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Nobody called anyone fat in here. The just used the term "fat" to describe a hypothetical person.

Calling someone who is fat, "fat" might be rude to do in their presence. They know they are fat. That is obvious. They don't need to be told. It might be insulting to do that, and they might not like to hear it.

But to refer to a 450 pound person as "fat" is just truth. I am over weight. I don't like being called "fat" by someone else in my face because yes, they are being insultingly obvious.

I would never tell a friend or relative that they are fat and they should lose some weight. They already know it if they are.

I'm not waiting.

In fact, I don't think I have the time.

But if he is really perfect... I will rearrange my schedule.

i agree. i'm fat. i don't like it when someone tells me i'm fat, but someone telling me i'm large or heavy isn't any better. it means the same thing. social convention just doesn't allow me to punch them in the face when they use a politically correct term.


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First of all let us remember that human nature wants to have some sort of physical attraction to the person they are in love with. Friendship doesn't usually need this. This doesn't mean our lover has to be perfect, just somewhat attractive to us. No, I am not attracted to BBW size women. However, at my age (60) an extra 25 or 30 pounds, silver/gray hair and a few wrinkles are expected and acceptable. 50 to 100 is not.

I watched a documentary on History Channel a few years ago and world wide statistics show all men are more attracted to women with a proportional waist to hip ratio of 0.7 to 1. As the waist value increases it is viewed as becoming less attractive. On top of this men tend to be more visually oriented than women. However, generally, the closer to the perfect waist/hip (0.7 to 1.0) ratio a woman is the more selective she will become regarding her male romance partner. So this does go both ways.

Not only is this human nature in todays world, it is documented thoughout history. The only variation of this was during the Victorian era where plumper women were popular but much of this was in high society and among artists: not in general public.

I do not believe in giving nasty labels to people who are overweight. However, it is just as unfair of overweight people to say to the rest of us that we are shallow because we have preferences that follow what has always been part of our human nature.

I Have put on my asbestus suit on ready for flames.

thanks for letting us know what's acceptable

First, you should remember that what you may find unattractive, someone else may find attractive. And that you are speaking for yourself, rather than everyone.

We all have preferences. Yours do not include dating fat people. Others might be more open to it. Neither are wrong.