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| Topic: relationships- does age make a difference???? | |
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I think there are always exceptions to every rule. The only advice that most people ever act on is their own.
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its all emotional age and compatibility and we should take each person individually,,, that being said, as a mother, I dont just consider myself but my family unit and how it will be affected I couldnt date anyone born within a ten year period of my oldest child, out of respect to him, which causes me to have a minimum age of 30. I also wouldnt date anyone more than a decade older than myself simply because I have been there and done that and as time passes it does make a difference in the relationship when one person has already been through experiences and struggles that the other has yet to even fathom. I prefer to have a peer compatibility where we are likely to be at a similar point in lifes journey. Good afternoon Harmony!  My daughter is 42, soon to be 43. Five years ago I met and fell in love with a man who. at the time was 43. My daughter was 37 and I was 57. He was closer to her age than mine, it was never a consideration for us and I think it was because my daughter understood and embraced the love he and I shared. She adored him.
thats cool too. In our family, the family dynamic involves family roles though. Anyone I were to be involved with would be potential husband material and therefore a potential father figure. For that reason, I could not expect such a relationship with my son and someone who was young enough to have gone to school with him. Everyone has a different family dynamic though. I would have a parent/stepparent type relationship within my family unit so it would be important to me to be able to reasonably expect the kids to see them as a parental figure. Then you are saying that a necessary criteria for having a family dynamic that involves roles, i.e. parenting, is age? If that is what you are saying, I totally disagree. I have known many young people in my life who were/are wise beyond their years. Also, the establishment and implementation of family roles would only be affected by the interaction between the biological parent and the step-parent. In other words, if they present a united front and employ fair parenting technique, the children should accept and respect the younger step-parent as an authority figure within the "family dynamic"...... |
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Well I have known Tea for a short time but I have learned she is an amazing lady! Through our chats I know what she wants and she has found it!! Age only matters if it matters to U and in this case I think they have both found every thing they want in a soulmate!! Tophat seems like a fine man and I for one, wish them the best in life!! 
Mikey and I are tight so he is required by law to say that. No, I love him. He's a great guy. Whoever ends up with Mikey is blessed. Seriously. He's very very unique. One of my quirky amazings. Thanks Mikey. |
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its all emotional age and compatibility and we should take each person individually,,, that being said, as a mother, I dont just consider myself but my family unit and how it will be affected I couldnt date anyone born within a ten year period of my oldest child, out of respect to him, which causes me to have a minimum age of 30. I also wouldnt date anyone more than a decade older than myself simply because I have been there and done that and as time passes it does make a difference in the relationship when one person has already been through experiences and struggles that the other has yet to even fathom. I prefer to have a peer compatibility where we are likely to be at a similar point in lifes journey. Good afternoon Harmony! My daughter is 42, soon to be 43. Five years ago I met and fell in love with a man who. at the time was 43. My daughter was 37 and I was 57. He was closer to her age than mine, it was never a consideration for us and I think it was because my daughter understood and embraced the love he and I shared. She adored him.
thats cool too. In our family, the family dynamic involves family roles though. Anyone I were to be involved with would be potential husband material and therefore a potential father figure. For that reason, I could not expect such a relationship with my son and someone who was young enough to have gone to school with him. Everyone has a different family dynamic though. I would have a parent/stepparent type relationship within my family unit so it would be important to me to be able to reasonably expect the kids to see them as a parental figure. Ms Harmony before I proceeded I really did ask my very close friend who is much younger than me but the same age abouts as Tophat's oldest how she felt and she is not the type to BS and she was cool with it. They are grown and I know I would never IF we got married be their mother or even try, they have a mother but I would hope that I would be someone that they trusted and enjoyed and were at the very least happy that their father had for his sake and knew that I was good to him and respected their relationships with him. It was also important to me that Tophat is not a bridge burner meaning he treats his ex wife very well which is the relationship I have with my ex husband. I would not want to walk into a war zone. And if my friend had said absolutely not cool, stay away. I would have respected that but she did not. She said if her father had to divorce her mother and she had to have her father remarry someone, she would hope it was me because I have been such a good person in her life. |
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its all emotional age and compatibility and we should take each person individually,,, that being said, as a mother, I dont just consider myself but my family unit and how it will be affected I couldnt date anyone born within a ten year period of my oldest child, out of respect to him, which causes me to have a minimum age of 30. I also wouldnt date anyone more than a decade older than myself simply because I have been there and done that and as time passes it does make a difference in the relationship when one person has already been through experiences and struggles that the other has yet to even fathom. I prefer to have a peer compatibility where we are likely to be at a similar point in lifes journey. Good afternoon Harmony! My daughter is 42, soon to be 43. Five years ago I met and fell in love with a man who. at the time was 43. My daughter was 37 and I was 57. He was closer to her age than mine, it was never a consideration for us and I think it was because my daughter understood and embraced the love he and I shared. She adored him.
thats cool too. In our family, the family dynamic involves family roles though. Anyone I were to be involved with would be potential husband material and therefore a potential father figure. For that reason, I could not expect such a relationship with my son and someone who was young enough to have gone to school with him. Everyone has a different family dynamic though. I would have a parent/stepparent type relationship within my family unit so it would be important to me to be able to reasonably expect the kids to see them as a parental figure. I can totally understand your point about having someone older as a father figure. I know of a few couples where the family unit has fallen apart because the child won't accept mom or dad with a younger person and also won't accept them as being a stepmom or stepdad because of age. Myself; I couldn't be with someone younger than me because they just don't have the life experience that I have. They may be wise beyond their years but wisdom does come with experience and age. I also think as we age; we see things very differently and change our minds about what we want; desire; or even how we view life. I can think back about how I was at 30 and now being 51 and I am a completely different person. I would also think that would happen in a relationship and that younger person may think what the hell was I thinking? However; I am sure there are exceptions to this; but have never personally known a couple of mass age difference that have stayed together. |
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