over d years sex have been considere the piller of marriage instead of love.men cheat on their wives if their demand is not nswered and so do women.if this is true then were is d love?

It sometimes helps to go back to the beginning of the relationship and see what sparked it in the first place.

Perhaps because in an ideal world, sex would be the culmination of love.

We don't, however, live in an ideal world.

intimacy doesnt stop at the IN


it involves so much more, and you are right, people dont often do all the other things that should PRECEDE the IN , those things make the IN that much more wonderful,,,,but most are too tied up in immediate gratification to believe it,,,

Very true Padishka.

here is another


marriage is like the main course, sex is the desert


we may not always have desert after our main course, we may have it rarely, but if the MAIN course is tasty enough, desert wont be necessary as often


If we are ordering the MAIN course just to get to the desert, we are wasting effort and money...lol,,,, just get straight to the desert and dont lead people on

Sex is an exchange of energy.

Love is a bond.

Love and sex are overrated.

Who does the rating of these things?

But men dont just see it dat way.because they cheat,lie and betray.if love is d main course of marraige dats means is just naturall for men to cheat.because at d end of d day his heart belongs to one.

Wat exacly is ur point handsome.as a man tell d course of cheating.

I think the 'natural' to cheat thing was/is a copout for men with no will power or honor

cheating is about betrayal, not merely a physical exchange, marriage is about becoming one and (for many) 'forsaking' others


that isnt true for every couple and there are indeed OPEN marriages where BOTH people agree to not 'forsake' others, where there is not such an agreement and it is clear there is an expectation of exclusivity,,,,sharing ones body with someone else is a serious betrayal(and a dangerous one)

Bt nt all men c women az sex objects

The love is in the bank account!

Marriage and Love are not exclusive for damn sure.

Marriage is just another expression of love. Like when you get a house together or decide to celebrate the day you both got HIV tested.

Its basically saying, "I love you enough to put up with your silly a** for the rest of our lives."

When love is gone, the marriage isn't worth much anymore, but people make such a big deal out of the commitment that they will keep looking for love, but try to make the marriage work.

Pure Idiocy.

P.S. Sex is a side effect--A really fun one.

Its all about the nookie

Very true. I think that's why women get married! because then they have no more worries. The day can go from working to sitting at home and watching soap operas. As long as they put out and make dinner the free cash keeps coming.

To answer the question of this thread. Love I think is only the attraction to get to the sex.
No matter what all love is is an attraction. But when your married love is not all that important. Because your spouse is not going anywhere.
Now you still want to get laid and if one does not put out you have to find that satisfaction somewhere!

Wow I hope and pray most men don't think like this. GEEEEZE.

Seriously, if you came on this site looking to charm a woman or even get a date, this post will sure spoil any chance for that.

Your profile says you are looking for a woman for marriage.

I'm sorry. But best of luck with that anyway.