Ok, here's the deal. I say strongly that men and women can not be friends if one or both have a physical attraction for each other. If you know that a relationship will not work out, then why say, "well we can be friends can we?" I can't do it. What do you guys think? Forgive me if this post has come up before.

It depends on how much the other person who is physically attracted to the other person behaves. If they can be friends without pushing the boundaries and constantly whining about how attracted they are to the other person, then they should be fine as friends. It's when they disrespect that person, by not respecting their decision that they are NOT interested in the other person as relationship material that the friendship becomes strained and falls away.

I totally agree.

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I don't know.

I find alot of my friends are really attractive :P But I prefer the freindships, cuz they are just as awesome.

If I loose my way in a friendship, I usually call the friendship off. Because it's not fair on her, having a half cookoo friend

Oddly enough, I'm still friends with my best friend, even after all the drama. We still have enough room in each-others hearts, to still have a care free friendship! :D

Don'cha think that's a special friendship?! ^.^

I don't agree with the premise.

Some years back, I had a very close friend named Deanna, who was absolutely gorgeous. People thought she was a model or something. She wasn't, but she could have been.

She was like a sister to me. And, yes, I did think she was attractive, but I never had any inclination to try to start something with her. I liked the friendship just the way it was. She was really an amazing person and I wish I knew someone like her today -- gorgeous or not.

It can be done, you just have to think outside the box so to speak.

I agree. Speaking of physical attraction, "How you doin'"?

I can respect other peoples feelings and i know that if they don't respect mine theres no reason to be friends. Remaining friends with an ex is also possible depending on how the breakup went. If she did me wrong then hell no. But if it was just us not working with no bad blood then sure why not.

I don't think it's the physical attraction that is really the problem. I mean, most people have enough self-control and self-respect to resist mere lust, especially if they are satisfied with what they already have. The people that can't do that....well, they are disrespecting themselves more than anybody else. Sooner or later, their actions catch up with them: five different baby mommas, or an STD, or a bigger negative reputation than they realized, etc.

Therefore, it is the mental or emotional attraction that one has to look out for. When they start getting into your head on a regular basis, that's a bad sign. Once you feel the pull, you only have two choices: pursue it or ditch it. There's no leeway for sitting on the fence. In fact, I think this is why many woman refuse to date friends. Once they have that attraction that's not just physical, they know they risk losing something by acting on it. And so, they just avoid the problem altogether. Of course, ignoring a problem doesn't make it go away...

I have a very best friend and we are physically attracted to each other; however we don't cross the boundry and we remain friends and nothing more.

I'm doing great. I think you are referring to my ex dumping me the other day. To my surprise I'm holding up very well. I met him on mingle 2 or back in the day when it was called JustsayHi, it was strange relationship of 2 years. But life must go on. I ask the question because I've never had a male friendship before, a real one. I mean I talk to men at work but I don't consider that the same. So what I'm getting here is if no one crosses the line then yes men and women can have a real friendship even though there may be an attraction.

I wanted to be friends with my ex, but he said he didn't want to be my chatting buddy. Maybe I should have suggested drinkin buddies.

I am extremely good friends with my ex....he is still extremely attractive to me....I love him without condition....we chose to part mutually...he has a new partner, with whom he is completely in love with, I have a new partner I am completely in love with...and both of us are cheering for each other.

Love doesn't stop....it just softens, and becomes a more kinder love, with an ex.

Pretty much. Some people are better at it than others, so you need to know how to gauge yourself.

I have a number of female friends and acquaintances that I find physically attractive. For different reasons, I know it does mean anything. For instance, they are with someone already. Or some part of their personality or behavior is a turn off, either sexually or romantically. Or I already know they aren't interested, so I never allow "what if" to cross my mind. Plus, I am not the type to sleep around like a man-slut. So if I am going to reach that level of attraction where it becomes a possibility, I already know that if both of us are unattached, then I am going for it....and I'm talking the whole ball of wax, not just sex.

That's just how I am, but everyone is different.

True. When one keeps straining the friendship by constantly reminding the other of how attracted he is, it becomes repetitive, unnecessary and tiresome. The regular barrage of what ifs, innuendos, and double entendres just shows the one delivering them is not respecting the feelings or the current relationship of the recipient. When all reaches the breaking point, the friendship will have to be dispensed immediately, in my opinion.

I disagree. Men and women can definitely be friends even if there is an attraction there. It just depends on the people involved.