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#2. (this is more of a belief of mine) I've found that somewhere around the age of 50 maybe 55 men become almost unable to function alone. They begin to become clingy and start thinking about dying alone. So when a woman is in her sexual prime she has more independant type feelings at around the same age a man is going in the opposite direction. I think this is also where it rolls in the older man dating a younger female. (I'm not knocking young women here) Younger woman tend to be needy, looking for stability or someone to take care of them the whole "father figure" mentality. So I bet if I placed a personal ad like this I would get a lot of prospects: Single older woman in great shape, trained as a nurses aid, and loves to cook, has a big screen t.v., looking for a single or divorced man, 50 or older who wants to be pampered and taken care of in his old age.  pretty funny the way u put it, but I think shes right - men my age usually drive me nuts - retired men - "just say NO" |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Its a one way street when it comes to giving labels. Guys can date who they want, when they want, as many times as they want and dont usually get labled anything more than maybe a player or an *******. This is probably the worst thing i've ever heard but it relates entirely to the way people think of that. A key that opens many locks is called a Master key. A lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock. and more often it is men who have been opened by many keys Ima looking for one who has not been AND I totally agree with J - people who use labels and judge are azzh@les |
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Most people are unhappy with their lives for a simple fact they don't understand themselves. They believe the world is a one way path everything that happens to them is already set in stone. That they were dealt a bad hand or were born unlucky. They never sit back and rationalize before hand that every decision they make impacts what is going to happen to them in their long term and immediate future. Once you understand this and have the ability to assess all plausible outcomes of even the smallest of desicions you make you start to see how you can change your future in to whatever you want it to be. Not saying if you make all good decisions you will be the next Anne Hathaway or George Clooney but you can make life easier and happier for yourself.
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Most people are unhappy with their lives for a simple fact they don't understand themselves. They believe the world is a one way path everything that happens to them is already set in stone. That they were dealt a bad hand or were born unlucky. They never sit back and rationalize before hand that every decision they make impacts what is going to happen to them in their long term and immediate future. Once you understand this and have the ability to assess all plausible outcomes of even the smallest of desicions you make you start to see how you can change your future in to whatever you want it to be. Not saying if you make all good decisions you will be the next Anne Hathaway or George Clooney but you can make life easier and happier for yourself. I am not sure what you are getting at unless you are referring to regret at sexual promiscuity...IOK but yes, there is a qualitative difference in the lives of people who regularly and typically make sound decisions. I was married for a long time and had only 1 partner during that time. Since my divorce I 've had a few partners and I do not regret one touch one kiss or one shared moment- each of those men -ex boyfriends- was a gift to me- treasured moments in time - if nothing else they helped me to prove to myself that the ex husband was a fool to want rid of me. Ima good woman and I have those men to thank for teaching that to me. and I dont think I did anything wrong in being with them. I think sweet friend that I have been making decisions on my own since B4 u were in diapers. but I like ur insights anyway - nice post 
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The only thing that matters is you are happy with yourself and about yourself. I was making a very vague point as to people happiness in general. It sounds like you know yourself well and are happy where you are at in life now so I would say keep doing whatever makes you feel this way. And for my age don't judge a book by its cover I made numerous bad decisions in my life I finally decided to listen to everyone around me who was much older than me and came to the notion that I really didn't know **** and to just follow what people who were much older than me were telling me. I maybe 28 but the majority of my friends consist of people well in to their 50's and try to mold myself around their wisom.
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Most people are unhappy with their lives for a simple fact they don't understand themselves. They believe the world is a one way path everything that happens to them is already set in stone. That they were dealt a bad hand or were born unlucky. They never sit back and rationalize before hand that every decision they make impacts what is going to happen to them in their long term and immediate future. Once you understand this and have the ability to assess all plausible outcomes of even the smallest of desicions you make you start to see how you can change your future in to whatever you want it to be. Not saying if you make all good decisions you will be the next Anne Hathaway or George Clooney but you can make life easier and happier for yourself. Feel like a road trip to PA this weekend?
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Well on the topic of the thread and trying to go with the flow of the conversation here. Usually woman that are more mature make a better partner for me. No matter what their scop is ( one night or one relationship wise). I am not certain why this is but I have a few guesses. The obvious one is I am mature which is true but I think there might be more to it. Probably a little wiser then men twice my age in certain ways. And nieve as any of my peers in others.
