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Topic: The Battle of the sexes
Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Tue 09/06/11 03:12 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Tue 09/06/11 03:14 PM
Today I was in a conversation about some of the games that men and woman play and how I didn't appreciate it when a man pretended to want to do some business with me to build a web site for him but I soon discovered that all he really wanted was to get some sex. Well, the conversation deteriorated and the guy I was talking to drew a line in the sand when he began a sentence with "You women.....blah blah blah... stating the things that women do. I told him to stop. "You women" is a generalization and an insult to me. I am not the spokesperson for "women in general" and I did not want to be accused of doing things that some women or he thinks women in general do. Can we just be people? Can we drop the battle of the sexes? Can a man and a woman really be friends without the sex thing coming up? I believe we can, but it must be a very rare thing.

MrBiscuit Joined Tue 05/17/11 Posts: 1996	Tue 09/06/11 03:28 PM
I lol'ed at "the sex thing coming up" I have many Lady friends, and what I really like is the friendships I have with them. They are all my best friends, and I wouldn't want it any other way ^_^

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Tue 09/06/11 03:41 PM
We should be able to. Unfortunately, we tend to revert back to the blame game when things don't go our way and it's very easy to pull out the old baggage and generalize. Women always nag, men are inconsiderate and selfish, women always leave the toilet seat up (ooops, sorry ), you get my drift. If we were all more honest and open with our feelings to include hurt and why we feel it, we would be a more authentic and loving race. Just my two.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Tue 09/06/11 04:08 PM
"Let's not fight anymore! Be my girl!"

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Tue 09/06/11 05:13 PM
This game should be decided on penis length. I WIN!!!!!!!

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 09/08/11 11:58 AM
Today I was in a conversation about some of the games that men and woman play and how I didn't appreciate it when a man pretended to want to do some business with me to build a web site for him but I soon discovered that all he really wanted was to get some sex. Well, the conversation deteriorated and the guy I was talking to drew a line in the sand when he began a sentence with "You women.....blah blah blah... stating the things that women do. I told him to stop. "You women" is a generalization and an insult to me. I am not the spokesperson for "women in general" and I did not want to be accused of doing things that some women or he thinks women in general do. Can we just be people? Can we drop the battle of the sexes? Can a man and a woman really be friends without the sex thing coming up? I believe we can, but it must be a very rare thing. Yeah...fully agreed to you...!! To my wonder I see plenty of posts here are generalized. Its a sign of unmatured,irrational,unbalanced thinking. many topic headings are like why do boys,why do girls,why men,why women,why american women,

Gwendolyn2009 Joined Thu 04/30/09 Posts: 328	Thu 09/08/11 09:19 PM
Today I was in a conversation about some of the games that men and woman play and how I didn't appreciate it when a man pretended to want to do some business with me to build a web site for him but I soon discovered that all he really wanted was to get some sex. Well, the conversation deteriorated and the guy I was talking to drew a line in the sand when he began a sentence with "You women.....blah blah blah... stating the things that women do. I told him to stop. "You women" is a generalization and an insult to me. I am not the spokesperson for "women in general" and I did not want to be accused of doing things that some women or he thinks women in general do. Can we just be people? Can we drop the battle of the sexes? Can a man and a woman really be friends without the sex thing coming up? I believe we can, but it must be a very rare thing. I am a woman, not a man: I do not want to be stripped of my femininity. We do not have to become sexless in order not to war. And yes, men and women can be friends without the sex thing coming up.

Sandelwood4 Joined Sat 08/13/11 Posts: 466	Fri 09/09/11 11:23 AM Edited by Sandelwood4 on Fri 09/09/11 12:09 PM
Today I was in a conversation about some of the games that men and woman play and how I didn't appreciate it when a man pretended to want to do some business with me to build a web site for him but I soon discovered that all he really wanted was to get some sex. Well, the conversation deteriorated and the guy I was talking to drew a line in the sand when he began a sentence with "You women.....blah blah blah... stating the things that women do. I told him to stop. "You women" is a generalization and an insult to me. I am not the spokesperson for "women in general" and I did not want to be accused of doing things that some women or he thinks women in general do. Can we just be people? Can we drop the battle of the sexes? Can a man and a woman really be friends without the sex thing coming up? I believe we can, but it must be a very rare thing. This has been the biggest struggle for me all my life and most of my male friends are gay. You bring up something very important here because our self image of ourselves is closely connected to the existing relationships we have in life. What could be more valuable than being accepted and seen for who we are independent of our gender?

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 09/09/11 12:40 PM
Today I was in a conversation about some of the games that men and woman play and how I didn't appreciate it when a man pretended to want to do some business with me to build a web site for him but I soon discovered that all he really wanted was to get some sex. Well, the conversation deteriorated and the guy I was talking to drew a line in the sand when he began a sentence with "You women.....blah blah blah... stating the things that women do. I told him to stop. "You women" is a generalization and an insult to me. I am not the spokesperson for "women in general" and I did not want to be accused of doing things that some women or he thinks women in general do. Can we just be people? Can we drop the battle of the sexes? Can a man and a woman really be friends without the sex thing coming up? I believe we can, but it must be a very rare thing. This has been the biggest struggle for me all my life and most of my male friends are gay. You bring up something very important here because our self image of ourselves is closely connected to the existing relationships we have in life. What could be more valuable than being accepted and seen for who we are independent of our gender? Exactly. I have had male friends who were not gay. It is possible. Men, just like women, can see people as people without the gender thing popping up. I am guessing that men have the same problem. Some men might feel like they should not become friends with a woman for fear they might get the wrong idea. So I think we should simply be as honest as we can with each other if that is possible. If you are honest, and tell someone that this is strictly a friendship or business relationship and nothing more, it better be TRUE. And you should stand by that. Also if someone tells you that, you should take it as gospel. Don't think that it "might change." If it does change, you need to realize that and be honest about it. What is so hard about being honest? It is not as easy as it sounds. Try it.

Sandelwood4 Joined Sat 08/13/11 Posts: 466	Fri 09/09/11 12:56 PM
Today I was in a conversation about some of the games that men and woman play and how I didn't appreciate it when a man pretended to want to do some business with me to build a web site for him but I soon discovered that all he really wanted was to get some sex. Well, the conversation deteriorated and the guy I was talking to drew a line in the sand when he began a sentence with "You women.....blah blah blah... stating the things that women do. I told him to stop. "You women" is a generalization and an insult to me. I am not the spokesperson for "women in general" and I did not want to be accused of doing things that some women or he thinks women in general do. Can we just be people? Can we drop the battle of the sexes? Can a man and a woman really be friends without the sex thing coming up? I believe we can, but it must be a very rare thing. This has been the biggest struggle for me all my life and most of my male friends are gay. You bring up something very important here because our self image of ourselves is closely connected to the existing relationships we have in life. What could be more valuable than being accepted and seen for who we are independent of our gender? Exactly. I have had male friends who were not gay. It is possible. Men, just like women, can see people as people without the gender thing popping up. I am guessing that men have the same problem. Some men might feel like they should not become friends with a woman for fear they might get the wrong idea. So I think we should simply be as honest as we can with each other if that is possible. If you are honest, and tell someone that this is strictly a friendship or business relationship and nothing more, it better be TRUE. And you should stand by that. Also if someone tells you that, you should take it as gospel. Don't think that it "might change." If it does change, you need to realize that and be honest about it. What is so hard about being honest? It is not as easy as it sounds. Try it. I would like to have more straight male friends, somehow it never happens though.