I do think we all have a few soul mates.But finding the same one that you are each others at the same time,or same person.Is the reason for the search.
If that makes any sence!

Now, i think the term SOULMATE doesnt exist. Its just a myth

how unfortunate for u ashton

I'm calling BS on this - a soulmate will not intentionally cause pain - unless he/she is unaware and perhaps awareness is the crux of the matter

but being made aware, a soul mate will not cause pain

I am not sure what a "Soul mate" really is.
I tend to like people that are totally opposite to me but on the same token share many of the same qualities.
I guess I just don't think about "Soul mates" But if we get along really well and enjoy each others company,then I am a happy camper.
Just take a day at a time and enjoy it.

I guess you just don't understand what I mean.

If you lack the patience or the faith in your soul mate so much that being separated (for a minute or for a lifetime) would break your heart, then you are not really soul mates. That's just my opinion.

Awareness is the crux of the matter. If you know and have faith that your soul mate will always love and understand you perfectly and you believe you have eternity, and you will see him or her again, then one lifetime apart is but a minute in the face of eternity.

It has nothing to do with intentionally causing anyone pain. Pain is only the result of your own lack of acceptance of what is.

Pain, impatience, fear, etc are all self created mental constructs.

You can never lose your soul mate and you can never lose your true love because you don't actually own another sentient being in the first place.

You can only love them.

Unless you lose your own ability to love, you can love them always.

True love is unconditional and divine and it does not require that love to be returned for it to remain true.

I agree with this. Only I don't think they are so hard to find.
Life has a way of working itself out and people enter and exit
our lives at precisely the right moment, even if it doesn't seem
like it at the time.

I agree!

I view the idea of soul mates as a 'soul I've known before'. There is a sense of familiar when we meet again like I already know you. I think soul mates help us evolve and that they are not necessarily the romantic kind of relationship.

Perhaps that is why they are seemingly so rare. If love has to fit inside a box that we recognize, perhaps we are missing the point...

Yes! It is a case of like attracts like, or the law of attraction.

No, seriously i think its a myth. After experiencing the love with my ex one can only think of this. Peeps say the right one will arrive on a specific time. Ask some old geezers, they are still waitin for the time they will meet their soulmate. Maybe soulmates are very rare. Most of the mingle women are divorced. At the time of marraige, they thought they found their soulmate? I know im young to say this. Hope this doesnt makes me a bad guy

The idea of a "soul mate" is just an idea. If you are expected to believe that there is only one perfect person for you, yes, that is a myth of sorts. I think it is just something to describe the ideal mate that you hold in your thoughts and your mind.

If we were all flawless or all perfect loving human beings, every other flawless person would be our soul mate.

Finding your "soul mate" is about finding someone whose flaws don't bother you and who accepts your flaws or your flaws are equally compatible or a good and perfect match or trade off.

Everyone has one, just might be on the other side of the world. You have to be completely open to what form it takes (I am talking it might be a different race). You will know it when you are in their presence, the bad part is, they may be your soul mate but are you theirs?? In the end it's a c*ap shoot.

I think the key is to find out WHAT a soulmate is and how it relates to YOU personally. There are many that don't believe in the "soul" concept.

For me, personally, a soulmate would be someone that is walking the same path as me. Someone who has love for all, some or a few of the things that I adore in life. He gets me. He laughs at my stupidity and listens to my occasional rantings. He doesn't critisize; but keeps me in check with different ways to look at my thoughts. A laugher. A motivator. A protector. A gentleman.

I never thought my x husband was my soulmate; but I would have died for him.

I really don't think there's just one person out there for everyone.

My problem with the traditional "There's one certain person out there for everybody" mentality is just this -- who's making the determination of which one is "supposed" to be with each person?

Because the moment you turn it into a sort of "assigned" position, you've got to deal with the issue of who's doing the assigning, who's in charge of the whole thing? Life just isn't that organized or considerate.

I've been with people in the past, people I really felt I clicked with. I don't know that I ever thought about them as "soulmates" -- I don't remember the thought ever crossing my mind. And, inevitably, the clicking turned into some sort of insidious time bomb which created a nasty mess when it finally went off, as time bombs are inclined to do. I think relationships are more about circumstance, exposure, and random chance than they are about superstition and nebulous imaginary forces.

I think stigma can play a part in the whole thing. The way the world views certain types of behaviour or certain types of people. One of my friends was telling me how she wouldn't ever date a typically good looking guy, just cos she believed they wouldn't want a long-term relationship. I just shrugged. There's no pleasing some people
I told her that that's quite a shallow view to have. Just because someone is what you consider to be hot, it doesn't mean they don't want a committed relationship. See, just one of many stigma's in this world. If she doesn't wanna take the time to know them, then more fool her. Just cos she's a buddy i don't have to agree with her about everything. :shrug:

For one thing , if there is such a thing as a "soul" I'm pretty sure they don't "mate". So there you have it. Surely nobody is gettin in on in heaven.

does everyone have a soulmate? heck no. everyone has lots of them!!