Sometimes we waste time looking 4 the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.

I've heard that creating love is possible. For instance in the ages and societies, in which all marriages had been pre-arranged. Think back to Fiddler and the Roof, for instance.

In the pre-arranged marriages, people grew together, eventually, or I guess not, in some cases. There was a proof, though, that love can be created.

In today's western society, we are not so worried about creating love, as about choosing the best prospect to continue love with.

However, I do worry about your use of "perfect"... it's too high a goal to achieve. I would settle with "good enough" love. Or "at least B- love". Or "not the greatest, but OK I guess" love.

Trying to create the perfect love (or perfect anything) is futile, and therefore takes way too much time and energy, too.

Lot of truth in that.

One of the reasons there are so many divorces these days.

you cannot create or force something that isn't there. it's either there or it isn't

Weird science dude. Rent it.