if a guy told you he wanted to "explore his options" would you be inclined to take him back - after his explorations...?

Yes, and then I would make his life a living hell!

actually I'm inclined to say no

No.

thank you

LOL ...I like how you think!

devious she is...

sadly instead of politely declining and finding a better man, I think a lot of women do exactly whta she is suggesting

not to say that those in that category don;t have it coming to them

no... i have had that happen to me a couple times, and they both wanted to come back... why should i only be their choice when its convenient for them?

exactly
I have also been soft hearted for that BS before - never again

actually even tho I took him back, I broke up wiht him shortly thereafter

things just were not the same

he was never able to make me feel like I was his #1 and that's a must....

If someone says that to me, I'm obviously not their first choice. I'm not going to be waiting around when that 1st (or more) choice doesn't work out.

right

just cracks me up that guys think we are gonna be OK with that

I'm not upset about it now - but a few yrs back I was - I had put a lot of heart into that relationship for what?

never again - I have learned not to bother....from the school of hard knocks

live & learn I guess & try to pick'em better

well goodnight y'all

I have to get to sleep

so I am bright and fresh so I can complain with conviction in the morning

I think it takes people a long time to grow up. I also think some of them never do.

I NEVER take back what I have tossed to the side. There is a reason to why it ended. Why go back for seconds when there is a ocean of others that may not be the same.

You are so right and I was making a joke. I would never take a man back if he left for the reason Sweet gave. My mother always told us never go back. If it wasn't right the first time, it won't be right the second time. Some do succeed, but I think the odds are against it. Besides, if I took him back I would always wonder...I would wonder about what happened when he was exercising his options, I would wonder if he really, truly wanted to be with me, I would always wonder...

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I suppose it could be possible - (to kiss & make up for example)once in a great while - I rarely ever say never

people can be stubborn sometimes, and people make mistakes

if there wasn't a commitment in the first place and the person had a new attitude....it's possible but wanting to try out other women cannot have been part of the reason for things having cooled off < that might be my "never"

having had to move for work or school, or not ready for a relationship at the time due to a life stress

I do not find that these dynamics change much as a man ages - it;s more an attitude of the person

tho one would hope age would have some effect - it's not always an indicator of a fickle heart

in that scenario I agree

we explore options when we buy a car or a dress...with a partner exploring options mean dating

but even if I date someone who tells me that I would interpret it to mean he is not interested - we want to feel special

guys who go for sex right away and then say they are just exploring their options when you won;t cooperate are total losers

oh and an edit - when we DO cooperate and they say that it's even worse....these are the same guys who then complain about women making them wait - well HELLO if u weren't a total player.....

It's less about growing up and more about how they realize what they've missed a bit too late, because they were busy looking for something elsewhere.