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Topic: Is it really right to have sex before marriage
msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 07/09/11 12:00 PM Edited by msharmony on Sat 07/09/11 12:01 PM
Right or wrong.... those who dares,do not care those who cares,do not dare very well stated I don't fully understand this first post. Care about what? Secondly it was a girl that asked me the question "would you buy a car before test driving it?" when talking about sex before marriage. Some people are not sexually compatible. care about EFFECTS. To my opinion its not fair to compare a car with companion.We are human beings,not machines.Sex is most important part of married life but cant be & shall not be tested like test drive as it is not going to assure you the guranteed results for specific period. Sexual compatibility depends on many aspects other than physic.That may be time,situation,emotions,stress etc. etc.these variants may vary the results each time so what is the use of TEST DRIVE before marriage? I sometimes wonder how good those who worry about such things are themself,,, what they are basically saying is 'I know thats the best he/she is gonna ever be, because this is the best IM ever gonna be, therefore this is how it will always be together and we are incompatible' I know I have learned ALOT from when I was first sexually active to now and Im much BETTER than that first time and still improving What makes people see sex as such a stagnant and unchangable variable, I will never understand its a skill, it can improve if there is effort and interest

Jumper4480 Joined Fri 07/01/11 Posts: 1508	Sat 07/09/11 12:21 PM
In africa most men believe it is right so that they will be able to know if the woman is really good in bed.Some even go to the extend of getting her pregnant so they will know if she can be able to bear children.But i know the bible condems it.For me i know it is really very difficult to do away without sex and the taught of it i believe anything condemed by bible is condem by God and anything condemed by God is not right.

Jumper4480 Joined Fri 07/01/11 Posts: 1508	Sat 07/09/11 12:36 PM
In africa most men believe it is right so that they will be able to know if the woman is really good in bed.Some even go to the extend of getting her pregnant so they will know if she can be able to bear children.But i know the bible condems it.For me i know it is really very difficult to do away without sex and the taught of it ehhhh man let's share individual veiw and not continetal veiw ,this what can make us one here.

Jumper4480 Joined Fri 07/01/11 Posts: 1508	Sat 07/09/11 12:37 PM
In africa most men believe it is right so that they will be able to know if the woman is really good in bed.Some even go to the extend of getting her pregnant so they will know if she can be able to bear children.But i know the bible condems it.For me i know it is really very difficult to do away without sex and the taught of it ehhhh man let's share individual veiw and not continetal veiw ,this what can make us one here.

Lunali Joined Mon 02/14/11 Posts: 361	Sat 07/09/11 02:42 PM
It's a personal decision. My mother was one of those people who told me when I was getting older, "Honey, you can do drugs, drink, anything you want. But you must accept the consequences." Having this told to me basically made me think of when I finally DID it, I'd thought it over, and such, and it was a personal decision. I did it for love, and when the relationship dissolved, I didn't regret it. As for marriage, I think the religious aspect of it is getting out of hand. Thousands of dollars poured into a wedding ceremony, dress, food, blah blah. As for me? Potluck for my wedding.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 07/09/11 02:48 PM
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Chazster Joined Tue 08/28/07 Posts: 6206	Sat 07/09/11 02:49 PM
Right or wrong.... those who dares,do not care those who cares,do not dare very well stated I don't fully understand this first post. Care about what? Secondly it was a girl that asked me the question "would you buy a car before test driving it?" when talking about sex before marriage. Some people are not sexually compatible. care about EFFECTS. To my opinion its not fair to compare a car with companion.We are human beings,not machines.Sex is most important part of married life but cant be & shall not be tested like test drive as it is not going to assure you the guranteed results for specific period. Sexual compatibility depends on many aspects other than physic.That may be time,situation,emotions,stress etc. etc.these variants may vary the results each time so what is the use of TEST DRIVE before marriage? If we are not machines why does my gf call me a sex machine?

davelad Joined Sat 07/02/11 Posts: 38	Sat 07/09/11 02:56 PM
In the ideal world I think it's best to wait till someone comes along thats decent and loving. If I could turn the clock back I would have waited till mariage.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 07/09/11 02:56 PM
you were made by frigginmachines dotcom?

