Why do men chase women they have no intention of marrying? The same urge that makes dogs chase cars they have no intention of driving.

Some men or dog's it's about the chase. Not about what to do with once they catch it. Dumb huh....Then again there are women who do this as well...

That was my last relationship, and I met him here on Mingle. Not mentioning any names.

Sometimes a guy just might not feel that special kind of strong chemistry that draws 2 people together -- but he might still enjoy her company in a friendship sort of way. As long as he's honest about that, it's all good. But if a guy says he loves you just so he can get something and then move on, then that's not right.

On the flip side of the coin, you might want to ask yourself: "Why do women chase after bad boys/players?"

I have no idea. I think it's a biological thing. We all have biological "urges" that we should not give into. The thing to do is to hold out for a man who is mature enough and strong enough to not give into such whims. Then you will have a man who is worth investing your time and energy in and will be there for the long haul.

Save sex for marriage and you will eliminate 99% of the men who are immature and selfish.

some women be like that to. im just happy i aint one of them men.

Oh he was honest after awhile that he's not the marrying kind, and he said he loves me. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. I just had to Mooooove on. I deserve better.

how do one know a player? b'cos i fall victim all the time.

You did the best thing for you it sounds like. And yes you do.

Why do I do it?

Cause I want love and couldn't care less about marriage and the crap that comes with it.

I don't wanna get married cause I don't want to give up SEX!
I don't want to have an enormous tax placed on the secondary income.
I don't want my family to be forced to put up with idiot in-laws.
I don't want to deal with all the legal buuschitt that comes with divorce. (seen that one toooooo many times)

Just to see if they can catch them.....

But then now days most are not out to marrying them anyway...

They are most likely wondering why do the women expect them to marry them just cause they caught them?

Some guys just like their freedom too much. They enjoy the chase....the sense of conquest. But when it goes beyond that, they begin to feel constricted, so they bail out. They want intimacy without closeness....to feel loved without giving love.

Most men actually go through a phase like this in their lives. Some get it out of their system, and then settle down. Others never are rid of it. And quite honestly, there are a few women out there that are the same way. It's just more common, and more obvious, with men.

In the OP's question, there is no reference to women not wanting to marry someone after he is 'caught'....


Not everyone requires marriage in a romantic relationship.

Why would I demand some ridiculous promise of presumed fidelity and alleged emotional, social and owned security in this thing you call marriage.


Right now I am 'married' to this moment's life partner...'married' in the true meaning of the word...not the church based meaning of the word.

..to this moment's life partner....we are right in this moment choosing to partner in this part of our lives, however, being constantly growing evolving humans, there can be no promise of expectation in any other part of our lives not yet lived....I don't wish to stop growing, to stop evolving....to be 'secure'...I want a BIG personal life....as does he.

We all only have us, right now, in this moment...as we are....there is not assuredness of who we may be in the next moment, or the next, or the next.


I would rather have this moment right now, in all it's bliss and easiness, than a contrived promise of the unknown.

Hang around your guy friends up here and we'll teach you about players and what to look for. You (the women of mingle) have more brothers than you could ever know what to do with. Use us as that and you will learn bunches.

For the same reason people climb mountains...because they’re there.

(not really, but the real answer would take much too much typing and is far more complex than i care to delve into at this time.)

I love you, you are so cool. Rock on sis!

well if he doesn't feel chemistry - he isn't going to chase her in the first place. Men don't mantain consistent communication with a woman with friendship in mind - periodic communication, yes.

(not that there cannot be exceptions, but I'd be doubtful - on a dating site anyway)

JMHO but I don't think the OP is referring to friendship...

I think sometimes the guy is just immature and is in it only for the chase

OR sometimes he is attracted based on looks and once he gets to know her, after a few days or weeks, the attraction fades for honest reasons of imcompatibility < I think IMO - this is mostly the case. And with women also. I am sure we have all, male & female alike, started talking with/seeing someone and realized after a few days or weeks that it wasn't working

if it's gone on longer than that though, there is more to the story, jmho

Nothing but mind games i'm afraid. Sounds like they want something to control, so they pick the vunerable.

scary thought