Depends on how open you can be about your sexual needs to your partner. Lots of people are too closed off when it comes to expressing their true sexual needs and desires.

... is caused by anger. Repressed anger towards your spouse can kill your sex life.

so get it worked out if you want your sex life to be restored.

Communicating sexual needs and desires is, usually, not a problem in a marriage. This is where wives usually say "I just don't need sex as much as you".

I dont think that's true. People might think they communicate, but chances are that they are too afraid to fully open up. Sex is fun, engaging, and pleasurable at its best. Why would anyone not participate in any activity that only has positives? In fact, i find that once you open up a woman, they tend to be more demanding of sex, not less.

Looks like what you are talking about is a lack of balance in your relationship...an "average woman"? Can you care to support that? Fact is when both people in a relationship help out without keeping count, then you have a lot more time to be intimate and loving, that and turning of the TV. As for sex, yes, i have had women who i have been consistently intimate with multiple times a day, who had kids and a job; then again, the were more than happy to communicate when things were overwhelming and when they needed help (and vice versa).

Looks like what you are talking about is a lack of balance in your relationship...an "average woman"? Can you care to support that? Fact is when both people in a relationship help out without keeping count, then you have a lot more time to be intimate and loving, that and turning of the TV.

I don't see myself as 'negative' about relationships or marriage, I'm just being realistic. I know, 'realistic' sometimes seems negative.

The perfect relationship is one with love, real love. It is not roll playing of husband and wife, or expectations. It is being sensitive to your partner, and communicating and loving.

Anger or disrespect or feeling disrespected will destroy your sexual feelings for you partner.

That is why they say "Never go to bed angry."

(Because you won't get any...)

I dont think that's true. People might think they communicate, but chances are that they are too afraid to fully open up. Sex is fun, engaging, and pleasurable at its best. Why would anyone not participate in any activity that only has positives? In fact, i find that once you open up a woman, they tend to be more demanding of sex, not less.

I don't know how many times I and friends that I've know tried talking to the wives about dwindling sex and the usual response was I just don't need it that much. Communication never resolved the issue.

but if you had sex 3 times a day, then you shouldn't be mad

Look at it this way. The romance and the excitement is ... gone.
Sex for a couple that has been together for a very long time becomes mechanical and meaningless. A lot of time there is no passion or even love involved. For a man, it just becomes a way to relieve his stress.

For a woman it feels as if she is simply being used if there is no passion or excitement.

I once told my husband who wanted to engage all night long to let me purchase for him a blow up doll- that way, I could get some sleep. I just was not enjoying it anymore. I had other things to do.

You're one of the few women who will state this. I was on another site and the ladies claimed husbands can't keep up with wives. Obviously, I have never believed that.