I am with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now, this is my fourth long distance relationship with him but I can sense that there's a sudden changed in him now. We're planning to end the distance, but while the long wait is still on the process.. I can't help it, but my instinct is telling me something. I want to ignore it, but its getting stronger.. Advice please.. Thanks!

Don't ignore your little voice. It may be telling you something you need to know. Good luck.

Hey Beautifully blessed woman there,

First of all six year is too long a period for such a "long distance relationship". I am smelling something fishy in here. Just in case, check more things before you board a plane.

But if you are confident in yourself and your inner heart is telling you to go forward, then listen to it.

All you have is today, for tomorrow is not here yet and yesterday is already gone.

What you are waiting for?

Jump of your couch and take action before time runs out for you.

Good luck in your new relationship.

I will be interested to know your progress.

Wish you all the best for both worlds.

Salim

USmale47374's right.....don't ignore your litle voice....
My suggestion is...RUN!!!!!! I experienced this BS b4...so...RUN.....RUN..RUN...leave him!!! He can be replace anytime...but borken heart over him, so NOT worth it..so..ditch him!!!..

May I ask what is it you feel? Six years is a long time. My experience was like this.

I was in a relationship with a guy for 5 years. I in California and he in New York. For 5 years he kept telling me he wanted to leave NY and move to Cali and get married.

All the signs were there but I ignored them. Once I met an old girlfriend of his here and she asked me, "does he do that disappearing act on you too?" I said if you mean does he come back and forth from NY to Cali, yes he does. Each year there was one excuse after another for why he couldn't move, til I had had enough and ended it. Five months later I found out I was pregnant with my last child. Ask me, is he still in NY? yes he is.
So if feel something is wrong then don't ignore it look into things and find out. I wish you all the best.

I'm a bit confused over here. Your profile says that you are a 33 year old man from Quezon City, Manila looking for woman for friendship????

That one threw me Sand....I am trying to think about it but it aint clicking cause Chikka's posts have been nothing more than honest opinions with no motives. Seems cool to me.

That's fine. I'm just asking if he's gay or if he made a mistake in his profile. Totally valid question, no?

Chikka...follow your instincts.

Confusion and uncertainty are natural things but, almost 6 years?

Something is up and you know it. Hope for the best but, prepare for the worst.

Not really my concern though I am kinda curious about that myself. In time it will iron out.

Just from the posts Chikka has popped out..I gaurantee that she is a woman. A soft spoken woman.

I'm sure he/she will respond him/herself. No need to be over protective. We're all friends here.

May I ask what is it you feel? Six years is a long time. My experience was like this.

I was in a relationship with a guy for 5 years. I in California and he in New York. For 5 years he kept telling me he wanted to leave NY and move to Cali and get married.

All the signs were there but I ignored them. Once I met an old girlfriend of his here and she asked me, "does he do that disappearing act on you too?" I said if you mean does he come back and forth from NY to Cali, yes he does. Each year there was one excuse after another for why he couldn't move, til I had had enough and ended it. Five months later I found out I was pregnant with my last child. Ask me, is he still in NY? yes he is.
So if feel something is wrong then don't ignore it look into things and find out. I wish you all the best.


I felt being stabbed on my back, moments like when you woke up you'll just feel something isn't right, then times like you feel nervous even if there's no reason at all but all you could think about was him. There were nights when I would just cry myself to sleep thinking how could it felt like this.

I am still on the process of trying to figure things out, more on how to loose the feeling slowly but still making things work out with him. But I am trying to be prepared emotionally so as not to loose myself on the process. But my hopes are still up, wishing it could turn out a happy ending. Thanks for the reply.

I was in a relationship with a guy for 5 years. I in California and he in New York. For 5 years he kept telling me he wanted to leave NY and move to Cali and get married.

All the signs were there but I ignored them. Once I met an old girlfriend of his here and she asked me, "does he do that disappearing act on you too?" I said if you mean does he come back and forth from NY to Cali, yes he does. Each year there was one excuse after another for why he couldn't move, til I had had enough and ended it. Five months later I found out I was pregnant with my last child. Ask me, is he still in NY? yes he is.


So did you tried asking him to be with you and your child after finding out you were pregnant? Sorry for being selfish on my reply, I also hope you all the best..

That's fine. I'm just asking if he's gay or if he made a mistake in his profile. Totally valid question, no?



I'm sure he/she will respond him/herself. No need to be over protective. We're all friends here.


Sorry for that mistake, I was totally confused when I made my account. My main purpose then was to gain advices, so I didn't checked my profile. Anyway, to end your confusion.. I am 100% feminine, 27 years of age. Thank you for that, I've corrected it already.

Last LDR was good, but now that we're having it again I can feel that there's something wrong. I am still on the process of figuring things out or maybe waiting for truth to turn on my hand. Thank you for that, I really wanted to have an advice from a man's point of view. Because he said he will follow me here, so you think I should wait or I should leave him? Honestly, I am preparing myself emotionally. But I am still wishing everything will be ok.

its tellin you to get the phuck out while you have the chance

I'm sure he/she will respond him/herself. No need to be over protective. We're all friends here.


Sorry for that mistake, I was totally confused when I made my account. My main purpose then was to gain advices, so I didn't checked my profile. Anyway, to end your confusion.. I am 100% feminine, 27 years of age. Thank you for that, I've corrected it already.

No problem.