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Topic: what do you say?
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Wed 07/04/07 07:26 AM
Ok, what do you do if a guy really likes you and asks you to go on a date with him but you just aren't ready for that? Do you say no, or what?

Some of you may know who I'm talking about if you read my thread last night, first person.


Any advice is welcome and much needed, please help!

Happy 4th to all by the way.

newtosatsuma's photo
Wed 07/04/07 07:33 AM
Be honest tell him exactly how you feel, I am sure he will nderstand and if he does not that is his problem.

thedoctor's photo
Wed 07/04/07 07:33 AM
you're not ready to date OR you're not ready to date him? didn't catch your post....I'll look. Happy 4th to you too!

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Wed 07/04/07 07:35 AM
well i'd normaly say be honest with him .. and let him know ur not ready .. but being that its likely he might see this thread.. he'll know then how you feel.. so up to you what you do .. let him know ur not ready .. or let him find this thread but thats not a guarentee he will find it..

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Wed 07/04/07 07:41 AM
I've been in that position, too -- and when you're not ready, it's a REALLY bad idea to let yourself be put in a situation where someone else WANTS you to be ready.

Anyone who cares at all will respect your feelings. And they won't push you. I say, just be honest. His reactions will tell you a lot about what kind of person he is.

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Wed 07/04/07 07:43 AM
Lex, I agree completely. If he is sincere, he will respect your decision and give you a little more time. I mean, it's not like you are saying you're not interested, you just need more time.

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Wed 07/04/07 07:45 AM
BE HONEST, HE WILL RESPECT YOU JUST FOR YOUR HONESTY, MAY STILL BE HURT BUT HE WILL GET OVER THE HURT TOO. DONT DO ANYTHING YOU DONT WANT TO DO . JUST BE HONEST, ESPECIALLY WITH YOURSELF. HAVE A GOOD DAY.flowerforyou HOPE FLOWERS PUT A SMILE ON YOUR FACE.

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Wed 07/04/07 07:48 AM
doctor- it's a little bit of both. i just got out of a three year relationship and i'm scared to fall back in love.

i have told him that i don't think i'm ready and he said we could go slow but i don't know what i should do about it.

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Wed 07/04/07 07:51 AM
blues- thank you for the flowers, they brightened my day and i hope you have a lovely day as well!

thedoctor's photo
Wed 07/04/07 07:57 AM
go at YOUR own pace and trust what your heart tells ya'! I know that you'll do the right thing!...flowerforyou

lady_blues's photo
Wed 07/04/07 08:00 AM
HI, YOUR VERY WELCOME, MY ADVICE OR OPINION IS FROM THE HEART OF BEING A MOTHER OF 4 KIDS AND ALSO SHARING THE SAME FEARS JUST 3 YRS AGO. LEAN ON YOUR FRIENDS TODAY. HAVE A GOOD ONE.

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Wed 07/04/07 08:05 AM
Thanks doctor!

Blues- that's the other problem he is the only person I can talk to on here and my other friends won't understand.

heatherrae's photo
Wed 07/04/07 08:27 AM
just tell him you really like him but want to just keep it to pen pals for a little bit longer

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Wed 07/04/07 08:30 AM
Morning sexy Heather flowerforyou

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Wed 07/04/07 08:38 AM
that's a great idea heather! thank you.

thank you all, you have no idea how much you have helped me!! have a great holiday!!!!

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Wed 07/04/07 10:11 AM
just tell him you are not ready, you need time to sort out your feelings. if he is unable to understand this, then he is too pushy and you don't need that. GOOD LUCK. ^_^





countrybelle6471's photo
Wed 07/04/07 06:19 PM
maybe just say you want to get to know him a little better.

Joshy44's photo
Thu 07/05/07 11:48 AM
You wanna know Josh thinks? Of course you do because my opinion always matters. laugh


I say if he's a great dude then he'll wait for you because if you're not ready then he should understand. I'm sure if he thinks you could be his one then he'll do whatever it takes.. and I hope you do the same for him.

Understanding and trusting eachother is what relationships are based on.


And sex. laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 07/05/07 11:50 AM
I thought it was sandwiches????huh laugh laugh

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Thu 07/05/07 11:51 AM
Nope. laugh laugh

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