Hi all,

I just thought I would get some independent advices. I have a friend that is currently dating two guys at the same time. She is my best friend but I am so morally apposed to this that I cannot stand the sight of her or the thought that I might be comforting her along in it. In all the time I have known her she has never done anything like this. She has made mistakes but never did something she knew would hurt people. What would you do in my place?

keep my mouth shut.

You were right I told her how I felt and now I feel shitty

No offense but, what business is it of yours how your friend lives? As far as I can see, a friend is a friend and you support your friends,

If your problem is your friend is humping guys you don't like...then your friend aint the one with the problem.

If you feel badly, you could apologize for speaking out of turn.

The problem is I am not sure I want a friend that would date two guys at once.

should feel shitty...unless it's because you have a kick on her

the truth can be spoken in so many different ways
and true friends should be able to be truthful with each other

You should be able to express any genuine 'concerns' with her as she should with you, but be careful how you express those concerns

there is alot of difference between a tone of concern and one of accusation,,,


I had an acquaintance who thought there was no harm in having an intimate friend while her husband was out to sea,,, I am opposed to cheating and misleading people so we eventually stopped hanging out so much because I felt so torn hanging out with her and her husband and smiling at him knowing what she was doing,, likewise with her and her boyfriend

and she spent so much time with one or the other, or wanting to discuss one or the other, it kind of kept us from having anything to form a relationship around anymore,,,

The issue you both fail to address is complete sluts in American society....

Eventually, you guys will have to deal with it.

Shrug it off. You have spoken and if your "friend" has any kind of morals...she will work it out. You have spoken your mind, enough said.

best advice ever.
since you already opened your mouth, you are never going to be able to repair the damage done. much like ms harmony said, if this friend of yours doesn't have the same thought pattern on the subject as you, it might be best to bail now before things get really out of hand. it's good to open your mouth to a friend about their behavior, when it's destructive and is leading to their physical or emotional down fall. that is being a friend. other wise you should support your friends choices even if they differ from your own

If she asked for your advise, that would be different.

What would I do in her place?....would continue being her friend....no matter what she does says or do

Thanks guys,

These posts actually helped me a lot.