Someone is spying on you when you are on the forum? I know I do all the time and I know who it is How about all you others? Do you ever get that feeling? Good or bad

Who is it Kater....an EX?

HEHEHAHA What the hay on the forum every body reads the forum. I can see why you feel like your being spied on. That is cute Katertots.

Actually i was being serious cherokee...yes it's an ex of mine that I had to go into hiding a week ago.

The forums are for public view....but if this person should start to attack you in the forums or start sending you abusive, harrassing emails then I'd report them.

I already knew that Cat he has harrassed me on the phone and emails and he has been reported..just not here. I think he knows that I would report him to Mike or Van if he harrasses me here.

Is he on this site? That he is able to spy on you?

unfortunatly yes he's on the site. i won't reveal his name though not unless he starts harrassing me in the open. He also has friends here that has been spying on me too..he just won't tell me who they are.

Smart thinking Kater...it's times like this you'd just wish they'd leave you alone. Good luck to ya girl

that sucks...

I thought my neighbor-hood sucks but that sucks even worse.

I know, it really sucks. He already posted something here about me on friday..yeah it was something nice but he told me over a week ago that he cancelled his membership here so I could have at least one site without him. He lied to me again. I'm just tired of having to watch over my shoulder all the time. I've done it before 2 years ago and I'm tired of it.

we are available here...to be read. we make ourselves available to anyone who reads us and views our profiles, it's kinda vulnerable no matter how you look at it. If you put up a mask first and screen people for some months , you run the risk of being called a fake, if you give up the real deal, you practically set yourself up for some kind of disillusionment.

The WWWeb is a fascinating exploration and we are finding our 'destinies'
(and there are many destinations) in a totally new way.

maybe we will learn (remember) that we need more than virtual reality to glean what we need to build healthy and balanced relationships.
but that is not to say that virtual reality does not have it's value or it's real relationship to actual life, as we meet one another and physically interact.

i see it like another tool that shows me once again what i call up from the world around me and that out of all the millions of people that lurk and read or mail or post... this collection that i have been received by, is a part of my reflection and a part of what i am being presented with to look at and learn from .

i have been pretty lucky i guess when one looks at the odds. Katers knows me from a way back...I have met and have works of art in progress with many of the people i have met on this site.
do they spy on me?? maybe.... i doubt i am that interesting to spy on for too long...lol

i think it could get pretty messed up if the person i had met online and allowed into my personal life, lived close enough to show up whenever they wanted.... especially when we have kids.

katers, this subject has alot of merit....

spying in the forums or stalking also tells us something of the character of the person doing it. some people can deal with possessiveness, some even crave it, think it's evidence of commitment and devotion, but i find it A RED FLAG. to a certain degree is is a human reaction to rejection or failure of expectations, but if it is acted upon rather than rationally dealt with, it can be very ugly. Obsession is a dis-ease.

there are so many wounded hearts .... we each manufacture mechanisms to cope with our experiences, automatically,usually still in shock, and then have to later realize we are still running it and it no longer applies.

Thank you Alex and you know who i'm talking about too.

he'll get over it..

....or face the wrath of sisters united!

I hope so. He says he's over me but i don't believe it. I've had these feelings before and as usual i was right.

{{{{{{Kate}}}}}}

Just stay safe....as far as I'm concerned, that's all that matters...

(((((((((Puffins)))))))))Thank you hun. I know it would hurt but if I have to run I will

Kat take care of yourself, we lve you and want to see you safe and happy.

Oh andif he causes you any trouble, refer him to the music man. If the monkey doesn't get him, an endless series of mind numbing polkas just might.

i'll remember that(((((((((((SheNerd))))))))))