Yep, it becomes obvious when they don't mean it genuinely.

..it sorta like syrups on your pancakes in the morning it is such a fine line between not enough and too much,not enough and it kinda leaves the pancake a little dry tasting and too much leaves a big splotch of syrup on your dish and ya wonder if it would be ok to try and put it back in the bottle but then you see these little bits of

pancake in there and ya start thinking about it not being such a good idea so you wind up wasting a bunch of syrup and you know like somewhere down the line there will be a time when you wished you had that wasted syrup because you made some pancakes and found you were all out of syrup and you remember the day you wasted that syrup and how you thought this day would come..... ..a fine line..

And that's why I'm not a fan of using these terms all the time. Those who do are not genuine about it. Being called the same thing that they call everyone else isn't a great thing.

They are not generally used in California. Women especially are likely to find it condescending.

However, with family and loved ones, it's common. I use them all the time with my family.

Well I got to meet Debra winger and Shirly McClain when they fimed part of that movie in Lincoln and Debra was so gracious and nice!!!

That's a great observation. Most people I know who use them with acquaintances are not natives to CA.

How about your family? Do they use them? Mine don't but my family is weird anyway.

u think YOUR fam is weird

my sons & I are reasonably normal. but my family of origin - love 'em - wanna see more of 'em

but a little different??? Oh hellya...that could be an entire thread topic....or Lex's next book

we can start a weird families club

My family doesn't really use them.

If it's someone I'm close to, I'm ok with it for the most part. But, I really don't know a lot of people who use them all the time. So, when I meet people who do, it's always really weird.

Thank you. It took me a long time to understand that not all parents/families are like mine. Oh, I think we should start a weird family thread.

Funny how similar some of our experiences are even though we have such different backgrounds.

I use them all day every day. When I say them to my woman, it is different than the inflections I use with everyone else. Yet, it is all in how smoothe you are at actually using them. I call our 76 year old receptionist "Baby" every day and she loves it!

I use terms of endearment to pretty much every dude I meet too. Bro, Brother, My Good Man, Motherf***er, Yo white boy, Baby .....

It is all in the delivery.

I grew up in AZ and spent the majority of my Adult Life moving around from place to place with my ex . .Co,Az,Id,Or,Wa I never really used pet names except for my kids. Then I moved to Texas :) Everyone here calls people hon or sweetie or baby. . . and the kids are taught to say yes mamm and yes sir, its just apart of their culture and I love it. :)

I have to disagree that it's all in the delivery. It may help, but it's not going to make me not roll my eyes when someone overuses them.

you look like mona lisa in that picture!

uhhhh...not EVERYBODY uses them...

this

I have to disagree that it's all in the delivery. It may help, but it's not going to make me not roll my eyes when someone overuses them.


Then you don't have the slightest clue. You said it yourself...You don't use terms of endearment in your family. We do. I will go on experience on this one instead of someone who was raised without using affectionate terms regularly.

Your family ripped you off by not talking to you better. Probably why you keep trying to talk down to people.

And you're talking down to me because your family talked to you better? Uh huh.

Get the hell out of my face.
I talk nice to people cause I want to.

There is nothing between you and me so keep your crap for the next guy you are gonna make miserable.

We owe nothing to each other. I gave an honest opinion. Save your condescending b!tching for someone else.