I know I'm not as desirable as Brad Pitt, or as defined as most gay men. I have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder, no locking the door 5 times or counting everything, just everything has to be in it's place and white glove spotless), tend to be rather assertive in bed and always have fun no matter what i'm doing. Am I still single because I have a son?

probably not, but putting your son's needs ahead of your own is very important. sure we all want to have a special someone, or even a reliable friend, but don't sacrifice your relationship with your son to be with someone. there will be someone out there who will understand your situation and work with you. maybe even help you to raise your son in a healthy, loving environment. stay true to your son and don't compromise that relationship EVER. once your son is old enough to be on his own, you can focus back on your own life

Ese gave some good advice there and I also don't think your son has anything to do with you being single. :)

He's not oficially mine. He's actually older than I am but has the mentality of a 14 year old so he'll always be here. I do however treat him as if he is my biological son. He will always come first which is why the situation is somewhat complicated. Hopefully there will be someone out there who will understand.

:single for too long:

woah bro, my helmet's off to you my friend. i really admire someone who can take a non blood related person and treat them like family. that is some kind of responsibility. there are people out there that disown blood related family for very petty reasons. you are doing a very honorable service to humanity, and people like you make this cruel world tolerable. again, many thanks to you. may you be blessed ten fold

Working with those with special needs requires certain skills and understanding that unfortunately not everyone possesses. It's SO WONDERFUL that he has you (and you he). Soon enough, someone will come along that will love you both. Hopefully if I'm ever up in the Washington area (or you're down in the Sacramento area), we could meet up and talk sometime.

TY Bulldog. It's had it's rough moments but as I come from Russia ( a country that rations toilet paper) I will never have it so bad that no one has it worse than I and doesn't need my help.

Geekyguy I would enjoy that. If I can change a few plans around I might be able to make that possible in late August when we get back from Russia..

There's a TV movie in here, someplace. Hats off to ya. I don't think I could do it.

PS. I would bet that just getting your story out there will draw you some very nice attention.

Though the attention would be nice there is still the factor of the waterbrained people such as one guy I started to date who asked about a 3-way including my son. Bail was $800 :-D

OK. there are pitfalls in being a good guy.

I understand your situation. I wish I could have been there to tear that guy up with you.

I had a boyfriend when i was 20 and sister was 18, he used me to get my sister's virginity.

I had assault charges put against me because I cracked his windpipe while choking him.

Yikes!!

Fortunately the laws pertaining to harming the disabled here are strict enough that their mere presence had my case dismissed. The judge wanted to have him arrested for even thinking about it.

I was a little angry.

Wow, I have taken cared of people with special needs and I know for a fact it's no easy task. For you to take someone in, especially when he's not of your own blood is an admirable thing. I'm sure the one who will understand and see this will be worth waiting for. :)

I certainly hope so :)

I am curious how you know the person you are taking care of.

well i guess.. anyone if he ever loves you will for sure love your kids too.. or he might think first before being committed to you..

My brother and I were walking the 3 blocks from the apt in Manhattan to go eat pizza when he came up to us and asked for money to eat. Not only does he have the mentality of a 14 year old, he looks like one too. Only 5'4" tall with a very baby face. He's 23 now and has yet to have the need to shave even. We (my family) assumed for nearly a month that he was about 14 or 15.