Howdy. I haven't dated in over 25 years. What are the rules now for dating? I never dated much while I was in high school, very shy. So I dont' even remember them from them. I am trying to get back out there to date but so far no luck. Is it wrong to ask a man out? Help me out here guys and girls.

Kathy

Nope. Not one thing wrong with asking a guy out. The only rule is to not date relatives (may vary in some states).

I dont think there are rules. you can ask a man out if you want. vice versa. Just put your parachute on , jump out of the plane and hope your parachute works, LOL

Rules? What rules? I don't need no stinking rules!

Oh, that's badges....

Sorry!

It's been more than 15 for me ... I'm just here to listen and take notes

A whole lot of Time..., A whole lot of Money..., and you must be able to dance to the beat of the music.

Dating Rules -- Do's

1. Do try to always look your best and be punctual. Showing up late or looking messy gives the impression that you don't care -- and, if that's the case, why go out with this person in the first place?

2. Do try to enjoy yourself on dates. Yes, finding your soul mate is serious business, and it can sometimes even be a scary endeavor, but keep in mind that this is supposed to be fun.

3. Do compliment your date on how he or she looks. Men and women tend to put a lot of effort into getting ready for a date, and it's nice (and flattering) to hear that all that energy paid off.

4. Do be interested and interesting. Ask questions, share insights and pay attention when your date is telling you what they like to do, read, watch, listen to, etc.

5. Do tell someone directly if you're not interested in seeing them again. Lying and stringing people along simply because you're too scared to tell them the truth is selfish and hurtful. If you don't want to go on another date with someone, let them down as gently -- but firmly -- as possible.

6. Do date only people you're attracted to, no matter what your friends say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.

7. Do stay positive, even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way, you will probably meet some pretty nice people.

8. Do plan ahead. Dating is a creative diversion that requires concentration and energy, so make arrangements ahead of time and let your date know you put some thought into the evening.

9. Do be proactive about finding people to date. The man or woman you've been searching for your whole life is probably not going to come ring your doorbell and beg you to go to dinner anytime soon. Dating requires action, so get out there and meet as many people as you can.

10. Do surround yourself with positive, like-minded people who are dating, too. Part of the fun of dating is celebrating, comparing notes and commiserating with your friends. Surround yourself with positive people who are rooting for you to succeed at love and will be there for you if/when you need emotional support.

Dating Rules -- Don'ts

1. Don't call, text message or email someone you've just started seeing more than once a day unless they reply (or in the event of an emergency). Desperation and instability are major turnoffs.

2. Don't date the kind of people who've hurt you in the past. Many of us are attracted to people who are bad for us, but it's important to break these patterns and seek out healthy relationships with matches who won't demean you or make you feel bad about yourself in any way.

3. Don't be late for a date. It's just rude. If you have to change your plans, give the other person as much notice and consideration as possible. And always apologize.

4. Don't lie to your date or about any aspect of your life, even if the truth isn't as sexy or you're worried they won't like it. It would be awful to ruin a potentially life-changing relationship with your perfect match because of some silly lie you told early on to impress him or her.

5. Don't be too available. We don't mean you should play games, but if you're free every night, you're probably not taking care of yourself, pursuing your own interests and spending time with your friends -- which means you're probably not very interesting to talk to. People with full, exciting lives make the best dates.

6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the beginning. Revealing your innermost secrets on the second date can lead to rejection. Don't be scared to open up, but remember that getting to know someone takes time, and you should let your relationship evolve.

7. Don't check out other people when you're on a date. Ever. This is just tacky. You may think you are subtle, but while you're scoping the cutie in the corner, your date will be heading for the door. Extend your partner the courtesy of concentrating solely on them while you're with them.

8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.

9. Don't ignore your personal safety. Carry your cell phone and keep it charged -- and make sure to tell your friends where you're going and when you'll be back. First dates should take place in well-lit public places. Don't ever let yourself be coerced into going anywhere or doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.

10. Don't give out personal information like your home phone number or address on the first date. Keep these details to yourself until you trust the person you're dating.

11. Don't have sex on a first date. If you like someone and are interested in getting to know them better (and possibly having a relationship), sex on a first date will likely ruin everything. It's much too soon, it's not romantic and it communicates to the other person that you're more interested in their physical characteristics than in finding out who they are.

12. Never date a married person. Statistically, it is very unlikely that they will ever leave their husband or wife for you. Dating someone who's married is the best way to serve yourself a heaping helping of misery, lies, deceit, sadness and heartache. If you are married, separate before dating. If you're single, don't be a shoulder to cry on -- you deserve better. Go out and find someone who's emotionally (and legally) available to you.

well I'm good for one of those.....got plenty of time

Apparently, these are the rules.

There are no rules. And yes, of course a woman can ask a man out.

Or just leave the rules out to begin with and figure out what makes you happy.

Rules of dating:

1. Brush your teeth before the date.
2. Take enough money for the restaurant fare and for taking a taxi home. In case the guy skips.
3. Mace, (the mediaeval kind, not the spray), automatic assault rifle and gladiator-type net-and-dagger in the purse with the Chanel eyelashbatterhelper, and emergency suicide kit. Chicklets.
4. If he cancels the last minute, don't get upset. If he doesn't show without saying, don't get upset. If he cancels and shows up, don't get upset. These are actually in the new, improved and expanded Rules of Dating.
5. Nineteen-seventies-style his forcing himself on you is stricktly verboten now. You must say "yes" and give a notarized form in triplicate that you also want to go all the way. Guys demand no less than that.
6. If he asks you to pay for your fare, and/or his as well, do it, and exeunt left. Never talk to the guy again.
7. Get a Yahoo or Gmail or Hotmail email address. This will help you fend off stalkers, by never checking mail again on the email id that he's got from you.
8. NEVER give out your phone number before your wedding date. People don't talk on the phone these days anyway. Just say you don't have a phone, and you'll be surprised to notice that people accept that excuse at face value, even if you have a phone. The world is different from how our generation learned it was. For instance, no more peace-sit-ins, no more flowers in her hair and road dirt between her toes; no more hairy bums (guys) and no more hairy bums (on girls). If someone grabs your hand in the dark, scream blue murder, and in public places you'll be sorry to hear, but no strangers will feel you up any more, site unseen, this is the only bad part of the New World Order.

You guys got too many damned rules.

I keep it simple.

Laugh and enjoy yourself.

If you do that without effort...you will have no problem.

Rule 27/B: If you go on a date and you won't have anything to whine about to us, to the community here on the site, the next day, then you can consider the date-value null and void and your time completely wasted there.

there arent 'rules',, exactly

games have 'rules'

if you want to take part in playing games,, look for rules


if you just want to enjoy dating, be yourself and be honest about whether there is chemistry,,,

I don't have patience for those who play silly games, so I don't need silly rules.

But yes, I agree to just be yourself and be honest.

you like??? :)

That is all.