Topic: I need help...
ChristinaLostLette's photo
Sun 10/09/11 08:16 AM
I'm feeling depressed. Dealing with life sucks, not dealing with life is worse.

My daughters sperm donor is getting married, my ex-husband has a new girlfriend, I'm home alone.

People shouldn't have to be this alone ALL the time....or EVER

Rusty_Knight's photo
Sun 10/09/11 08:31 AM

I'm feeling depressed. Dealing with life sucks, not dealing with life is worse.

My daughters sperm donor is getting married, my ex-husband has a new girlfriend, I'm home alone.

People shouldn't have to be this alone ALL the time....or EVER


Nobody can help you better than *you* Christina.

Get into the forums and start posting. You will make new friends here if you put the effort into it. Talk to your doctor about your depression. It *can* help.

You are young and beautiful, and must have friends that you can hang out with. If you were closer, I'd introduce you to *my* daughter who is almost in the same situation as you. 18, single, and has a 8 month old baby. But she is grabbing hold of life and doesn't seem to ever stop. Always visiting friends, calls both her mom and me to go for a coffee or burger.

I don't know your whole story, so it's not my place to make any sort of recommendation to you, except... whenever *I'm* feeling lonely and/or depressed, I have only to look around me and find others in a lot worse shape than me. My best friend lost his left leg in and industrial accident, but was awarded a couple million in a lawsuit. He was doing good until the recession crashed the stock market and he lost ALL his investments. I look at *his* situation, and see he is not depressed... is trying to find a way out of his current crisis... is always upbeat and cheerful... so what do *I* have to complain about? It always picks me back up and gets me off my butt.

You *just have to do it* girl... dust yourself off, and GO GET 'EM

flowers

Isabel36's photo
Sun 10/09/11 09:06 AM
Will be praying for you today ....hope you feel better soon.
flowerforyou

hotbtm4u64's photo
Sun 10/09/11 01:26 PM
Get a dog ..or a cat ?

kc0003's photo
Sun 10/09/11 08:30 PM
sorry to see you are dealing with some of the pitfalls of a normal life, but once you stop focusing on what the men from your past are doing and concentrate on being comfortable being you, I think you will find less and less to worry about.

being alone is far better than being with the wrong person.

no photo
Sun 10/09/11 09:04 PM

I'm feeling depressed. Dealing with life sucks, not dealing with life is worse.

My daughters sperm donor is getting married, my ex-husband has a new girlfriend, I'm home alone.

People shouldn't have to be this alone ALL the time....or EVER
You come here among us strangers to speak this..

You will hear your beautiful,,you can find someone new,,better.

And your hear,,grow-up,,we've all lived this,,and we got over and through it..

many will say its just an issue NOW,,and it will seem lessafter more time has passed..

Some might even offer you them,,tomeet and take your mind off the pains..

As for me,,I say keep on feeling sorry for how you have been treated
Cry every chance you get, throw yourself at the mercy of any and everyone you can find..don't ever forget or forgive those bas--tards.
Never feel a hunger to go forward,,never smile for your child to see,,and be this nasty hateful lady who no one wants to be around,,even your own child..crys for YOU....I mean,,,why only be HALF INTO IT,,go all the way,,,,,
LET THEM ALL KNOW YOUR NOTHING AND YOU CAN'T GET BACK UP,,SO THEY CAN ALL LAUGH AT YOU AND MAKE FUN OF YOU TO THE WORLD...
LET YOUR CHILD KNOW HOW THEY CAN MAKE MOMMY HURT AND CRY....
LET THEM SEE YOU IN MISERY AND PAIN ALL CAUSED BY OTHERS..

And your child will grow to hate you and never feel important or know the real meaning behind the WORD "LOVE",,because YOU were so busy rolling in your own self-pity,,you didn't have time to teach THEM what was killing you,,,YOU DIDN'T TEACH THEM DIGNITY AND VALUE OF SELF-WORTH...for IF you had THAT,,,you wouldn't be wanting any of us here to try and tell you how Important YOU ARE TO YOU!

I HOPE,,THIS,,spared you a year of thinking about what to THINK and DO....you have a very full-time job,,,teaching your child,,EVERYTHING THEY NEED TO KNOW....and as they GROW,,your know THEY will be HERE one day ,,,just like you,,,BUT,,their know through your teachings NOW,,,that its just a mountain to climb over,,and look for another one that catches their eye to try...
LIFE is NOT EASY,,,and LIVING IS PAINFUL...but our values as the PERSON we KNOW we are,,,will shine and live through ALL that can be thrown at us,,and we GROW MORE through each Mountain we cross over,,and THIS MY DEAR,,is just one of your Mountains to cross...
Long live WOMAN,,,long live MOM,,,,long live Christina,,,:heart:

Your baby,,,,waits for you,,to show then their way,,,,God Bless YOU BOTH,,and good luck on finding all that YOU already are...:wink:

pennyg281's photo
Sun 10/09/11 09:16 PM
I know how hard it can be. Try focusing on things that make you happy. reach out to friends and family or find some new friends by getting involved in a church or doing some volenteer work you also might try checking with you local human resources directory their may be single parent support groups in your area.