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What do you do when someone won't let go of the relationship? I can be a friend but that's all. I realized there is no lasting future because of our differences. I've tried everything I can think of other than being means as hell. Nope, come to think of it I tried that too.
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Edited by
exxman
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Fri 08/12/11 03:01 PM
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Sometimes being a friend is walking away so they can let go. It's not easy but i have someone who has done that for me and i can say i have cared enough about a few women to have walked away for them.
All you can hope is the best for them, and that is why you walk away. We did not talk for a while and i don't recall how much time passed, year or two but our paths crossed again and our friendship was still there. My eyes had opened on what had happened to us and the one thing i knew for sure, she knew what i wanted and she understood what she couldn't give me and that was why we parted. Glad to have our friendship now though. I can still trust her to be a friend. |
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yea when I tried to break it off with the ex he said "let's not cut it off at the kneees" and I said" no, let's," then he said "let's be friends" so I agreed to that then he started calling me, emailing me etc.........finally told him I've moved on maybe he should well that's when he got mean, said all kinds of mean things (so hey I said some mean things back which I should of just ignored him in retrospect) . For some being friends with an ex works out but for others the ex just doesn't want to move on, let go, still hoping you'll change your mind. You just have to decide if it's in your best interests ( not his) to end it once and for all..
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Then you just ignore them...
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Sometimes it takes cutting the tie completely. If they can't get over you you can not give them any type of food.
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Sometimes being a friend is walking away so they can let go. It's not easy but i have someone who has done that for me and i can say i have cared enough about a few women to have walked away for them. All you can hope is the best for them, and that is why you walk away. We did not talk for a while and i don't recall how much time passed, year or two but our paths crossed again and our friendship was still there. My eyes had opened on what had happened to us and the one thing i knew for sure, she knew what i wanted and she understood what she couldn't give me and that was why we parted. Glad to have our friendship now though. I can still trust her to be a friend. So you mean have no contact at all? Don't answer phone calls, emails and so forth? |
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Thanks everyone, I've never been in a situation like this before.
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Honestly just look him in the eyes and take the emotions out of this. Let him know that will always care but you can't be what he needs you to be.
No one should blow someone off, always be straight from your heart and hopefully they can understand and respect you to move on. Just be concise in your message to him and say look I am done with this relationship, you have to move on or we won't be communicating at all because you can't respect my decision. Hopefully he will check himself and say i understand and i am sorry. |
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Edited by
exxman
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Fri 08/12/11 03:51 PM
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And if he is a confrontational type person( You know), then maybe a letter from your heart or phone call is the best way. But either way you do it make sure your emotions are not what you let be your answer. Let your heart tell you what and how for him and this situation.
But no matter what draw your line and don't show weakness. Let your belief in why and how lead to your answer's. Hugs ya n best wishes,  Robert |
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What do you do when someone won't let go of the relationship? I can be a friend but that's all. I realized there is no lasting future because of our differences. I've tried everything I can think of other than being means as hell. Nope, come to think of it I tried that too. |
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Sometimes being a friend is walking away so they can let go. It's not easy but i have someone who has done that for me and i can say i have cared enough about a few women to have walked away for them. All you can hope is the best for them, and that is why you walk away. We did not talk for a while and i don't recall how much time passed, year or two but our paths crossed again and our friendship was still there. My eyes had opened on what had happened to us and the one thing i knew for sure, she knew what i wanted and she understood what she couldn't give me and that was why we parted. Glad to have our friendship now though. I can still trust her to be a friend. So you mean have no contact at all? Don't answer phone calls, emails and so forth? |
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Sometimes being a friend is walking away so they can let go. It's not easy but i have someone who has done that for me and i can say i have cared enough about a few women to have walked away for them. All you can hope is the best for them, and that is why you walk away. We did not talk for a while and i don't recall how much time passed, year or two but our paths crossed again and our friendship was still there. My eyes had opened on what had happened to us and the one thing i knew for sure, she knew what i wanted and she understood what she couldn't give me and that was why we parted. Glad to have our friendship now though. I can still trust her to be a friend. So you mean have no contact at all? Don't answer phone calls, emails and so forth? yes |
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Yeah, you have to cut him off. thats the only way. Ive tried being mrs nice gal and that doesnt work...
Sometimes all you can do is just flat out ignore them till they get the hint |
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well unless you decide you want to see him
then all of this is moot I have never totally cut someone off I am not made that way and do not think I could do it |
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Let him know your stand, but give him time to get over it. He wil surely get over it and you can still be good friends.
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Just be honest and tell tell the guy that you have NO feelings at all. IF you have to be rude...then be rude! I had to do it once and I said..I love your friends and your son but I just don't love you!! Hey it did work!!! He didn't call and IF he would have..I would have never answered that phone again. IF they can not handle the truth then it could get ugly...so be honest and break it off!!!!
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If this is the guy who used you as a booty call, and was disrespectful to both you AND your children, which I assume it is, then that is not friend material is it? Like I said before, ....click. ...or the continuing cycle that you previously described will continue as he likes it. No, you must have me mistaken for someone else. I've never said anything like that. He has never disrespected me or my children. That's someone else you're talking about. Nah, disrespect my children? I'd have to come out kicking a** or getting my a** kicked if that ever happened. No one messes with my kids. |
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Just be honest and tell tell the guy that you have NO feelings at all. IF you have to be rude...then be rude! I had to do it once and I said..I love your friends and your son but I just don't love you!! Hey it did work!!! He didn't call and IF he would have..I would have never answered that phone again. IF they can not handle the truth then it could get ugly...so be honest and break it off!!!! Believe me I'm been nice in breaking it off, I've been rude and he's still being stuborn. Thanks everyone for their replies. Many times you just need some sound advice when it comes to matters of the heart. Now I'm just going to ignore all contact from him. Go on with my life and be happy. I wish him all happiness too if he reads this. |
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