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Topic: What makes you ask someone out on a date?
FantasyArtMan Joined Fri 06/24/11 Posts: 116	Sun 07/31/11 06:01 PM
After coming out of a 32 year marriage of faithfulness on my part, I simply don't do the asking, just yet. I realize this is not the norm, but my confidence in this area is a bit too bruised to be so bold, right now. Luckily I've found a few ladies bold enough to take the lead. Hopefully in time I'll get my asking mojo back, but it's been quite a while for such approaches. Thank goodness for eyes and smiles! FantasyArtMan

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sun 07/31/11 06:13 PM
Her eyes glisten when she looks at me like Shazam!

misswright Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 1893	Sun 07/31/11 07:19 PM
When you meet someone, what makes you ask them on a date? About six Alabama Slammers does the trick for me.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Mon 08/01/11 01:02 AM
Teh way we chat when we're together.

Nicolesnooki Joined Sat 02/19/11 Posts: 4952	Mon 08/01/11 01:59 AM
The way we connect.If i like what i see i wont think 2wice bout it.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/01/11 07:35 AM
After coming out of a 32 year marriage of faithfulness on my part, I simply don't do the asking, just yet. I realize this is not the norm, but my confidence in this area is a bit too bruised to be so bold, right now. Luckily I've found a few ladies bold enough to take the lead. Hopefully in time I'll get my asking mojo back, but it's been quite a while for such approaches. Thank goodness for eyes and smiles! FantasyArtMan So you just wait, even if there is someone you're into?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/01/11 07:35 AM
Good responses, everyone. Thanks!

Ash36 Joined Fri 12/24/10 Posts: 19735	Mon 08/01/11 08:03 AM
When you meet someone, what makes you ask them on a date? Based on past experiences, what are some things that caught your interest enough to ask someone out? well, I dont think I'll ask the person for a date without even knowin her. If i wanna talk to her, sure I'll go for looks

FantasyArtMan Joined Fri 06/24/11 Posts: 116	Mon 08/01/11 12:03 PM
After coming out of a 32 year marriage of faithfulness on my part, I simply don't do the asking, just yet. I realize this is not the norm, but my confidence in this area is a bit too bruised to be so bold, right now. Luckily I've found a few ladies bold enough to take the lead. Hopefully in time I'll get my asking mojo back, but it's been quite a while for such approaches. Thank goodness for eyes and smiles! FantasyArtMan So you just wait, even if there is someone you're into? Well I wouldn't say I wait for anything - I just go on about my life and hope the few kindred souls I meet along the way understand where I'm coming from and take the initiative. Less about "waiting" and more about being careful in the evidently treacherous waters at this point. There's a definite healing process after such a long relationship - there is for me, at least. I lost my manual for perfect resolution, so I'm just winging it as best I can. I tend to say more with my eyes and smile than with my mouth (in person), and that seems to get me at least part-way to where I want to be. Hopefully the rest will come with a little healing time. I'm in no hurry anyway. In my youth I was a semi-rockstar and that did a lot of the talking for me, so even in my golden days I wasn't a ball of aggressive fire in dating scenarios. And to say I'm out-of-practice now, is the understatement of the year! Guess I need to get those calluses on my heart now! Oh well, life goes on... FantasyArtMan

MrBiscuit Joined Tue 05/17/11 Posts: 1996	Mon 08/01/11 12:38 PM
When she don't seem desperate, and when she rings my good bell, and bad bell! :P