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Topic: wants to take things slow
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Wed 04/13/11 08:53 AM

No human biological reaction is constant; you blood pressure fluctuates during the day, and so does your body temp.

A man's strength of religious conviction may be fluctuating as well. When he kissed you, he was carefree of God's will and wrath; then his Baptism minister of Family and Sexual affairs talked to him and told him that kissing is fine, but it can lead to dancing, so stop it, boy, before the eternal flames lick your feet and engulf your undying soul.

That's one theory.

Another one is that he has twenty other girlfriends, and he likes your cookies.

A fourth one is that the sex you have is good enough for him, he feels why would or should he put out for more? such as showering you with kisses, or even just with one. (Possible!! An X of mine would give me one kiss every day in the morning when she left for work, and I needed to sit in the dryer for the full cicle to get the slime off me by evaporation.) I don't know how much and what kind of sex you have together, because aside from kissing, you mentioned nothing on the subject of physical intimacy. Everyone assumes there is nothing there, but I, a philosopher, can envision that you story allows very well for the probability of fellatio, anal intercourse, foot fetish, role playing, dressing up like suckling babies, lion taming, cross dressing. There is nothing you said about these, which means nothing - they could be there happening between the two of you or they could be not. There is no way of telling that, except that you did not deny it directly, so the possibilty of their existing is very real.

What you could do is this:

Pray that he change his ways. He is obviously connected to God, and he has most likely a line of communication established with Him already. If you want to get anywhere with this boy, you must petition God to tell the guy to go for it. The best way is to petition God with prayer, but you could also try to bribe God with donaiton to churches, with lighting candles, with selling your soul to God. (There are only two buyers for souls, and apparently God offers a better price, but unfortunately a slower payment schedule. Satan pays immediate cash, but his sales price is a loan, actually, and the interest rates will make you life hell. In fact, no amount of amortization deposits will ever get you out of that debt.)


I'm going to assume you're kidding with all of this, right?spock

I say she kicks him to the curb and let him be with his god if that's what he needs. There are lots of men who don't have issues (I've never met them, but that's what I hear) who would be very glad to be with her.

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Wed 04/13/11 09:39 AM
im not have sex with him bc he doesnt believe in it.but if he cant simply hold my hand or kiss me every now and then then it feels like im just his friend even though hes sayin im his girl

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Wed 04/13/11 09:44 AM

im not have sex with him bc he doesnt believe in it.but if he cant simply hold my hand or kiss me every now and then then it feels like im just his friend even though hes sayin im his girl


So what are you going to do about it, if anything?

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Fri 04/15/11 02:13 PM
Something seems not right here if he won't even kiss you. If he loves you, then surely he wouldn't be pushing you away. I say pushing away, i think i mean keeping you at arms length. I guess he will tell you what's really up when he's ready.

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Fri 04/15/11 07:46 PM
In my opinion...I'm going to call b.s. on his side for these reasons

If religion is the issue then he would of discussed what he can and can't do regarding his faith before the first kiss even happened.

If its due to your tooth hurting..its obvious that it doesn't hurt when you kiss him on the cheek.

He also put a power trip on you and is manipulating you to see what ur willing to put up with...in. other words..if u allow someone to treat you like that then the're going to.He's using you for something and taking your actions for granted

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Fri 04/15/11 07:51 PM

In my opinion...I'm going to call b.s. on his side for these reasons

If religion is the issue then he would of discussed what he can and can't do regarding his faith before the first kiss even happened.

If its due to your tooth hurting..its obvious that it doesn't hurt when you kiss him on the cheek.

He also put a power trip on you and is manipulating you to see what ur willing to put up with...in. other words..if u allow someone to treat you like that then the're going to.He's using you for something and taking your actions for granted
I agree, If he doesn't have herpes, There is a good chance he's Gay. Better to find out now than later.

Mitch

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Sat 04/16/11 06:50 PM
IMHO
You need to have a long serious talk. Because it sounds like he only wants you for a friend. There should have been some kind of natural progression in the relationship in that amount of time. Perhaps he likes you as a companion But not in a total physical way. It may be his religious upbringing also. Thats why you need to sit and talk. The only real way to know whats going on. I don;t mean you should have already slept together --thats your personal judgement call. BUT he kisses you then stops, and keep saying "we need to work on the friendship first"? That, to me, seems a bit odd.

Good Luck Sweetie.

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Sat 04/16/11 08:08 PM
Put him on the friend list.

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Sat 04/16/11 08:44 PM

so ive been dating this guy for almost for months now.his religious background is baptist i currently dont follow a religion but have visited a few different religions.

anyway,he used to kiss me the first month we began to date then he said we are moving to fast and wanted to work on being better friends,which i was fine with,but the last time he kissed me was on valentines day,and i brought it up to him that the last time we kissed was on that day but he told me we need to work on being really good friends first..

i told him im frustrated but he keeps saying we need to work om our friendship more but he says he still loves me.

so am i wanting to rush things or is he taking things a lil too sloe?


He's toooooooooo slow. Friend List. Next!!

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