100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Previous
| Topic: Changes after marriage.. | |
|---|---|
|
|
|
A friend of mine wanted to take his wife on a second honeymoon to spark the romance but she would have no part of it. She surely is a stupid woman. So... whom did he wind up taking? I assume the tickets had been purchased. He gave the tickets to a friend and his wife. He has tried several times to take his wife on a romantic getaway but she always wants to drag her family on the vacation. He told me he even spent his honeymoon with her family. How screwed up is that? She has lost her desire for him. She clearly wants no part of a "romantic" holiday... at least with him. I am going to go out on a limb here and make a prediction. Maybe she is having an affair with someone else or she has just lost interest in sex and her hubby. She's not that into him anymore. That's hard to get back.... even on a so called second romantic honeymoon. A trip does not romance make. Yeah, I think the romance is over too. He describes it as room mates and she has lost all interest in sex with him. He has considered she is having an affair. Its too bad to throw away 25 years like that. The bigger tragedy is to throw away the rest of your life unhappy. But divorce is really hard after kids and 25 years. Really hard. If they don't have other love interests, it can leave a big hole in their lives. I agree that the two of them will spend the rest of their lives unhappy. She won't divorce because he makes good money and he can take care of her. He won't divorce as he truly loves her and will not walk away from the marriage. Another consideration would be the cost to him as the house he lives in is his grandfather's and the house would have to be sold. A very sad situation. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
A friend of mine wanted to take his wife on a second honeymoon to spark the romance but she would have no part of it. She surely is a stupid woman. So... whom did he wind up taking? I assume the tickets had been purchased. He gave the tickets to a friend and his wife. He has tried several times to take his wife on a romantic getaway but she always wants to drag her family on the vacation. He told me he even spent his honeymoon with her family. How screwed up is that? She has lost her desire for him. She clearly wants no part of a "romantic" holiday... at least with him. I am going to go out on a limb here and make a prediction. Maybe she is having an affair with someone else or she has just lost interest in sex and her hubby. She's not that into him anymore. That's hard to get back.... even on a so called second romantic honeymoon. A trip does not romance make. Yeah, I think the romance is over too. He describes it as room mates and she has lost all interest in sex with him. He has considered she is having an affair. Its too bad to throw away 25 years like that. The bigger tragedy is to throw away the rest of your life unhappy. But divorce is really hard after kids and 25 years. Really hard. If they don't have other love interests, it can leave a big hole in their lives. I agree that the two of them will spend the rest of their lives unhappy. She won't divorce because he makes good money and he can take care of her. He won't divorce as he truly loves her and will not walk away from the marriage. Another consideration would be the cost to him as the house he lives in is his grandfather's and the house would have to be sold. A very sad situation. If that is the case, and she sticks with him, this is what may happen. Perhaps she will eventually realize how lucky she is to have a man who will provide for her and stick with her even though the romance is gone. They could both find other interests or hobbies they like. Unless she absolutely hates him, she will eventually find a comfort zone and learn to appreciate him and if they like each other at all they will grow old together. (Some men never loose their interest in sex, but there is always porn. LOL.) But if you can stay together after the sex is gone, then you have to at least like each other. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
A friend of mine wanted to take his wife on a second honeymoon to spark the romance but she would have no part of it. She surely is a stupid woman. So... whom did he wind up taking? I assume the tickets had been purchased. He gave the tickets to a friend and his wife. He has tried several times to take his wife on a romantic getaway but she always wants to drag her family on the vacation. He told me he even spent his honeymoon with her family. How screwed up is that? She has lost her desire for him. She clearly wants no part of a "romantic" holiday... at least with him. I am going to go out on a limb here and make a prediction. Maybe she is having an affair with someone else or she has just lost interest in sex and her hubby. She's not that into him anymore. That's hard to get back.... even on a so called second romantic honeymoon. A trip does not romance make. Yeah, I think the romance is over too. He describes it as room mates and she has lost all interest in sex with him. He has considered she is having an affair. Its too bad to throw away 25 years like that. The bigger tragedy is to throw away the rest of your life unhappy. But divorce is really hard after kids and 25 years. Really hard. If they don't have other love interests, it can leave a big hole in their lives. I agree that the two of them will spend the rest of their lives unhappy. She won't divorce because he makes good money and he can take care of her. He won't divorce as he truly loves her and will not walk away from the marriage. Another consideration would be the cost to him as the house he lives in is his grandfather's and the house would have to be sold. A very sad situation. If that is the case, and she sticks with him, this is what may happen. Perhaps she will eventually realize how lucky she is to have a man who will provide for her and stick with her even though the romance is gone. They could both find other interests or hobbies they like. Unless she absolutely hates him, she will eventually find a comfort zone and learn to appreciate him and if they like each other at all they will grow old together. (Some men never loose their interest in sex, but there is always porn. LOL.) But if you can stay together after the sex is gone, then you have to at least like each other. Well from what he tells me he tolerates her and she just ignores him for her friends. I don't try to understand their relationship as it seems strange but if neither one wants to change anything; then they will have to learn to live with it. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
Jeanniebean
on
Tue 04/26/11 04:12 PM
|
|
In any case, we seem to create our own experiences for what ever reasons and excuses.
