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Topic: Help me out with this one.
ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Sat 07/02/11 12:04 AM
This is my situation. I've searched profile before and start to send an email to a guy I find interesting, but I chicken out at the end. I really find it hard to make the first move. My mom used to always say let the man chase you, not you chase men. Anyone have any suggestions? How can I break the ice? Thanks in advance for all the help.

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Sat 07/02/11 12:08 AM
making a move and chasing are two different things. there is nothing wrong with a quick hello to get the ball rolling…..

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Sat 07/02/11 12:11 AM
A man cant chase you if he doesn't know you are there.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sat 07/02/11 12:36 AM
If you send an email letting him know your interested and he isn't interested back and you keep emailing...that's chasing. Nothing wrong with making the first move.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 07/02/11 01:14 AM
Don't place so much on the outcome, and DON'T put your whole self esteem into it. Fire off a heap of emails to people you find interesting, tell them why you find them interesting...then do nothing, until you get a reply. Instead of hanging by the 'mailbox' awaiting a reply, play here in the forums, meet other people here...you would be surprised how many people have discovered their partners here in the forums, through learning about others, by what they write, how they think, and what they want in life.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 07/02/11 02:20 AM
This is my situation. I've searched profile before and start to send an email to a guy I find interesting, but I chicken out at the end. I really find it hard to make the first move. My mom used to always say let the man chase you, not you chase men. Anyone have any suggestions? How can I break the ice? Thanks in advance for all the help. If you don't send him a message, how's he going to know you're interested? IDK, the "let him make the first move" seems a bit outdated. I mean some people still go by it, but it's 2011 (or somewhere close), not 1950. JMO

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 07/02/11 02:43 AM
Creating a topic in Dating & Relationships is a great way to go. And interacting a lot on the forums by adding your opinions is a nice way for people to get to know you. Personally I like to be chased and I like to do the chasing. The enemy is boredom.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Sat 07/02/11 04:33 AM
As hard as it is, stick to being patient. It's too easy to get carried away with it.

sweetboy3030 Joined Tue 08/18/09 Posts: 1188	Sat 07/02/11 04:53 AM
I too wait for the woman to say something first. It's how we know if you're intrested or not, don't worry about us guys being intrested, WE'RE MEN, of course we're intrested. Send somethin that'll make'em smile, that's what gets my attention. Usually I wait 3 days after I nudge them, if nothing happens, then nothing happens. Don't wait for it.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45345	Sat 07/02/11 05:41 AM
A man cant chase you if he doesn't know you are there. This.

Alterette Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 1600	Sat 07/02/11 07:43 AM Edited by Alterette on Sat 07/02/11 07:44 AM
Don't place so much on the outcome, and DON'T put your whole self esteem into it. Fire off a heap of emails to people you find interesting, tell them why you find them interesting...then do nothing, until you get a reply. Instead of hanging by the 'mailbox' awaiting a reply, play here in the forums, meet other people here...you would be surprised how many people have discovered their partners here in the forums, through learning about others, by what they write, how they think, and what they want in life. Great advice. I agree. I'm new here too and I've gotten a lot more views and messages since I started playing in the forums. Extra benefit: meeting some great friends from all over!

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Sat 07/02/11 07:51 AM
wait on buses and the sun to come up, friendships and more, need a little chaser to get things started. good luck to you!

ybcat1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 530	Sat 07/02/11 10:23 AM
Don't place so much on the outcome, and DON'T put your whole self esteem into it. Fire off a heap of emails to people you find interesting, tell them why you find them interesting...then do nothing, until you get a reply. Instead of hanging by the 'mailbox' awaiting a reply, play here in the forums, meet other people here...you would be surprised how many people have discovered their partners here in the forums, through learning about others, by what they write, how they think, and what they want in life. Thanks, good advice. You're certainly right about getting to know a little about others from the forums.