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Topic: Men to claim to be "nice guys."
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 11/05/11 11:30 AM
I was just clarifying, since she had mentioned me saying something about not answering questions.

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sat 11/05/11 11:36 AM
I've been here long enough for all to know I am a total whore. But a nice one. I second that! Are you stalking me again? Maybe! so he's letting us stalk him again? I thought he was taken? Oh! he is taken. Mine! hehehehe You go girl! Whoot Whoot!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sat 11/05/11 02:40 PM
I've been here long enough for all to know I am a total whore. But a nice one. I second that! Are you stalking me again? Maybe! so he's letting us stalk him again? I thought he was taken? Oh! he is taken. Mine! hehehehe I know silly She's rather dominating isn't she?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 11/05/11 06:05 PM
Indeed. Again, its more evidence that we all define 'nice' differently. You have every right to feel put off by early-on personal questions. I would not think it strange of you to include that as poor manners or not nice. Personally, I have little problem with questions if Im interested in someone. Its not part of my personal definition as such. it may be a dynamic in the interest level. I hadn't really thought of that I just tend to be slow to warm up to a new man. I also have vert well defined personal boundaries and few get in. But I am an extrmemely nice person and I thing you & sing are too

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 11/05/11 06:07 PM
it is best not to try to change someone and once we realize that we make our "search" a bit more cumbersome but hopefully worth it. I agree not answering questions in a relationship is rude, and they should be answered - even during "the game" if not immediately, in a timely fashion but nosy poke into personal business type questions from a man I JUST met raise my suspicions...(as in what is he after?) nonetheless, not all questions deserve an answer - I do not answer all questions. In fact, I often choose not to answer questions, but if pressed I will tell him that I prefer not to discuss the subject. People are entitled to emotional privacy. Depending on the situation, I can see not answering questions that are myob. If a man does not want to date me because I won't relate my sexual history or other personal details, then he can find someone else - I don;t really care....and if the conversation isn't going to flow naturally without a game of 20 questions, then there will most likely not be additional dates. yet I do consider myself a nice person, and I do not think it is nice to ask numerous personal questions of someone who u just met. It may be a cultural thing as that is how I was raised. of course with a partner I am inclined to answer most - if not all -questions - but there is an emotional connection & trust at that point When I said something about someone not answering questions here, it was about finding out what he was talking about, as it didn't make sense. And him not answering did not help explain anything. It wasn't anything about needing to mind my own business. Oh, I know that singme, Im sure she didnt mean you. Sweet has mentioned prying questions before as troubling to her. She meant with regard to getting to know a potential. Like 'how many sex partners have you had?' type questions. npw ladies just imagine that question on a first date! I'd be inclined to say 7001 just to see the look on his face

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 11/05/11 06:07 PM
I've been here long enough for all to know I am a total whore. But a nice one. I second that! Are you stalking me again? Maybe! so he's letting us stalk him again? I thought he was taken? Oh! he is taken. Mine! hehehehe I know silly She's rather dominating isn't she? she's a nice lady goof good luck to u both