Marriage changes the vibrations of the relationship. Expectations change. People for some reason are expected to fall into a particular roll. It is not just you or your partner doing it, but there is a heavy subconscious pressure from society. You become married to THE STATE. From then on, you have invited them into your affairs. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
A friend of mine wanted to take his wife on a second honeymoon to spark the romance but she would have no part of it. She surely is a stupid woman. So... whom did he wind up taking? I assume the tickets had been purchased. He gave the tickets to a friend and his wife. He has tried several times to take his wife on a romantic getaway but she always wants to drag her family on the vacation. He told me he even spent his honeymoon with her family. How screwed up is that? ugh...my ex hubby didn't change until his family moved down (in with us)! The last anniversary we spent together I actually had to demand that we just go to dinner alone! I think there are ways of keeping that spark & why some people don't want it just baffles me!!! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Is his family still living with you? eeewww. I would hate that.
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
wux
on
Wed 04/27/11 03:39 AM
|
|
ugh...my ex hubby didn't change until his family moved down (in with us)! The last anniversary we spent together I actually had to demand that we just go to dinner alone! I think there are ways of keeping that spark & why some people don't want it just baffles me!!! Don't you have a 200-acre farm? I thought you did. You don't really NEED to fall over each other for that land. Unless you live in Texas, in which case I understand... it's like being cramped into a one-room-and-kitchen apartment in NYC, where the washroom is down the corridor. Yeah, in Texas, your concern would be real. Plus, the family could help to keep the lawn for the horses from overgrowing. Just don't feed them food, and bang, the place (the entire 200 acres of it) would be kept nice and clean and tidy. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
First of all, if you happen to suddenly notice that your significant
other has changed .... You probably didn't give them enough time to show their true colors, and rushed into a situation that you found all too familier ... then realize that you regret what you did. Some will even go to extravagant lenghts to extend their dillusional hope that the person will change for the better into that illusion they first thought they were. What a waste of life. That's one reason I've remained single. This isn't exactly the way I'd prefer to describe it, but if you give someone enough rope they'll either hang their self with it or build something constructive with it. Once that happens, then you can decide. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Is his family still living with you? eeewww. I would hate that. haha...oh hell no!!! Wux...yes I am in TX! LOL That was long before I found my home here on the farm. Had 10 acres and a nice mobile home then. Lost it all! His family actually ended up with the land and completely gutted the home before it was repossessed! In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! I got me and my doggies away from all the psychological trauma induced by their toxicity and a lesson well learned! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Is his family still living with you? eeewww. I would hate that. haha...oh hell no!!! Wux...yes I am in TX! LOL That was long before I found my home here on the farm. Had 10 acres and a nice mobile home then. Lost it all! His family actually ended up with the land and completely gutted the home before it was repossessed! In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! I got me and my doggies away from all the psychological trauma induced by their toxicity and a lesson well learned! ------>"In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! " Wow that's awful. Seems like if you owned the property you could kick them off of it, if their name is not on it. What if you have overnight guests and they stay a week then refuse to leave? What can you do? |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Is his family still living with you? eeewww. I would hate that. haha...oh hell no!!! Wux...yes I am in TX! LOL That was long before I found my home here on the farm. Had 10 acres and a nice mobile home then. Lost it all! His family actually ended up with the land and completely gutted the home before it was repossessed! In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! I got me and my doggies away from all the psychological trauma induced by their toxicity and a lesson well learned! ------>"In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! " Wow that's awful. Seems like if you owned the property you could kick them off of it, if their name is not on it. What if you have overnight guests and they stay a week then refuse to leave? What can you do? take matters into your own hands 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Is his family still living with you? eeewww. I would hate that. haha...oh hell no!!! Wux...yes I am in TX! LOL That was long before I found my home here on the farm. Had 10 acres and a nice mobile home then. Lost it all! His family actually ended up with the land and completely gutted the home before it was repossessed! In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! I got me and my doggies away from all the psychological trauma induced by their toxicity and a lesson well learned! ------>"In TX, once you let someone live with you...you legally can not kick them out!!!! " Wow that's awful. Seems like if you owned the property you could kick them off of it, if their name is not on it. What if you have overnight guests and they stay a week then refuse to leave? What can you do? take matters into your own hands Yep, that's Texas. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
