I hope the meds they have nowdays are a lot better than they were back in 1986. My husband was on different meds for 2 years before he commited suicide.

First, I am so sorry for your loss MB



Now I have been there done there, and done that.
I have felt that the world be better without me!
Depression can do strange things to you.
You don't feel anything , you numb , you don't think
you are not really selfish in anyway, you want out , you do anything to get out.
The list can go on and on.
I am healing and will continue to heal day by day
Yes I attempted it and I Thank God that I am still alive!
Eachday that passes now is a blessing to me and I am so glad to be alive.
People that have depression have to help themselves before anyone else can help them. I learned that from experience.
I hope I didn't sound rude or misleading on the subject, but I do hope I answered some . but not all of your questions
((((((Everyone))))))

that sounded cold of me, i know, and no offense to u fallen, and i'm sorry for everyone's loss. i had a cousin that killed himself in 97, still hurts to think of everything he put us all through. he had everything going for him, full-ride college scholarship, star athlete, a family who loved him, he was the guy that everyone wanted to be.

just goes to show


the grass is not always greener

guess so

In younger days I thought real hard about this.
Was very unhappy & couldn't understand why.
An old man taught me to not let everyone else win.
Stay in there & keep going, things always get better,
just might be awhile.

Worked for me, got so busy "keeping going"
Didn't have time to do anything else.

How can people on depression help themselves as you say... they don't feel nothing, they're numb and they don't think. I'm confused about your posting and I'm not being mean or anything, it's just since my husband died,I've been trying so hard to understand this awful desease.

there is no understanding it

quit torturing yourself

it is no ones fault

it just is

they chose it

they did it

we deal with it

does that make it easier

i don't know

but like i said in my first post in this thread

one of my beast friends did

this less about two weeks ago

their choice

not anyone else's

and we (friend n family)are dealing with it

We have no choice,we have to deal with it the best we can and take it day by day.

Sorry, MB..I do not think there are any answers to the *Why*

This is a very touchy subject to me, since my son commmitted suicide in 2004. Why? is the question we all ask when something like this happens, and regardless of what we think, there is nothing we could have said or done to prevent it from happening..They find a way, once there mind is made up.

Grey,
I really don't think I understand this desease either and really only know from my experience that I had to want the help, to get the help. I didn't , by all means want anyone to take this as the only meaning of depression and I am sorry.
It was my experience and my meaning of it. I am so sorry of your lose, and so sorry for you being confused about it.
I thank god for my children and grandchildren for giving me hope of brighter days.
Each day I fight some of my feelings and each day I do get a little stronger. I don't think you fully recover from anxieties or depression, but that is how I think.
I am sorry for any confusion all, I didn't mean for that to happen

God bless you FallenAngel, you didn't do no harm, it's just me, trying to understand so bad that I get confused. Everybody is different when in a depression I guess. I'm so happy that you're doing better. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

((((((Grey)))))))

It is very complicated , I go eachday trying to understand it
Yes it's true about everyone is different...

Thank you everyone for letting me ramble

(((((((((((FALLEN)))))))))))))))

It is a difficult question to answer although I do like Robin's answer and some of the other answers given. Does sound better than giving the answer like an old song mentions, 'only the good die young.' I know when my Dottie told me before she passed away, 'You would be better off without me' was not something I really wanted to hear. I have heard people ask 'Why' when it comes to suicide. One sweet lady resident asks me at work all the time, "Why don't you just knock me in the head and get it over with?" Like what has been already said some just don't realize their own importance to us.

HI ((((((((Sandy))))))))

I just want to say I am sorry for your loss. And maybe I can help provide some sort of answer. As I was there myself last night. I had the note written, even have a cut on my wrist. I am not telling you to try to get pitty from anybody. I am telling you to maybe help provide some answers.

Sometimes life just gets to unbearable. Some times people just can not take it anymore. They hide behind there true feelings. Just because people do not want to see the pain that they are really in. And they figure that suicide is the only way. The only way to finally get some relief from the pain and sadness they are feeling.

I was closer then I had ever been just because a really close friend you I loved and trusted told me that maybe it was a good idea that I just give up. Why did I not do it? Because fear over powered my want to do so.

Is it an easy way out? Maybe but sometimes it is the only way that people know. I know this is not the greatest answer. But it is the best one that I know of.

Ken....Sorry for your loss...If you read upon depression it might give you some answers...The best things in life can still look dark...Depression masks any good in our lives and it all turns to darkness...The underlying causes are what the pain is about and all the good things in life can't take that pain away unless they choose to seek help!!!! Sometimes that pain becomes unbearable and they just want to quit hurting!!!!!!!!!

(((((((((((whisper)))))))))))))))))

Please get some help....We don't want to lose you...If you were that close...Please get some intervention ASAP...If you need to talk...I'm always here!!!!!!!!!

Thank you Native. But I did not tell the story to turn the focus onto me. I did it to maybe try to help somebody else to understand. I will be OK. Someday.

I know you didn't doll...BUT I am asking you anyway to get some help...For me...we love you and don't want to lose you or see you in pain...Like I said I am here if you need me!!!!!!!