Um...let's see, you 'painted his house', 'cooked his meals', 'he was a pig' etc., etc., . Sounds to me like you were needy and now you're scorned.

Me thinks you invested and lost, but the investment was a loss to begin with. Now he's tossing it back in your face.

Yup, you're scorned, pretty sure.

Hope things get better and you find a real man who will treat you as you deserve. It sounds as though you have some fine attributes.

K.

i think you are all right here... i thank you all for helping me think things out.. sometimes you have to leave your past as such. even your friends of 15 yrs.. that yes it is obvious to me i have become an acquaintance.. and i guess i was hurt more from my friends actions than anything else.. for me i have grown as well this last yr and half and learned to make much better choices.. i am the only one to blame really in the most part for the choices i made.. the only thing i can do is to choose to make better choices in the future.
this isnt about my ex really at all.. and i know that in the past i have given way too much and get walked on for it.. so this is just another slap in face but from friends this time.. it is a real eye opener to me. time to cut the ties.. i only gave the few examples here so the situation could be more clear about my friends..i do know this.. this is something i would definitely do to my friend.. and i guess i should just go with that thought.. i need to continue to surround myself with people more like myself... so as to the note.. maybe i am not as much fun.. because we all do change.. obviously i have.. and so have my friends.. and lets face it its more fun to be around people that are more like you yourself..

thanks again everyone..

That's OK, I'm not fun either. Maybe we should be unfun together.

AHA - found you over here flirting instead of explaining the drama on the drama thread. hmmmmmmmmmm Totage, you seem so sweet & innocent????

Friends of 15 years seems like they were more self servent just like your ex, your better off doing what your doing now and thats by starting over, Hey like they say theirs more fish in the sea and what a better place to start with us here your new friends on mingle2, and boy are there a lot of fish in this sea. Welcome Buttons

I THINK that (no offense here) your feelings for him still remain to think of (WHAT YOU TWO HAD) and Now,,you THREE staying close,,KEEPS on reminding YOU,,that THEY LEAVE YOU OUT,,and IF I was you,,,TAKE a break apart as friends and drift away from THEIR world,,because simply,,,HE'S NOT worth YOU feeling like this,,whae HE MIGHT be DOING IT,,to make you angry,,or feel hurt?
So,,I would say bye bye and JUST BE YOU,,w/o all their drama..
Thats my thoughts here?? ITS YOU GIRL,,that has to FEEL GOOD,,,NOT THEM...

oo but I am

ha ha im thinking he is not innocent but sure the hell is sweet! that i do know!!!!!!!!! hugs to him

buttons he clearly never treated u well. and u prolly know in hindsight that u should have never put up with it but I guess my question is why are u surprised at his behavior now?


as for your other friends, have u told them that it bothers u?

oh geesh!! let me make this clear.. i am good friends with a different ex! and his gf.. very close to both of them! i was comparing this issue with a different ex and my old best friends.... which are no longer.. my ex < that has the gf that i am close to> never did me wrong he would never try to take my best friends.. he is not vengeful.. that is why he is still my friend. and how i met this beautiful person he is with.. this all started with vengeful ideas.. and my so called friends bit! i wont go into the rest of the bs he did to me when i left him.. cause i am not even caring about him lol what mattered to me was my friends..

lol!!!!!! yea as innocent as i am!

yes i know this.. and this is about my friends actions knowing much more than i have put here.which happened to be much more horrific than i posted here.. im not here to bash him.. just put a little that my so called friends knew though they knew all he did... who cares? that is way done and over with i learned a lot... what i had not learned is what friends can do to you as well.. never been dogged like that before.. i dont mean this to sound rude at all... just i dont care what my ex did to me anymore im over it totally! for sure lol!.. im learning to get over many things a lot faster anymore ... but new situations arise.. such as the friend issue.. this ex bf is old news to me lol!! yes i sure do know i did not deserve the treatments i have gotten... however.. i do know i dont put up with it from a bf or a friend now lol!.. noooo im not surprised at his behavior at all! there was much more he did to me when i ended it.. that i actually had to laugh at it . what bothered me was the part that he pulled my friends into it... and they bit.. that is all.. and yes i told him the other things he was doing to"punish me" and they were just a part of that... they told me no its not that way we like him.. but he is not you... then they invite him and not me! this is why i was upset.. they hung out with him <as a friend> and i became the"acquaintance"

ps... i posted on his 50th birthday pics.. this.. wow.. happy belated 50th.. looks like you all had a good time. im sorry i could not of been there... .. i made this post about the same time.. i took hm off my friends like 2 days later on that site... <he had not been back on> and like a week later he called me.. i missed call <though i dont know that i would of answered it> i have not returned the call.. and dont plan to...im done with it... friends do not hurt friends.. at least i do not! and after i had that talk with them... in aug of 2009.. then this happens in nov of 2010 im sure they dont really care.. of my feelings.. since aug of 2009 i have done things with them< when they wanted something> most of the time anyway... now i understand why before christmas of 2010 they wanted to pay me to wrap some of their gifts for them for 5 hours? it all falls into place for me! i only wanted to spend some time with them! and that was it..i guess guilt wanted them to pay me to do that.. cause they saw it as.. not something you do with your friends...<cause i wasnt a friend> get it? lol

YES!!!!