I think it's great he is wanting to understand women but I see more important issues buried behind the gender drama. For instance, why are those situations he mentioned bothersome to him? What is it that frustrates him so much that it has to become an issue about women when in fact it's an issue about his experience? And there are many more similar questions that have more relevance. Not much gets accomplished when it becomes about sides.

Its not that I don't like good men; I just prefer one with a backbone.

As a guy, I'm curious about women and why they do certain things.

Such as:

When complimented on her clothes by another woman, they feel the need to go into a backstory about how they obtained said clothing and the deal they got on them.

They are showing you that clothing and looking good is important to them.



They go to the bathroom in small groups after complaining the night before about how long the lines are to the bathroom.


It's a herding instinct, safety in numbers, pack thing....don't try to fathom it...it isn't logical, it's social/emotional.



They go shopping for a jacked, are gone for 6 hours, and come back with a pair of shoes, two belts, a purse, and no jacket.


Because they didn't find the jacket they had their mind on...simple.


My male brain is of course completely unable to rationalize any of this using science, mathematics, physics, or any type of known logic. Ladies, can you please shed some light on this?



It isn't logical, it's emotional....men think...women feel....it's really quite simple.

well I won;t be hitting you over the head because I agree completely - I do not like the gender wars in here - I mean a few cute jokes once is awhile is fine but what really gets me is that this is a DATING SITE - bashing the opposite gender in the threads may not be the best way to impress the opposite gender

I know I'd be reluctant to date a man who had hostility toward women as a gender or who tended to make negative generalizations (called mysogyny) about females

First, if someone compliments ME, then yeah, I'll say thank yo9u (and probably blush, I'm good at blushing). If they compliment my clothing, or an accessory, I tell them where I found it so they can get one if they want.

On Bathrooms and long lines: Going in a group serves four purposes: 1, it gives us someone to talk to while we are IN said long line. 2, It gives us a chance to talk about things we might not want others in the party to hear (girl talk). 3. Occasionally, there are zippers or buttons we might need help with (This is usualy only a problem in formal ware: For example, the bride is GOING to need help with her dress while she's in the rest room) and 4, Safety in numbers. Public restrooms (especially in parks, rest stops, and bars) can be really shady.

On shopping: I won't buy something if it's not exactly what I am looking for, so If I go shopping for a jacket, I might not come home with a jacket. If, however, I find something that I was looking for previously and couldn't find (perfect shoes, new purse) I might go ahead and get them now. After all, they might not be there again when you go shopping for them specifically). Also, the act of walking around the store, looking at the merchandise and maybe chatting with a friend is therapeutic, even if you aren't buying anything. I have often left work in a mood, took an hour to stroll around the mall on the way home, and felt much better.

Haha, I think some of you are reading too much into this. It was meant to be a simple musing / half joke. The generalizations are funny because for the most part they are true.

Individual experiences don't mean much to me because, sure, you dated a guy / girl who was this or that and while it's interesting to hear your story, it doesn't do much to help us understand or explain the other gender as a whole.

But Aries, how do you expect to learn about the the other gender before learning your own or yourself? Even the desire alone, you wanting to learn about women, says something about yourself. (This is true with everyone about everything). The rest (i.e gender difference ) will follow and reveal itself in ways no one here or anywhere else can tell you.

PS: To me your musing wasn't funny or offensive, at least not in a gender related way. That's why responded sincerely.

The slaphead guy cracked me up.