also i have never done anything bad.. my gawd with no job i loaned them 1500! to be paid back the next month! well... i got it 3-4 months later!.....i have even been talking to him after a yr and half! he is still telling me he loves me! and.. i never asked cause i so not care! even if he did not have this gf for a yr now!. im done!.. blah i dont want him! but wow we do have some history.. a bit.. would not mind talking to him sometimes. now... to add.. i dont forget.. but forgive is good.. forgive and move on!.. at first he got with this chick.. <that he was with the yr and half we broke up> and they made a childish game that she was preggo< hell no! not that i want to ever be again! i am done lol i have 3 kids! youngest at this time was 18!> he has one that is about the same age that he regretted ever having to boot!> oh and they were buying a house< like i wanted to do with him> and also< they were getting married> like i asked after 6 yrs of bs< cause i already knew he would not!<cause he was using me!> i gave him the ultimatum... after 6 yrs! if u loved me u would marry me... i left him after i heard the excuses i knew i would<for verification> and ill never go back.. but to play the childish games a month later to get the gal he dated for a yr and half whilst we broke up to say she was preggo?..omg! i am not that stupid!> and her to be that desperate to do such a thing? im sorry i had to just laugh!> i dont care! get it people? this gal he is with is a different gal... i call her the " next victim " facts are its not about me and him that is over... perhaps my friendship with the couple be over too?

no i like your inputs! please dont shut up!.. i have verbally talked to them about hurting me before this! they seemed to not call me.. and seemed to be hanging out with him... for a few months! like 6 months! so i did cry and tell the gal! things seemed to get a little better after.. but not what they were.. then tonight i find out this.. about his 50th! and i was not even told of it.. he posted pics of it on fsacebook..

Me, I wouldn't talk to them anymore, just act they never existed, but that's me.

thats what if i shold do.. i did do that the first incident... i am wondering.. if they were what i thought they were! i had said i dont care if they hang out.. but to put him over me is a different story.. and for a 5o birthday is this not putting him over me? also.. if they were friends... the way he used me why would one put him over me? when i have been there for them for money and for funerals of mom and brother inlaw? he has been there for nothing but to treat their friend like ****, and use them as well!

If they were really your friends they would have kicked his a** and talked you out of putting up with him. JMO

well.. i have to say this. i thank each and every one of you for your input... my obvious output twords this situation is apparent! though i would love to have some more! i like all inputs in every direction! i have a very open mind.. and though i think my mind is made up i could with good input change it! but i think now i know i had reason to cry a few times over this.. and think this issue out... though never had to do that with friends before... we all have new encounters in life no matter how old we are... and i thank u for all of your advice!

You didn't deserve to be treated that way at all.

im thinking u are right though i have never had a jealous? feeling over my friends before? im not even sure if im jealous... but i wondered.. i would of never of done that to them!.. i am having an issue over what is jealous and what is just plain hurt..

see... i like when i get all kinds of thoughts.. however.. really i am seeing the same thoughts on this so far.. i would love to have the opposite thoughts.. and reasoning's why.. to learn from..

You should learn you don't deserve to be taken advantage of and mistreated. Learn how to better spot the losers so you don't fall for another one.

I was kinda thinking the same thing.


The only other viewpoint I can give is if you want to retain at
least some type of relationship with them...just not take them too
seriously. Like with any relationship, there's good and bad, focus
and chaos, true and unbiased attention...and divided and misguided
attention. They seem to want to stay friends, but not at the level
it might have been? Now you kind of have to decide whether to go
with the flow with the new level it's at, or cut ties, which is hard
when you've come to care about people.

there are two options here, and you're going to think i'm an a$$ get in line

first in here you seem to be 'miss perfect' frankly i don't buy it.

so either

1. you're lying through your teeth,
or
2. you suffer from delusions of grandeur

either one is annoying to be around,

maybe he's just more fun to hang around, well they thought so anyway

im far from perfect... i dont think anyone is an azz for one.. and what is grandeur?

real friends wouldn't of let you been taken advantage of


some friends

also what makes u assume that i am not as much fun to hang out with? im curious? and why am i annoying?

dont know that i know what "real" is. i have questioned that before with guys i have dated however not friends for that many years.. though i do understand my ex is likeable and social.. but i wonder if over 6 yrs for him and 15 for me.. that he should of been invited over me? to a thing as important as a 50 yr birthday? just makes me think is all.. and as isac says.. or what i hear.. i should be thinking..

thanks all im off to bed.. still would like more input its really hard for me to swollow but i will!! night all!

Good night.

I would say time to make those friends, aquaintances and leave them behind, turn the page, you have every reason to feel hurt, they intentionally let you know where you stand, and now it is time to do the same, let them know the feelings are mutual.
Whatever reason they chose to invite him/them over you, is irrelevant, doesn't matter, and don't let it bother you, at this point damage is done, don't look back, forget it ( hard to do because they were YOUR friends), you will be better off in the long run, and know it will be their loss aswell, as much as it hurts you to lose friends, knowing what kinda people they turned into... would you want keep them close anyways? This is very much an adultry of friendship.

sorry that you are upset about the ex going to party with your so called friends. ya it happens, maybe birthday boys woman likes the exs woman and not you. happens all the time.

Im more curious about why you stayed in a relationship {if a person could call what you had with this guy that} so you did all this extra work on his house and yard work included and had no say over the damn food that he bought,? and had to pay rent on top of that and he raised your rent.

maybe its time for new friends,