I wonder if it's good or bad. I have this unique way of meeting people. Most guys take ladies out to dinners or movies for a first date. I take them shopping. I'm 41 years old, in a wheelchair. So, when I met a 20 year old; I thought, "No way she would ever have feelings for me." So, I just acted like I wanted stuff to work out between her and this other guy. Well, after a unbelievable summer of fun. She's getting married to this guy, and she has some pretty strong feelings for me. Don't know how I feel about that. In all actuality; yes, I'm quite hurt that we didn't fall in love and I may not be spending a lot of time with her after the wedding, and yes, it hurts. Realistically; I'm twice her age, her and her daughter need someone who can go on walks with them, run around in parks and on beaches with them, and grow-up and grow old together. I'm glad she has feelings for me, and I'm glad I share those feelings with her. But, something is just not right.

seems like things are all good in the neighborhood. if everything you have done is on the up and up, then as a good friend you should be enjoying her happiness. if you had sinister plans to get her hooha then something is not right indeed

I don't think I have sinister plans. We've always had this close, play-tonic love and appreciation for each other. The other day when I said I love you there was a wine in her voice when she said it back to me. I'm just sad that we won't be hanging out to much after the wedding. But, then again, life goes on, things change, we all have to adapt.

So you acted like you wanted things to work out for her.

Sounds like you shot yourself in the foot.

no. I do want her to be happy, I do want it to work out: I just feel like I'm losing a good friend. Not really losing; but, soon she'll be tied down with a hubby and kids. That's my biggest fear....what will happen?... Kinda pathetic. I'm acting like the kid who feels ignored because of the new born baby. (I'd say this is a taste of my own medicine)...... Yep.... I'll develop a great relationship with a girl, and she'll get jealous when I move on.

she has strong feelings for you,
but she's not in love.
they're not that strong then,
are they?
especially if she's getting married.

You take women shopping to get them to like you, then you lie to them like you did with his girl to get them to be closer to you? How's that working out?

You take women shopping to get them to like you, then you lie to them like you did with his girl to get them to be closer to you? How's that working out?

I'm not getting you sing.. It's been good, we've had fun. the only "lying" I've done was telling her that I thought she should be with someone who she can grow up and grow old with, and that's the way it should be. She knows that I love her. But, whatever my feelings are towards her; I do have a sense of right and wrong. Oop, gotta go make her lunch.