Appearance can be misleading, I don't think I know how to put this politely but I don't think I am attracting the right type of guy not only am "big boned" or large framed for a petite sized woman I am seriously overweight... but want to slim down to my pre preganncy weight... with that said I dont' know what to do as far as attractiing someone that will love me for me despite my problems and all.

any help that is realistic would be nice?

Suggestions taken with thought before action...

Learn to like who you are and be happy with yourself. Confidence will come along with that and that confidence will attract men.

oh well I have always been complimented by guys... I just dont' know how to say nicely I am not interested in a quick lay... but I manage and then I dont' get no one for a long time...
hmmm

thanks for the advice...

this one has puzzled me most of my life

on the one hand, common perception is that people have to have a physical 'chemistry' to develop a relationship (thus the categories for sexual preference, clearly based on nothing but physical differences between one gender and the other)


on the other hand, enlightened and moral perception is that chemistry can be DEVELOPED only after getting to know a person(Which would kind of make it irrelevant what their physical make up was)


,,,Id say, there are a handful of people who can meet people and get to know them and DEVELOP an attraction that becomes physical

and others (most)that cant develop if the physical attraction doesnt happen immediately


I think the majority look at the physical first, however politically incorrect it is to say so, and their minds shut out possibilities with those who dont fit those pre determined 'physical' standards


on the internet, because there isnt a chance to develop the chemistry that face to face might encourage, I think people look mostly at physical attributes before going further,,,

,,,good news is, I do think there are people with all types of physical standards,,, some like more meat, some like less, some like tall, some like short,,,some like teenagerish, some like mature


but its hard for all of us to find people who match our standards whose standards we also meet,,, so ID say,,,finding someone shouldnt be much more difficult or easy for one person than it is for the next,,its all in knowing yourself and having confidence alone,

hihintlove, people always will judge you for how you look like, but I came to realize that as long as you are comfortable and happy in your skin. If you are not, well think of ways to change it, if you need to loose weight, do it, if you need to get a new wardrobe, save up and do it..just as long as it makes you happy and you are not doing it for someone else.

All the best princess

as everyone said before... i think that what makes u attractive is CONFIDENCE. u need to learn to love urself first... trust me, when the right guy shows up he will love u despite ur weight. I really don't think this should be holding u back from being happy. Just enjoy ur life and as i said u will surely meet the guy of ur dreams and he will embrace and LOVE everything u are...!

as everyone said before... i think that what makes u attractive is CONFIDENCE. u need to learn to love urself first... trust me, when the right guy shows up he will love u despite ur weight. I really don't think this should be holding u back from being happy. Just enjoy ur life and as i said u will surely meet the guy of ur dreams and he will embrace and LOVE everything u are...!