When you are in love and courting you always put your best self forward as much as possible. But then after you get married, things change. You usually don't try so hard. Romance flies out the window. You relax. While its good to relax. I think your spouse would really appreciate it if you didn't get too comfortable to the point where suddenly it looks like you changed. You didn't really. You just stopped courting and you became your non-courting self. The game is over you won... or lost, and now you are on the way to letting yourself go. You start to notice that your spouse has faults and he/she is not the romantic sexy guy or girl you first fell in love with. HAPPILY EVER AFTER HAS ENDED. Now you are just going to work to pay the rent or mortgage. I don't care how long you live together, something always changes after you get married, no matter how much you both promise it won't. But people themselves really don't change all that much. Perceptions do change. Expectations will change. Attitudes change. Is there any way to keep the excitement and romance in marriage? be best friends, have date nights, love each other with flaws and all before getting married, know each other well enough to be aware of flaws before getting married, discuss expectations of marriage that you both have before getting married, discuss what you can bring to the table and what you cant before you get married people wait until after marriage to discover too many things, courtship is good because it gives us TIME to discover those things FIRST,,,, |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Well I always found an little unexpected squeeze on the bum tended to reve things back up but then I was sure I actually liked my late mate as is before I married him.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
A friend of mine wanted to take his wife on a second honeymoon to spark the romance but she would have no part of it. She surely is a stupid woman. So... whom did he wind up taking? I assume the tickets had been purchased. He gave the tickets to a friend and his wife. He has tried several times to take his wife on a romantic getaway but she always wants to drag her family on the vacation. He told me he even spent his honeymoon with her family. How screwed up is that? She has lost her desire for him. She clearly wants no part of a "romantic" holiday... at least with him. I am going to go out on a limb here and make a prediction. Maybe she is having an affair with someone else or she has just lost interest in sex and her hubby. She's not that into him anymore. That's hard to get back.... even on a so called second romantic honeymoon. A trip does not romance make. Yeah, I think the romance is over too. He describes it as room mates and she has lost all interest in sex with him. He has considered she is having an affair. Its too bad to throw away 25 years like that. For the last few years of my marriage, I told my ex that I felt like a paycheck to her and nothing more. I didn't even feel welcome in my own home... |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
noooooooooooooooooooooooooo haha
 It all gets old I like to trade in for a newer model evry few years 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
A friend of mine wanted to take his wife on a second honeymoon to spark the romance but she would have no part of it. She surely is a stupid woman. So... whom did he wind up taking? I assume the tickets had been purchased. He gave the tickets to a friend and his wife. He has tried several times to take his wife on a romantic getaway but she always wants to drag her family on the vacation. He told me he even spent his honeymoon with her family. How screwed up is that? She has lost her desire for him. She clearly wants no part of a "romantic" holiday... at least with him. I am going to go out on a limb here and make a prediction. Maybe she is having an affair with someone else or she has just lost interest in sex and her hubby. She's not that into him anymore. That's hard to get back.... even on a so called second romantic honeymoon. A trip does not romance make. Yeah, I think the romance is over too. He describes it as room mates and she has lost all interest in sex with him. He has considered she is having an affair. Its too bad to throw away 25 years like that. The bigger tragedy is to throw away the rest of your life unhappy. But divorce is really hard after kids and 25 years. Really hard. If they don't have other love interests, it can leave a big hole in their lives. I agree that the two of them will spend the rest of their lives unhappy. She won't divorce because he makes good money and he can take care of her. He won't divorce as he truly loves her and will not walk away from the marriage. Another consideration would be the cost to him as the house he lives in is his grandfather's and the house would have to be sold. A very sad situation. Am there, doing that, Have the T-shirt. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Am there, doing that, Have the T-shirt. What does the T-shirt say? 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
The front says "Help". the back ssys "Me". :) But it's worn out. You can only see "elp" and "m".
|
|
|
|
|
