I've learned not to let love blind you... don't give everything for one guy no matter how long you've been together... and that verbal abuse shouldn't be tolerated... and don't stay with someone because you "think" things will get better... people will never change they are who they are

Not blowing my skirt up, what else you got ?

that rose colored glasses can be a bad thing.

Still not!

hey jerry tom is right behind ya

funny, thanks!

why ask for personal learnings if they are going to be judged?

ok then pepper, how's this,

What have I learned and what am I willing to do to change it,
1. Listen to my mate and NEVER second guess.
2. Do whatever she wants and ask her for advice.
3. Make love to her only when she wants it.
4. Say " yes dear, your right"
5. spend hours pampering her.
6. Ask her if she needs anything.
7. have a smile on my face.
8. Say your beautiful when needed.
9. shower her with flowers.
10.give her my undivided attention.
11. say I Love You and mean it.

that's good dayv

dude, every guy does that whether he wants to, or not.
i,m talking about something that you learned about yourself, that is positive, that maybe your last mate helped you learn,
not a crash and burn episode please!

ok Pepper you want serious
how about this

I learned that I need to continue being me, not allowing someone to change me

That someone can still surprise me ---- in a good way... if given the chance...
Its ok to need him - and let him know
Independence doesn't mean isolated - solitary - only me; not to be threated by healthy inter-dependence.


He honestly doesn't see ALL MY FLAWS

dude, NO every guy Does NOT. I NEVER did that crap to make them happy, I did it cause I wanted to. Like I said the only thing I learned was to stay home because most of them CAN'T live alone.

Did I mention Dude?

*walks away from this thread*

Purple_Goddess....indeed you are, that was simply luscious, can you say it again!

Pepper

yeah.. no not every guy does that... maybe at the very begining of the relationship but after a while they only care about themselves and their needs... not the womans

What I have learned,is to "HEAR" anyone can listen but actully to hear someone is a whole new experience. So this is what I bringing in to this next relationship

yeah never tie her up and put her in the trunk
with the cops standing there wheeew