i won't dignify that with an answer, so no comment. btw it is impossible for a MAN to spew nonsense. men got this (ok that was a good one, so just a little answer hee hee)

if u want to try it and that is really the only reason u dont...you can just close the chat window after a brief notice like

"enjoyed our talk - gotta go now tho - hit me up later"


or some such - & then close the window

This woman is a genius.

Soufie,

Again I ask. When did I ever post anything like this?

Again.

apparently it was Mon 02/07/11 03:13 PM

Thank you, Soufie. I guess I'm going to have to choose my language much more carefully when you're around. It seems to me that we're all here to find people who have a mutual attraction of some kind. Sorry, but in my world, looks matter. I admire people who just don't care.

As for the question that I ACTUALLY posed, not the one you substituted for mine, the question stands. I've certainly gotten the cold shoulder from plenty of women who didn't like what they saw in my profile, so I am convinced that this is not a dilemma exclusive to me.

I won't expect anything helpful from you.

Privacy and anonymity? your on dating website with photo posted. your privacy and anonymity kinda went out the window when you did that. As far as your question goes, you have to do what ever is right for you. If you don't want to chat on im you can either be honest and say no i don't want to chat or continue evading the issue. Either way if the other party is interested your still rejecting them and it feels just as bad either way.

We're getting issues confuse here. My response about privacy and anonymity was about GPS.

It's been awhile since that posting, and I'm getting the hang of this email thing. Once I agree to launch into an email relationship, I feel obligated to maintain some kind of a friendly relationship, even if there's an obvious disconnect. The ones who don't like me just tend to drift off. I haven't had one that I've had to get out of yet. I'll deal with that when I come to it. If anything I've found myself neglecting a friendship when I got too busy with other exchanges. That makes me feel bad.

Oh, and about the IM thing, I think I've found a good explanation. I tell them that I prefer to use email so that I have the time to be sure that I'm saying exactly what I want to say. That is a true statement. One of the reasons I hate telephones is that I am always looking back and wishing I had said something differently, or not at all.

just like a woman. pop in, disagree with a guy, then run off to shop. sheesh


Wonder why that is. I've witnessed that on so many occassions...coming from both sides. Wouldn't it be a good idea to stick around and discuss it?? Seems to be always somebody storming out . Is it that important to have the last word?? <scratching head>

True story. I have a friend who owns a parrot. For some reason the parrot had learned to say, "Don't you walk out on me, Brad!" at the worst possible times.

no worries ...

I usually never real time chat ..

It's like texting .... I just not into it..

Not responding is generally saying you aren't interested and trying to sugar coat that may result in both parties being more hurt than they had to be or at least disgruntled don't feel bad you like what you like

as for the first question, who cares if its rude to not IM its more rude to give out the info and then just ignoring them till they go away...hehe I'm totally guilty of this sorry ppl

You may be right. Soufie seemed pretty darned interested when she wanted me to know how disgusting I am. I make no apologies for the qualities that attract me to somebody.

I care how rude it is. That's why I'm eager to explain up front why I don't like to IM. So far, nobody has complained. It's so much easier to keep an exchange from getting out of hand by doing it with email. I think there are ways to humanely euthanize an exchange that is going bad. It's much easier with email.

the point is, its not rude to avoid IM you keep the communication lines open via other means that you are more comfortable with if the other party finds that rude well, then it probably better you both move on

Ahh. I get your meaning.

I think it might be a good time to start a new thread.

I guess to a certain degree Ima little curious as to why u need help here with these decisions? Are you new to the net? Inexperienced w/ women - cuz honestly this is stuff it seems u shouldn't need to ask

that's my impression (rather than so much about whether looks matter)

I think you should read the whole thread. I think I explained myself pretty well.

no thanks

haha nice bulldog.