Community > 50 and over

Topic: Older men and younger women
mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Wed 04/25/12 05:24 PM
I have a rule that says "I will not date or get involved with anyone younger than my children".. I've seen that alot and the results are not good..And I don't want to embarass my children.. Actually I would consider someone 58+ but really prefer someone closer to my age.. However , I have lots of much younger friends that I go places with...

babyzuky Joined Sat 06/23/12 Posts: 2	Sat 06/23/12 11:20 PM
There is nothing wrong in old men dating someone younger. As long they undastand themselves, no props

babyzuky Joined Sat 06/23/12 Posts: 2	Sat 06/23/12 11:24 PM
Ur children shud be able †̥ understand if U̶̲̥̅̊ talk †̥ them

pinstipper Joined Fri 08/21/09 Posts: 1	Thu 09/06/12 08:12 AM
Well here it goes, I have found the reason younger women like to date older men is in most cases older men are calmer, have more time for romance, are more romantic, down to earth, more patient and genuine. I have been told that the reason I attract younger women is I am real, genuine, enjoy doing the little things younger men seem to think is not important. I also have been told that I am sweet, thoughtful, caring, up front, honest, down to earth, fun to be with. I enjoy many different things in life, I am cultured, respectful of others, willing to do things my date enjoys and make sure things are not one sided ( only what I like doing ). I am well humored, polite,loving, caring and make sure she is comfortable with me and enjoys being with me. To make a good relationship work regardless of age it has to be a mutual give, take and have great respect for one another in all phases of your relationship. Last but not least sex comes into play, you have to be understanding of her needs, wants, and desires. Most men do not take the time or are willing to talk with their mate to find out what gives them great pleasure and to meet or exceed that pleasure she desires, she needs to be satisfied, desired, made to feel sexy, sensual and that her playfulness is appreciated, respected and held confidential. I hope this is helpful to those who read this and can appreciate what I have to say, thank you for your time reading this and hope this helps some of you in the future

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 09/06/12 09:53 AM
I don't believe in it...and don't understand it..I've know a few women who married men 30 or more years their senior..and with out fail it was for what they could get from him and all had friends with benefits on the side. I don't believe in it for myself but as I said to each his/her own. I just can't relate to a younger guy what it feels like to age; or what it feels like to have to end a career, or what I have experienced over my life time. How the heck can I relate that to a guy who has no life experience? To me there is no relating to that. The man in my life must have experience..life is too short to raise another kid. Yeah; I agree with that. I think the only reason a younger man is interested in me is for sex and a place to live. I know I can't compete with a younger woman that is beautiful and has the perfect body. Why would I kid myself into thinking that he wants me for me? You hear of so many stories of younger men and women who literally clean out the bank account of the older person that they are with. I don't like being used by guys my age; why would I let younger guys use me? I am smarter than that.

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Thu 09/06/12 02:00 PM
Ur children shud be able †̥ understand if U̶̲̥̅̊ talk †̥ them My children don't tell me how to live my life or who to date.. Its me that sets the limits.. however thats not set in stone..

indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Sat 09/15/12 05:03 PM
... Why would I kid myself into thinking that he wants me for me? ... Younger guys may be watching to much porn about cougars.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 09/15/12 05:05 PM
... Why would I kid myself into thinking that he wants me for me? ... Younger guys may be watching to much porn about cougars. Yeah; they can be easily influenced.

suds00 Joined Mon 01/16/12 Posts: 34	Sat 09/29/12 09:40 AM
i'd feel weird with somebody of a different generation.don't care for piercings,tatoos,funk,rap,etc.

northenlights1 Joined Sat 06/02/12 Posts: 66	Sun 10/07/12 11:02 PM
I I think it could work, if the older person could keep up

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15310	Wed 01/23/13 02:31 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 01/23/13 02:37 PM
Is it wrong for older men(50&up) to want to date or mate with younger women.(30's or so) Who is the judge and what is the virdict. Maybe the question should be is it wrong for younger women to date and mate older men. whats your thoughts? If a Old man can attract a Young woman; then I say he must have got lucky. Many Young women do not want a man 20+ years older. Most Young men are much more active.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15310	Wed 01/23/13 02:32 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 01/23/13 02:34 PM
When I was Young, I wanted a Young man.

Patricio60 Joined Sun 09/13/09 Posts: 10	Tue 02/12/13 10:09 AM
All that I can offer to this question is that following a 38 year marriage that ended in divorce due to lack of interest on both of our parts, I met and married a woman 23 years my junior. Six years later I lost her to cancer (she was 1 day past her 43rd., birthday.)I would gladly have lived those first 38 years over again just for one of the 6 years I had with my deceased wife. She had 2 children and I raised them as my own. One is now a police officer and the other is a law student. As others have mentioned, age is just a number. It's your life...LIVE IT! I'm sure that my children could care less that I was 23 years older than their mother. Theirs is the only opinion that would concern me.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Tue 02/12/13 10:53 AM
INTENTION = RESULTS Any age CAN make it work, if their intentions are true. If there are hidden agendas, alternative motives & a LACK of thinking it all thru. As with ANY RELATIONSHIP, there WILL BE PROBLEMS. OPINION

longhank1 Joined Tue 12/24/13 Posts: 5	Tue 12/24/13 08:11 PM
As long as thair happy.That's all that matters

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 12/25/13 02:12 PM
i'd feel weird with somebody of a different generation.don't care for piercings,tatoos,funk,rap,etc. Yeah; I see lots of younger guys with piercings and tattoos. Its a real turn off to me. When I meet younger guys; its like we came from two different worlds as they are clueless about life.

dgjackel Joined Thu 10/24/13 Posts: 1	Wed 12/25/13 10:17 PM
young people aint got much for smarts. try some old guy and learn something new for you.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Wed 01/01/14 06:05 AM
What about older women & younger men? Best marriage/relationships I have seem to go that direction.

Kandy4321 Joined Mon 12/30/13 Posts: 120	Thu 01/09/14 05:20 AM
Is it wrong for older men(50&up) to want to date or mate with younger women.(30's or so) Who is the judge and what is the virdict. Maybe the question should be is it wrong for younger women to date and mate older men. whats your thoughts? What are you feeling guilty? Guess so.. your hiding behind dark sunglasses.... I just wanted to get that off my chest.. I don't usually speak to anyone wearing sunglasses here or without a photo.. as for your topic.. that is your business...

BlkmatureMan57 Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 137	Sat 03/15/14 01:58 AM
Its cool if you both have things in common.Maybe you was kinda slow growing up and she was fast growing up.Seems like you both would have that in common.