i just broke up with my bf and still he wants me to hang out with him.. needs opinions? i dont know his reasons why he still wants me to out with him..

Maybe he likes you.

He is oppertunities...just leave him as early as possible,,forget,,by the whr r u from?

Stay friends with him!! Don't be so coldhearted and just leave him all alone!!

If you want to break up thats one thing, but you don't have to be so ruthless and evil about it! What reason has he gave you to suddenly, out of nowhere, take away the security and happiness known as his girlfriend?

What reason is there to not still at least talk and be friends? To help him understand WHY you don't want to be with him anymore? To make an attempt at developing a healthy breakup where BOTH parties are able to accept it and move on. The world doesn't revolve around you, just because you are ready to call it quits and jet, doesn't mean that he is ready. Chances are, this has taken him by total suprize.

You had plenty of time to think about it and prepare for the emotions that come with a breakup, I bet you didn't give him any time to prepare for this at all, and now he is taking on all kinds of emotions by suprize. He just isn't ready to go cold turkey.

If you don't want this to get ugly, I suggest you appologize, state that you know this probably hurts him, state that you aren't good at breaking up but the fact is that you do not want him anymore for whatever reason, tell him what that reason(s) is in full completely honest detail without sugarcoating it, tell him you will still talk and be friends and be there for him to help him accept the breakup but you do not want to continue the relationship, you want move on and do new things on your own without him being involved in it, that you want to work on separating in a healthy way and eventually get over each other and move on and hope that he can work together with you and help to contribute to this cause.

Give him a purpose, a goal, like "lets work together on getting over each other and becoming seperated". This is very positive support and involves him and helps him feel like he has a part in the breakup.

Never breakup with a guy cold turkey.
-from a guy who has been there way to many times

he's hoping that when you get lonely or drunk you'll throw some sex his way. it's just a way of keeping you around for the possibility of sex.


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^this is usually how I feel about it and I do try to stay friends, but a couple of exs I just had to walk completely away from. One in particular is just too good at manipulating emotions and guilt tripping me into things! Some exs I love more as friends than I did as a lover though and I am glad that I stayed friends with them!

Depends on why you broke up.

Are there things about him that you just can't stand?

It is possible to be friends with people that you used to date. Now if that dating was controlling and manipulative, yeah, stay away. But if you just didn't "click" and weren't right for each other, that doesn't mean you can't remain just friends.

Depends on what he is thinking and what you want...

he s the one who broke up becoz he doesnt know what he wants.. stressed out from previous marriage and so on.. scared to be a failure again. thats why i let him go. i want to moved on, so its better if i wont see him again. i guess.

Well, I recently broke up with a woman. She is really nice and sweet. But we just didn't click. Too much separating us. But I like her. She is a friend still. Just not compatible with me in a way a date needs to be.

A judicial restraining order always works for me.





Oh, wait. That restraining order was issued against me.
That's why I can't go near Neptune's moon Triton.
How was I supposed to know that the girl I picked up was the daughter of Triton's Supreme Leader?

I completely disagree with Scorpio.

I know of know of no rule or law which says that woman has to slowly break up with a boyfriend or apologize to him for doing so.

No law says that a man must be "ready" for a break up before a woman can break up with him.

Sometimes "cold turkey" is the only way that will minimize the negative emotions that are generated by a break up.

A break up can be done in a polite way if the man is not a threat to the woman. However, if the man is a threat, then the woman owes it to herself to get away from the man as quickly as possible.

If the man and woman share a set of friends, then a peaceful break-up is the ideal type of break-up. Yet, a women has every right to break up with her boyfriend. She does not need the permission of the boyfriend . . . or any person on Mingle2.

we both have a lot of common.. we both loved each other.. he said nothing wrong with me, its him.. he has another priorities and have to deal with it.. but i dont think hanging out with him will help me. i have to moved on and not talking and not seeing him will helping.

There is no rule or law. Its what is morally right... How would you feel if you were in a relationship, talked to someone everyday, saw them all the time, made a daily routine of comunicating or spending time with them, and suddenly they just broke all of that off? It is devastating, messes up all balance in the world. But every situation is different. In this case, they've already agreed to break up I think, so now it is just a matter of putting distance between them, but it is not very nice to do it suddenly. How can people move on so quickly??

Well then, you answered your own question.

He needed to break up with you to deal with his own issues. Just toss that back to him. Tell him that you need to stay away from him to deal with your own issues as well.

I still don't see what is so wrong with talking to or seeing an ex, even a recent ex. (unless they are abusive or you hate each other) What rule or law states that you should not communicate with them anymore? Talking makes it easier to move on, not harder.

yup