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Most people are unhappy with their lives for a simple fact they don't understand themselves. They believe the world is a one way path everything that happens to them is already set in stone. That they were dealt a bad hand or were born unlucky. They never sit back and rationalize before hand that every decision they make impacts what is going to happen to them in their long term and immediate future. Once you understand this and have the ability to assess all plausible outcomes of even the smallest of desicions you make you start to see how you can change your future in to whatever you want it to be. Not saying if you make all good decisions you will be the next Anne Hathaway or George Clooney but you can make life easier and happier for yourself. Feel like a road trip to PA this weekend? anytime lol.....I actually went to school in PA how far from Blairesville? |
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I don't know, I see a lot of younger women here chasing older men. I don't know if the young set has enough pateince with the older men. One definately needs that. Life is rush rush enough.It takes all types to make the world go round. Jealousy sometimes rears its ugly head too. Just not into the younger women that much. I have been where most of them are already going and that makes me a bit uncomfortable. |
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The only thing that matters is you are happy with yourself and about yourself. I was making a very vague point as to people happiness in general. It sounds like you know yourself well and are happy where you are at in life now so I would say keep doing whatever makes you feel this way. And for my age don't judge a book by its cover I made numerous bad decisions in my life I finally decided to listen to everyone around me who was much older than me and came to the notion that I really didn't know **** and to just follow what people who were much older than me were telling me. I maybe 28 but the majority of my friends consist of people well in to their 50's and try to mold myself around their wisom. People who are older often have excellent insights but, in my opinion, it's important for you to find quality associates and friends in your own age group as well. There are many your age who make sound decisions everyday. You just have to find them - go places & do things that attract generally stable & intelligent people. Good luck to in the growth of your decision making skills - happy to talk when/if ever ya want I have often enjoyed the company of those a few years older than myself also |
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Well on the topic of the thread and trying to go with the flow of the conversation here. Usually woman that are more mature make a better partner for me. No matter what their scop is ( one night or one relationship wise). I am not certain why this is but I have a few guesses. The obvious one is I am mature which is true but I think there might be more to it. Probably a little wiser then men twice my age in certain ways. And nieve as any of my peers in others. anyone is naieve in a situation where they have no experience. for most, I think our first instinct is to trust people unless we're given a reason not to. That's kinda naieve, I guess. the wisdom stems from this. I like men who are responsible and know what they want. For example JJ up there strikes me as quite immature. He was in the middle of a very positive discourse with me. but his head was quite easily turned by flash of leg and an "open" invitation. I like a man who is not so easily distracted... (he's too young for me & I wasn't "interested" - just illustrating an example) ya - my expectations aren't so much high as they are expectations of mature behavior how's the programming going? |
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I like men who are responsible and know what they want. For example JJ up there strikes me as quite immature. He was in the middle of a very positive discourse with me. but his head was quite easily turned by flash of leg and an "open" invitation. I like a man who is not so easily distracted... (he's too young for me & I wasn't "interested" - just illustrating an example) It was not a distraction from anything.....I took the "invitation" as an opening to a conversation. So my response was in a joking manner. But being that a comment was made to me I would find it impolite not to acknowledge someone speaking to me (as if you have read any thread I have posted in I have responded to all those who took time to say something to me). My follow up question was then based on the fact I lived in eastern PA for a year and really liked it up there. And in the course of banter I asked how far from where I lived did she live so I could share my thought's of how much I enjoyed PA. The notion of me actually traveling 400 miles to spend a weekend with someone is ridiculous. A: I have responsibilitied here B: An action as reckless as meeting someone in person after having said 3 words to them online is ridiculous. |
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I like men who are responsible and know what they want. For example JJ up there strikes me as quite immature. He was in the middle of a very positive discourse with me. but his head was quite easily turned by flash of leg and an "open" invitation. I like a man who is not so easily distracted... (he's too young for me & I wasn't "interested" - just illustrating an example) It was not a distraction from anything.....I took the "invitation" as an opening to a conversation. So my response was in a joking manner. But being that a comment was made to me I would find it impolite not to acknowledge someone speaking to me (as if you have read any thread I have posted in I have responded to all those who took time to say something to me). My follow up question was then based on the fact I lived in eastern PA for a year and really liked it up there. And in the course of banter I asked how far from where I lived did she live so I could share my thought's of how much I enjoyed PA. The notion of me actually traveling 400 miles to spend a weekend with someone is ridiculous. A: I have responsibilitied here B: An action as reckless as meeting someone in person after having said 3 words to them online is ridiculous. [/quot yes I understand - I was trying to illustrate an example - it's something that a lot of men (and prolly women too) do - I think they think it makes them look more "desired" to the woman they are with- but it is something in particular to me, anyway (IMO) that separates the men from the boys - no matter what the chronological age is - I know u dint mean anything by it - but it just happened to illustrate my point well a lot of people don't notice stuff like that - but I do - I look for small but significant things that tell whether a man is made of leather, or (yuck) pleather (and I'm not saying that you are - really your more leather than pleather big guy)  Sorry for any offense |
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wait wait wait you described me as "quite immature" yet in your next post you said you were trying to illustrate an example. An in that latest post you described me as leather (which i'm taking it means genuine) if that is true then you made an example from a model that does not fit the arguement. Both those posts can not exist at the same time because they are polar opposites from each other. Either i'm immature or I'm genuine......these 2 attributes can not coincide.
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Thu 03/03/11 07:23 PM
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wait wait wait you described me as "quite immature" yet in your next post you said you were trying to illustrate an example. An in that latest post you described me as leather (which i'm taking it means genuine) if that is true then you made an example from a model that does not fit the arguement. Both those posts can not exist at the same time because they are polar opposites from each other. Either i'm immature or I'm genuine......these 2 attributes can not coincide. well either you were genuinely immature, or, more likely, in the situation-I was illustrating it appeared you were I think it appeared that way but as you explained it you weren't and consider, any of us "leather types" can have the pleather moment now & then I still have them - prolly always will eh 
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ight I feel better now..........so what going on with you tonight? passing time or busy busy?
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Fri 03/04/11 04:17 PM
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ight I feel better now..........so what going on with you tonight? passing time or busy busy? sorry, I went to bed right after my last comment last night. With this new job I have I get up pretty early - but tonight is Friday. So I will prolly have a little dinner & a glass of wine Last night I wasn't busy when I had talked with you - but I had been early I had 2 back to back fitness classes and was WIPED glad all is OK I appreciate my friends BTW where we u in Pa? I'm from outside of Phila. |
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Just outside of Pittsburg in Blairesville
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Just outside of Pittsburg in Blairesville OK - don't know that part of PA as well - but good to see you making friends and being a charming young man on here! where are you from ? |
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Lovely Richmond, VA
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