I wish I know what to do NEXT...I tried to forget but the memories and the pains too fresh to be ignored...many others inlove with me (they told me so)...but why can't my heart STOP loving the one who doesn't love me???? Am I stupid? Am I a loser for not wanting to let go??? sorry for whining online...I got no friend nor sibling who I can pour my heart out to.

hey its not tha bad my wife of nine years just said done how do u think tha makes me feel

thanx and sorry, at this point I feel like my life is OVER and I'm sooo lost...and HURT..I wish the pain will go away soon...

sorry to here thaT

i think it is because we focus on the pain rather than the good when a relationship ends. there is/was a reason we fell in love with them in the first place, and sometimes it ends without rhyme or reason. there is always other people out there, and no matter how bad we feel now, it will change. when my wife left me, i thought my world was over, but after a while i realized not over, but changed. no matter what, the great times we had will always be there, and that will never be taken away. time to make new and different times with someone else.

life is not over and the pain will subside...it just takes time. in the mean time, focus on you and learning from this, that way you may be less likely to repeat the same mistakes in the future. (yes there is a future)

Trust, it will get better. Time will heal all wounds. Keep busy, know that you are special and someone will see that in you. I just came out of a relationship that was hurtful too. You'll find lots of support here on Mingle.

Yo...I wont lie...I'm kinda going through the same thing. After 8 years, I found it hard to stop hurting over her. Even after all the horrible things shes done and said to me since we broke up, it's like my heart wouldnt let go. When we were still together, I knew it was over..and wanted it...Then it happened, and it's like I couldnt let go. I honestly felt like I was still in love with her.
But the truth is...It wasnt HER that I missed. While I may LOVE her...I fell out of love with her YEARS ago. It's what I THOUGHT her and I had together. Its having someone to hold at night. Its having someone to show affection to and recieve that same affection from. Its having someone to talk to. It's the intimacy I was missing. It's hard to let go of someone you love...even when you know its for the best for both of you...and that theres someone BETTER waiting for you down the road...Letting go of someone who had such an important place in your heart is the hardest thing Ive ever had to do. But it's important to face the pain, and not try and make it stop. You gotta allow yourself time to grieve, then ALLOW yourself to move on. If you and he are meant to be, believe ME..The universe will make it so when and IF the time is right. If not, then you're meant to meet someone new. Someone who you will find TRUE love with. And babygirl, theres someone amazing waiting for you to be over this dude, so you and he can finally find eachother. Just take it one day at a time, and allow yourself to go through the hurt and pain, and it will GO AWAY. If you ever just want to talk or vent, feel free to hit me up. I know what its like not having anyone to talk to about this kind of ****.

Your New Homie,
Isaac

hi dear can u meet with me?

I am intrested

Thanx guys... all your sayings helps me a bit...I believe all your words, even if it's not that easy to do so....but I'll give it a try...as best as I can.

You will be ok....just hang in there.

so u still know how

Cause sometimes our hearts talk to us louder than our heads.

like uneedsomenow???

sorry but your screen name makes it hard to be overly sympathetic...

Gizzy, I'm sorry you're going through this, but no - you aren't stupid and you aren't a loser. You can't help how you feel about someone, even if they don't share your feelings.

Hope things get better for you soon. Until then, hang in there.

I know you will pull through, and you will be stronger. I was in the same situation as yours some few months back and to top it all..my best friend got murdered within the same period. There has never been such a thin line between sanity and insanity..I can say I am better now though and I know it never really goes away but you will pull through. Keep your chin up and wipe those tears dear....and have a shot of tequila on me!

Gizzy1, I will not dismiss your feelings because they are real. However, they will not fade if your life keeps revolving around the One you can't have.

Instead of using your free time to focus on the One, why not become involved in some kind of charity that helps people? That is what I did during my single years. Being focused on the needs of another person kept me from thinking too much about my marital status. The amazing thing is that my charity work was responsible for me meeting the woman who became my last wife (She died last year, by the way).

Commit yourself to a cause that is greater than yourself, and you will be surprised at just how fast your heart heals.

no u r not stupid nor r u a loser

it is normal to grieve and want to be near a loved one - I'd worry more if losing a loved one did not affect you!

You will have to accept that u cannot control this situation - and if it's meant to be it will be
in the meantime surround yourself with friends old & new who love u