i was in a controlling relationship i suppose because i wanted just to make him happy i didn't see me loosing myself in the process so now that its over ..how do i start over ...?

i feel so old for this

Thank you for posting! Finally, there's someone out there that I can relate with. I certainly feel old for this myself. Part of me is like 'what the heck am I doing here?' but how else can I meet someone in the little time I have between work, fathering kids, cooking, cleaning, mowing, coaching, educating, etc. The thing that gets me through the day IS my children, but I certainly would like to SHARE some moments with someone special as well. Sorry if I sound like a sap for that.

Sorry I can't provide the answers, but I'm absolutely looking forward to this topic. On the other hand, being the guy here makes me feel somewhat at a disadvantage in the first place, along with the other disadvantages, i.e. being separated, older and having kids.

just take it one day at a time, let life do it's thing and you'll do fine. Just be a little pickier next time. You're not too old for this, hell you're a baby . most of us here are much older than you

Sweetie, I have now started over twice since I was your age form marriages. Never give up and NEVER lose yourself because of someone else. Don't give up. I know its hard, "trust me" but as time goes by the pain eases.