any other ring someone wants to give me as a symbol of our commitment.

I do agree that having a ring won't guarentee fidelity.

If I have to pick up his clothes off the floor, wash his smelly socks and dirty underware, Wipe his nose and make him soup when he has a sniffle, lug around his camera, and wallet in my purse cause he doesn't want to carry it. Have his babies ,listen to him Bi--tch about his job ,keep the house clean .iron his clothes ,remind him its his Mother's Bd, humour him when he really thinks he knows the directions,watch his stupid football games with him ETC. ETC. Etc.
I WANT THE RING .Darn it

I am wondering if anyone else feels this way. When I was 18 and my brother was 24, he was a well known graphic artist. He got engaged to a beautiful 6 foot tall blonde model from New York. She refused to wear a diamond engagement ring. She said it was how grown men peed on trees and marked territory. In my estimation, according to Jeanne's philosophy, Khloe Kardashian had been peed on by a Bull Mastiff.

This really stuck with me for life.

Now that I am older, I do not (regardless of the guy's income) like diamond rings. I do not like the idea that some people correlate how much your husband or boyfriend loves you based on the size of a lump of super compressed coal on your finger. Whether or not your husband or boyfriend can afford the billion dollar ring, it bugs me. My ex husband could afford the big ring. I did not want one but in our culture it is expected as the future mother in law often thrusts in it everybody's faces who will look. I have my ex wedding date tattooed on my wedding ring finger as that was about as permanent as I could see as a commitment.

I don't care if my sig. other can afford the huge ring, I don't want it.

I also dated a martial artist who said, "Don't wear things worth more than your life. P.S. NOTHING is worth more than your life" so I can't see wearing a million dollar ring even if the guy can afford it.

Guys seem to understand this concept better than women for some reason. I wondered if anyone else had this point of view?

The circle represents eternity and representaion of the meaning of the choice of marriage. It's not an ownership, but a representation of the sacred vows of the people that entered into the convenant of marriage. Do I need jewelry? No absolutely not, but I would wear a ring representing the vows I made to another to remind of the promises I made before the world to another. To remind me of my sacred oath and honor that bears it.

That's a great story.

ok..I know I have been joking about this so now I will be serious.
I was married to a wonderful man for thirty years ,til death took him from me.
When I feel sad ,lonely or rejected I often put my engagement ring and wedding band back on.It makes me feel closer to him and then no matter what he is still with me.
Then I go back into memory lane and remember how excited and happy we both were the day he proposed and then our wedding day.
Many years have since gone by but that diamond still shines and sparkles brightly and it is a constant reminder of the Man I loved so very much and who loved me back just as much.
Of course I don't need the ring for that, but to me its the beautiful symbol of our commitment to each other and I am happy to have it.

ok..I know I have been joking about this so now I will be serious.
I was married to a wonderful man for thirty years ,til death took him from me.
When I feel sad ,lonely or rejected I often put my engagement ring and wedding band back on.It makes me feel closer to him and then no matter what he is still with me.
Then I go back into memory lane and remember how excited and happy we both were the day he proposed and then our wedding day.
Many years have since gone by but that diamond still shines and sparkles brightly and it is a constant reminder of the Man I loved so very much and who loved me back just as much.
Of course I don't need the ring for that, but to me its the beautiful symbol of our commitment to each other and I am happy to have it.

Wow.

Hey Ruth
its true..a man actually liked me once

Hey Ruth
its true..a man actually liked me once

one liked me once toO

not funny

one liked me once toO

Awwwww....

Jerry ..there you go again.

Any man who doesn't is an idiot.