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 07/09/11 04:22 PM
In africa most men believe it is right so that they will be able to know if the woman is really good in bed.Some even go to the extend of getting her pregnant so they will know if she can be able to bear children.But i know the bible condems it.For me i know it is really very difficult to do away without sex and the taught of it SO-----THATS HOW THAT STARTED!!!!!! we seemed to have had rather BIG OUT-BREAK OF THAT HERE,,back in the 60's to present!!!! Its SOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooo VERY WRONG,,, but feels SOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooooo,,,very RIGHT! Personally after what I have been through WITH THIS, in my life. I WILL STAND BEFORE GOD ON MY JUDGEMENT DAY,,and HE SHALL KNOW MY HEART AT THAT TIME OR AT THE TIMES THAT I FELL WEAK TO DO THIS! And I am GOOD WITH HIM and ME... IF a woman wanted me to wait,,because we were ALL THAT,,it would depend on that length of spam,,for me to KNOW if coud or would be good,,,,lol,,with trying to wait,,WE ALL ARE only HUMAN. But,,I would except her thoughts,,as to my own,, BUT TO BE REAL HERE,,,,,and very honest,,,I would have to have a great sense of HER sensuality,and sexuality,,,and ALSO,,,toknow she is very much a woman and with no hang-ups with having sex? With THAT said,,,,many areas of life can be exposed w/o really getting into sex as in making love,,,,it would be MUCH,,in how she feels and believes and IF,,she was wanting to share life with me or not,,I am not as good a person as I should be when it comes down to DOING the right thing,,,at that time,,,,and I KNOW THIS,, but it doesn't make me less a Christian,,,just a weak Christian,,,,lol

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 07/09/11 07:27 PM
In the ideal world I think it's best to wait till someone comes along thats decent and loving. If I could turn the clock back I would have waited till mariage. lovely hindsight....

Supremekizz Joined Wed 06/29/11 Posts: 110	Sun 07/10/11 05:55 AM
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prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Sun 07/10/11 06:02 AM
Right or wrong.... those who dares,do not care those who cares,do not dare very well stated I don't fully understand this first post. Care about what? Secondly it was a girl that asked me the question "would you buy a car before test driving it?" when talking about sex before marriage. Some people are not sexually compatible. care about EFFECTS. To my opinion its not fair to compare a car with companion.We are human beings,not machines.Sex is most important part of married life but cant be & shall not be tested like test drive as it is not going to assure you the guranteed results for specific period. Sexual compatibility depends on many aspects other than physic.That may be time,situation,emotions,stress etc. etc.these variants may vary the results each time so what is the use of TEST DRIVE before marriage? If we are not machines why does my gf call me a sex machine? May be u r having sex with just MOTIONS & not EMOTIONS (JK) Thats the major difference in man & machine

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Sun 07/10/11 12:07 PM
I'm not gonna post such a private answer on here.

indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Sun 07/10/11 02:01 PM
Right or wrong.... those who dares,do not care those who cares,do not dare very well stated I don't fully understand this first post. Care about what? Secondly it was a girl that asked me the question "would you buy a car before test driving it?" when talking about sex before marriage. Some people are not sexually compatible. WOuld you buy a house without living in it first?

Jumper4480 Joined Fri 07/01/11 Posts: 1508	Sun 07/10/11 05:20 PM
Right or wrong.... those who dares,do not care those who cares,do not dare very well stated I don't fully understand this first post. Care about what? Secondly it was a girl that asked me the question "would you buy a car before test driving it?" when talking about sex before marriage. Some people are not sexually compatible. WOuld you buy a house without living in it first? which means it should be after marriage, I love that man.